Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Current Situation
-Being black/foreign does result in attention, people do look, people are curious, we are different(and increases the more south you go) , this probably lead me to believe that girls would be more in tuned to have sex.
-Before going on my exchange i was basically at one of my lowest points still, depressed with the whole ex situation, no friends, no other girls, no nothing. So coming to mexico and instantly making friends, having fun times, and getting attention from girls for the first time in months was huge for me compared to what i came from and as a result of that misinterepted how easy it really was.
-I was doing LOTS of approaches so the results i did get were probably just standard given the amount i put in, but that didn't register at the time since before that back in usa in my depression was getting 0 results, so the results i got here seemed HUGE compared to that, even though they probably weren't even that impressive.
- I have a lot happy good memories associated with mexico, so i guess i just figured it would happen again.
- Lots of other people getting laid, since there were so many internationals hearing like 6 different sex stories, from 6 different guys seems like a lot but it really could just mean they had sex with only 1 girl. So if everyone just fucked 1 girl but referenced that over 200+ international guys it would seem like a lot of fucking is going on but say in reality everyone just fucked once.
Again i'm not making excuses, i'm just trying to personally figure out what i was thinking before. I own up 100% to being wrong. I feel gulity about it, i don't like being wrong, and leading people on to believe something is going to be one way and it turns out the other. I pretty much gave up with day game for now by reframing and saying "well i was wrong, as played the time of going out to campus getting numbers, calling numbers, going on day 2's, taking L's, is better spent playing poker, making money, and going to the spot here and there"
At the sametime though, i'm feeling like flawless did in this post http://flawlesspua.blogspot.com/2008/08/getting-really-distracted-and-forming.html...... And yes i understand that getting laid is very important and everyone thought it was going to be really easy and that i was wrong etc, but after coming to that conlusion it still doesn't have to be an L. Were in a fortunate position where we can travel and have more freedom than our friends back home. And for me as much as i enjoy getting laid, i value having fun times with friends a lot more. Were all here together so we might as well make the best of it and go out thurs-sat night or something for our own fun and enjoyment. Like back during my exchange the whole point of going out at night was to go out, get drunk together, and let the fun flow from there. (obviously everyone wants to get laid, but that wasn't the reason for going out)
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Where do i start
Right now i'm in Las Vegas traveling around with carl, nir and sean. Last month we were in austin texas living literally right in the party on 6th street.(we step outside and people are ALL over the place)
This has been a very vauable experience for me. First off i'm traveling with 3 guys that i really enjoy being around, hanging out laughing having good times (even though sometimes tendicies of living so close to the same people can be annoying at times....can someone say messy!), i value this a lot. Secondly, what i've learned from poker in this time frame has been amazing, and i owe a lot to carl and nir for sweating me, playing sessions of there own, giving there opinions etc, and even sean, just being able to talk over hands and explain different things to him has helped me a lot.
The main issue now is, us all being around each other really makes staying on task hard, like right now i'm up at 6:12am in the morning. I should be following a strict schedule that has me playing a shitload, getting sweated a shitload, reading a particular amount of hands, daily. But with everyone here getting distracted is so easy. Someone wants to go out, i might of had a good day or something, alcohol is right there and before i know it i'm out partying, then eating at the palace station afterwards and going to bed at 7:00am and waking up at 4:30pm all mixed up.
This has been a problem for me and i know carl for awhile, managing our time. it seems like such an easy thing to do in theory, but the pratice just seems to always fail us. Its even worst now since were in the same house, before i feel like us talking on aim and the phone would be partly to blame with our wasting of time, but now that were in together in person wasting time is easy as fuck, and to top it off we even have a pool table here. And honestly i can't blame anyone but myself for wasting time, i just need to have better self control and will power.
Were going to mexico for the next 2 months. I'm looking forward to this a lot, since i obviously had the time of my life there. The lifestyle i was living was so fun. I remeber the first 2 months was just pure partying at night and hanging out with people having bbqs and shooting the shit during the mid to late afternoon. It was such a social diverse thing. I remeber when Jordan had the idea to throw a big cookout party at our house right at the begininng of the semester. Just so many good times.
I've really talked mexico up big, espcially the girl situation. Being black/looking different really seems to get a response out of a big percentage of the chicks there. So carl,sean and nir all have really big expectations which they rightly should, since based on my experience everyone i knew there had great success with the chicks (non spot chicks :) ) at the sametime though its not as easy as show up with your cock out. The mexican culture is interesting in there customs. Some of them have this religious programming that puts a block on a lot nuts. So L's do exist, logistics still exist as well too, but as a whole to put it in poker terms were all A LOT more +ev in mexico than in the usa for getting laid.
I remeber getting numbers was so fucking simple that i had a huge spread sheet full of them. My down fall came at having a really clingy jealous gf that was hard to get away from to actually have a day 2, still finding myself (my identity at that point was still just being molded, i like to look as this experience as my "rebuilding" since the whole reason i went to mexico in the first place was to escape a really depressing ex gf/loss of identity/purposeless situation in the usa), not wanting to "put in the slighest amount of work" (i was still keeping my budget a bit tight so i didn't like the idea of having to go out and spend money and end up not fucking THAT night/day, since i had to really set my Day 2's up to times and situations where my gf at the time was busy or away that i needed to get the results fast since i couldn't have consistant meet ups that would eventually result in sex), trying to cut down on the nights i spent out, after the first 2 months of going out NIGHTLY and getting drunk i had to slow down. Me and jordan both started eating really healthy and limiting ourselves to 3 nights of heavy partying a week.
Despite this i still was able to get some results (easy easy easy numbers, eaaasy day 2's, makeouts, sex (3 not counting my gf or spot) i'd of never got in usa under the same circumstances.
Now for the next 2 months in mexico i haven't really figured out what my plan is going to be for the chicks. I still want to play a huge amount of poker. So managing that with chicks/social life is gonna be interesting. Numbers will build up fast, translations will be an issue with some chicks but not a devestating one, lots of day 2's, maybe even mistaken overlaps of us talking to the same girls lol. The other issue is mexican girls are very jealous, so once people start hooking up, the connections fall etc and they become very possesive. There will also be a fair amount of international students there that'll be cool to fuck/befriend, which could easily lead to more L's since they love to travel to other places in mexico and i could see someone getting invited a long a trip with them. So all and all its going to be very interesting to see how our schedules are going to play out. the schedule i want to have is playing during the day and going out at night, the problem is that though is going out at night means getting in at fucking 5am, having girls come back, going somewhere else with a chick or a group etc, so bed time turns into somme early ass hour then waking up mid afternoon and not having the time to put in poker, so i may actually have to be lame and limit going out to thurs/fri/sat (other than the first week), or maybe having some lighter nights where we have get togethers at our place or something.
Well i should probably go ahead and call this a night or morning .......
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
I dream big
So once poker was introduced to me, like a whole new world opened. Its like the answer, freedom and i find it really fucking fun to play (obviously shit goes bad at times but i'll accept that as my boss happily over any real boss in some 9-5 job that i'm a drone in making someone else rich while way they live there life of freedom because my success barriered ass lets them.)
Its like poker is this amazing thing.
So i've made the decision that, thats how its going to play out for me, i will play poker for a living, i'll do whatever it takes to make this happen, its either this happens or i die in the process of making it happen. I probably should be posting this in my poker blog but i'll probably just make this my universal blog from this point on.
My plan now to dedicate myself even more is this
Daily - Play a min of 8hours, review 10hands (5 of my own) on 2plus2 day (read the hand then in a note pad write down what i would do and why before reading responses, then review responses, then save hand to discuss with coach, once my opinion becomes better i'll post my response out on the forum) and make at least 2 videos a week of a session to have coach review. I'll also save hands i have any confusion about to post on twoplustwo and send to my coach. I think this is a good plan and should really improve my play. I'll field it see how it works and i'll be willing to do whatever else i need to do to reach success.
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Were Products
You always hear people say, its just a numbers game, talk to a lot of girls you'll get some of them. Which is true, it is a numbers game. You are a product and your business is selling yourself. If we put game aside and just took say 20 random guys, there all there own product. Now make each of them do 100 approaches and each will get different results based on lots of factors. Theres tons of factors that effect your products success. (these are in no particular order)
1. The demand for your product (this is basically its own category since this effects how high the other factors need to be)
2. Your looks/style
3. Core confidence
4. Humor/wit
5. Your entitlement
6. Tolerance to social pressure
7. Persistance
8. Positivity
9. Values/Beliefs
10. body language
11. Voice
12. Eye Contact
13. Vibe
14. your identity
15. Lifestyle
16. Sex appeal
and the list can go on and on if i sat down and thought about it longer and lots of stuff could be categoriezed and clumped together then broken down even more but this is the general idea. Now if you look at everything and for each category you use a scale of 0-10. 0 being the lowest and 10 being the highest. Each of our 20 guys has a different score for each category. So say guy 1 has looks of 6, and demand of 8 and everything else is a 4, guy 2 only has a 1 demand in the location hes in with his targets and 6 looks with 4 for the rest of the categories. Guy 1 is going to be doing better so for guy 2 to sell his product hes going to have to raise each category as much as he can (making his product extremely good) this could in turn increase his demand as well.
So when were out there working on our game were improving our skills in each category. Were going out into sets being social practicing different things, this is giving our personality ranges that we can use, we develop humor, the ability to hold court, stay cool under pressure, be non needy, offer value, connect with people, vibe with people etc, going out builds these ranges up which enhances your product. With incredible game your numbers for each category will be hitting the 10 mark other than demand because thats not something you can personally control other than putting yourself in a location where your product is high demand. So with game your points are high for each factor this will allow you to still sell your product in areas where the demand is really low.
I think this is where the confusion with the whole Looks issue comes into play. So lets look at an example
Guy 1 is a hot built white guy with a looks rating of 9, the other categories are under developed at 3, he's located in Orange county CA and is targeting white girls 18-28 so his demand is high at nearly a 10.
Guy 2 is an Asian guy with looks at 6, everything else is the same as guy 1 but his demand is low at a 2.
So its obvious that these guys aren't going to get the same result. Guy 1 is going to be getting laid while guy 2 is going to be stratching his head saying its the looks.
The difference here is the demand in the target market. Because guy 2 has a small demand, hes jsut not going to be able to sell his product the same way guy 1 can with a high demand. So what does guy 2 do, he still wants those targets even though his demand is low so how can he change this? Well the answer is obvious, he puts in lots of work to raise each of the factors i listed before (working on game). So lets say he puts in 5hard years in the field and gym. Hes built nice now so his looks are now an 8, hes also got all the other factors to a 10 now, hes living the life he wants, hes funny, has communication down pat, etc. Because of all this he now goes back to the same target group to sell his product. Now his apperance has gone up, so since that is a way of offering value in your product that might or might not have an effect on the demand points. So lets say since asian guys have particular stereotypes associated with them in the usa even with his improved looks his demand has only risen from a 1 to a 4. But the glory here is once guy 2 speaks to the girl, since all his factors are at level 10, hes offering value on a whole new level. Since guy 2 has made himself into a REALLY good product the girls can't turn him down.
They saw the product but still didn't feel demand for it, but once testing the product out they realize how good it is and now the demand has actually risen as a result of him talking to her, his demand for the girl hes talking to could easily be peaking out at a 10 now.
So guy 1 is still fucking chicks left and right not putting much effort into it, where guy 2 had to put in 5 hard years worth of time. so guy 1 because of his looks (looks going beyond hotness points also his race, style) get him that automatic high demand. Where as guy 2 since hes asian doesn't have the same demand as guy 1 in this location with this target group because of different stereotypes and factors having to do with his target group (how they were raised, friends, family, social factors). So by saying looks its also saying apperance, race, style, culture. Guy 2 wasn't ugly when he first started he was a 6 which is above average, if a white guy with the same starting stats as guy 2 was put into the equation his demand would still be higher than guy 2's.
So thats what game comes down to, making your product the best you can to increase your demand to your target consumers.
One more thing that has to be noted is this. Another important factor is how hard you sell your product. If a guy with 6looks, 4demand for his target group, and 3's for every other category, put 0 work into selling his product, he probably won't sell anything. But if he put forth even 1 effort into selling in time he would eventually sell something, increase it to 6 and hes able to sell a product a month, increase it to 10 (10 meaning his out there approaching girls left and right and pushing it all the way to the end until they tell him to fuck off) and hes selling 3-5 a month maybe even more, if he improved his other factors he'd be a monster.
So thats why guys call it a numbers game or getting lucky. A lot of my friends are like this me included at this point, our products are actually above average, but there not so good that someone would just approach us to buy them. We put 0-1 effort into selling our product though and end up making no sales or the ocassional "lucky" sale that comes from our .5 averaged effort over a period of 6months.
Thursday, November 1, 2007
Update Time
So right now i'm not working on game. Not doing cold approaches, not doing any of that. I'm focusing my time on playing poker and getting good and making money. My friend Carl's descriptive info in his myspace page sums me up and how i want my life to be. I made the decision to put everything i have into poker. Failure isn't an option for me, its just not possible i will do whatever it takes, i will be making 10k+ a month from poker.
It all lines up, playing poker for a living allows me to have the lifestyle i want to have, which is travel, great relationships, freedom. The funny thing is not being "in the game" has seemed to improve my game and overall social skills. Now i'm not sure if this is a blind spot thing where i'm saying well i'm not in the game now so i don't have to approach since i'm not working on that right now so i can feel "superior" and not bad about any interaction i may have that goes wrong because i'm not working on that. Doesn't feel that way to me though. I credit the change to becoming more in alignment with myself, slowly falling into the identity i want for myself and taking the action to do so. Making the decision that i will play poker for a living (at least for the initial part of my wealth plan before i get involved with assets) really lined stuff up for me. Its like i have purpose now and know what i should be doing at all time. I know why i'm doing what i'm doing, it makes sense to me i'm not playing some guessing game about my life and lying to myself about what it is i really want about life. Its like the path is clear to me. I see hot girls, i want to fuck them, but i don't feel any urgency, need because i know what i'm doing will result in the freedom to aquire that in the near future, so therefore i'm at ease. I don't care as much now about whatever people think, i still feel social pressure in situations, but generally i feel a lot more relaxed. Just the feeling of being on your purpose, taking action to make your dreams reality feels amazing and has brought a sort of calm more charismatic me out. I find it really interesting, that one switch that one line up thing in my mind did all of this. So much of tyler's stuff is becoming clear to me. I remeber a guy asking about his trouble hooking sets and how and tyler told him its about WHO you are. 6months ago i really couldn't get that it made sense on some level but i was thinking hmmmm can't there just be a line to hook? But now it makes so much sense. The whole idea of being in alignment, figuring out what you want from life, how you want to live it then going for it despite what anyone says and giving it everything, making failure not an option, you either get it or you die trying to get it, is just so powerful. Coming from that place the whole frame of an interaction is changed, your offering value, your happy with your life, you have abundance you not in need your cup is over flowing. Just amazing how i feel now and how coming more into alignment has created this. I'm not saying i'm done or made it i still have a hell of a long way to go, but from where i started being where i'am now at my age knowing 100% the life i want and knowing that for certain i will get it or die trying to get it has so much value to me.
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Good Night
Saturday, August 11, 2007
Festival
Bad Night
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Getting caught up with the day'2 FR's
HBBigButt
I sarged this girl a week ago when i was on a sargeathon one dawn/night. She was walking towards the campus and i opened her on campus with asking how to get to x location, which she told me and from there i just kept the conversation going with basic stuff. Its a quick set because she was in a hurry to class but very efficient.
Day 2 HBBigButt
So day 2's are tricky for me because of my fb who thinks she my gf living a block down from me. But i still get show up for the day2's. I meet her then walk with her to this restraunt sort of hangout place. I sure as hell didn't feel in state upon seeing her which is frustrating since i've been on a number of day 2's. We sit down at the restraunt thing and both have a beer. I'm sitting there feeling like the scrambling team tyler talks about in the foundations. It felt like the conversation was a big layer of fake and someone needed to say ok lets cut this bull shit. (it probably wasn't really that bad, we had a conversation going etc it just felt like it wasn't really real, like i wasn't coming from a place of realness, like if i said you know what, i'm going to be honest with you, i don't know what it is, but theres something about you that i like and i'm not going to sit here and hide it behind some bullshit space filling questions. If i said that it seems like i would then be coming from a place of realness, my state would follow and thus our interaction would have been better)
So any how i get through conversation with her then i suggest we go to a near by park. We go there, and sit on the swings and talk. Things get really good at this point, i'm telling her stories and shes laughing really hard. It feels real and in the moment, it was a lot of fun for us both. We went all around some wide and deep rapport before it was time for her to go. Walked her back to her place, it felt weird again at the end when i was at her door but that was that.
Day 3 HBBigButt
So tonight i get her to come over to my house. She comes over late with no problem. I do my usual house tour then take her to my room. I sat on the bed and she sat on a chair. That was fine, just meant she needed more comfort but it was cool that she was comfortable enough to come to my house alone late at night and be in my room alone with me. So i break out my camera and tell her to sit beside me i'm gonna show her pictures. She obeys and i show the pics and tell stories it was a lot of fun, the intercation felt a mile away from the first one. After that we talked about a variety of topics, at some points there were some almost token silence filling topics that came up to just kill the silence yet neither of us really cared about the topic. Then some how we got on male female dynamics and passed relaitonships etc. We talked on this for a long time and it really felt good and natural etc. I would tease her and joke with her on everything too it wasn't just us sitting having some serious conversation. I played hand games with her like thumb war and slaps, held her arm made her flex and pretended to make her bicep look bigger etc. So we talked the vibe was really good. I also decided i need to start qualifying girls so i told her, you know what, your not like most girls. Theres something different about you. She of course was interested and asked me what what why etc and i said i don't even know thats what i'm trying to figure out, but i don't know you stand out from the rest of the girls here and i like that. So more talking etc then a big ass roach pops out then runs when i get the spray which pissed me off i hate fucking roachs. She stands up when i go get the spray and after the ordeal she says she has to leave since she was only supposed to stay for alittle while but ended up staying 2hours. Shes up already i'm thinking damnit sit down i have to go for this kiss. So we go down stairs then almost out side and i say i have to tell you something. I say i'm not trying to be like the mexican guys here (link to something she said in our male/female convo) but i really want to kiss you. She smiled and laughed and blushed and said not yet. I remained pretty cool i guess and said ok thats fine i just wanted to let you know, i'm not trying to weird you out or anything i'm just direct and straight forward with how i feel. She said it was good etc. then that was that and she suggested we hang out thursday.
HBStarbucks
I meet this girl on campus. Shes walking and i opened with my basic campus how do you get to xyz opener then vibing with wide rapport afterwards. Went well, we were talking for maybe 3-4min and i suggested we go somewhere to talk which she was down for. We go to starbucks. A lot of my buds are there so i'm getting stopped and chatted by a lot of people which was cool. She gets something i chill with her. We leave starbucks then go sit outside by the building she has class in. Had a pretty solid close she seemed very interested.
HBStarbucks Day 2
Meet her at the bar she just started working at. She was supposed to get off at 1:30 so thats when i came, instead there were assholes there still drinking so i had to go and wait for her. She would basically go work stop and come sit with me, we'd talk some then she'd work more. The conversation was ok. When i say ok i mean it doesn't feel real to me, it feels like just saying stuff that i don't care about to fill silence. Don't know if it felt that way for her or not. For me it felt as though i needed to say something like you know what, i'm going to be honest with you, i like something about you, i don't what it is but theres something about you that i like. Then from that point there would actually be shift change feeling inside of me and then interaction was well because now i'm coming from a more real place which makes me think i should just be using a direct opener off gate so its already framed correctly. After writing this i think the reason i feel this way is because i'm not coming from an honest place i'm sitting there attracted to them but not stating it which seems important because after doing so my state changes a lot and then the interaction does, becomes a real interaction where stuff flows naturally. So anyways i struggle through the bar watching drunk people that won't leave until 4:30. I honestly felt like throwing a grenade at the table of drunks that wouldn't leave. She finally gets off. Its been made clear that were going to my place. She says i'm hope were sleeping when we get there. We cab off to my house straight to my bed room. She takes her shoes off and bra off and hops straight into my bed. I hop in there too and hit the lights. Once in bed i figure well its def time so i tell her i want to kiss her and to this she freaks and says no no i can't no thats weird no no i just meet you no no all this crazy shit. I'm thinking hmmmmm. So i relax and lay back. We cuddle really tight, hold each other etc we all over each other. I go for the kiss again and get the same reaction. I pass out. Wake up and were all cuddled up on each other and i have a huge boner. I go for the kiss again, not having it. She lets me massage her whole back but when i go for her ass she freaks any part of her that could be sexual being touched freaked her. I finally ask her whats going on etc, she tells me that its so fast and that this was the first time she ever slepted in the bed of a guy she just met and she doesn't kiss etc. She had recently broke with a bf and felt weird etc. So i listen say thats cool. We head down stairs i get her a cab and thats that. I don't call her back or anything which may or may not have been wrong. Way i saw it was theres so many more girls to game, why waste time on a girl thats going to make a huge deal out of a kiss, then when i finally get her to kiss how long til sex. We'd be damn married by the time we were having sex and that last thing i need is another gf on top of the one i already have.
Day 3 HBStarbucks
So didn't talked to her awhile figured it was over. Then i get online one day she messages me said shes been emailing me, i check my mail and low and behold there was her email saying how she was sorry about that night and how it must of meant something because i was the first guy shes been associated with since breaking up with her bf. I chat with her on aim about it all tell her i like her and when i like someone i'm honest and straight forward. I asked if she liked me as well and she said yes etc. So we make plans to hang out. We meet up at a park near her house. Have a pretty good time, conversation was pretty good since i was coming from a pretty real place but at the sametime it was never said outloud on the day 3 how we felt like we never discussed what we talked about online, in person. So i still got that feeling of something needs to be said to make this feel more real. Basically we hang out and talk awhile , she shows me art work etc (i used that as a way to get back to her room but the joke was on me since i wasn't aloud in her dorm so i had to sit outside and have her show me her art work. We go back to the park. Were on a bench and were cuddling really nice. I'm rubbing her head etc. Its time for me to get out of there and she had stuff to do as well so we end it and i go for the kiss under a tree in the park in an isolated spot. Of course she doesn't go for it again, which was frustrating for me. So the next time i see her online and she talks to me i'm going to tell her thats its probably best we don't talk since i like her a lot and feel all these urges towards her, but shes very slow with that kind of stuff so it would just be a conflict between us. I'd always be sitting there the whole time wanting to act on my emotions while shes sitting there feeling distorted at the idea of a kiss. So i'm going to tell her that it would probably be a waste of each others time (which it has been for me other than the day2 and day 3 experience) this way shes either gonna go for it or let it go. Either way i win. If she says its best we don't talk then i don't have to wasate anymore time with her and her elementary school kiss phobia or if she says she'll meet my standard then were having sex very soon which is also cool.
Saturday, March 24, 2007
Day 2ing it
My fuck buddy is def holding me back or i should say my inability to want to risk screwing the fuck buddy situation up (regular sex, free laundry, free internet,etc) . If it wasn't for her living so close my day 2 would be have the girl meet me at my house, show her around the house introduce her to roommates (and possibly to go for it right then) then either take her to a quiet low key chill bar near my house if its night time or take her to the park near my house if its day time, from there back to my house to show her pictures then go for the kiss after playing tickling her.
I'm aware of the fuckbuddy situation and def didn't set it up right from the start. I basically got pigeoned into a relationship with her at least in her mind.
Anyways i'm getting aggressive and looking to have at least 1 day 2 everyday. I had one thursday night which was so so, got good towards the end, i was really getting her laughing hard. But before it was like i was there wanting one thing but not owning up to it. Like i'm sitting there wanting to fuck her brains out but having some conversation with her to past the time so i could have sex with her which probably doesn't come off right. I'll still meet up with her again though, it went decent enough.
I have another day 2 soon. With this girl i'm going to let her know i'm interested really soon. Like i'll ask her some comfort questions and tell her wow thats so rare to find in a girl kind of thing and how i was attracted to her from the moment i saw her.....i def need to start using that really direct opener seems to set stuff up right from the begining.
I have another day 2 for tomorrow that i need to comfirm with this sexy girl from kansas that lives in monterrey.
I also had another girl from a previous day 2 that spent the night but wouldn't kiss me recontact me saying how she was sorry about that night. We talked about it and i told her i'm direct and don't like hiding my intentions when i feel that way for a person so she agreeded she was on the same page as me so i'm looking to get her over tonight.
I gotta shower up and get on this day 2 i'll post back soon i'm probably going to have internet from my house
Sunday, March 11, 2007
Update Time
Game is going good although i havent been going really aggressive like i did for Jan and Feb. My initial approach and follow up is pretty solid (at least for Monterrey Mexico on or near campus)
Most of that comes from me standing out so much which gets me passed the opening and hook stages. Ill def have to put a lot more work into the first stages when im back in the states but for now ill enjoy being able to basically skip that stage and move forward and concentrate on the later game.
Instant dating is a big piecie as well and something im going to work on this week. My goal for this week is to end up in an end game situation with 2 different girls from cold approaches. Im also working on my identity through exercises in grungeys ebook and also some other game stuff.
This past week i had a day 3 or something with a girl i went somewhere with awhile ago who brought a guy with her. I dont have the time to type the whole thing out so ill give a quick summary.
I basically end up alone with her in her room. My standard procedure is to go for the kiss in that situation but i bitched out because i didnt feel it would work right then (which it might not have) but going for the kiss is very important in that situation. Another part may have been the fear that comes with that. Ill go for it the next time.
I also met another girl from a cold approach and got her over to my place the next day. With her we spent some time talking, vibing, being playful, then i went through a lot to get a kiss. I just kept pushing forward and finally we were in a full on make out, her shirt came off she was on top of me grinding me very very hard through my pants, she put my hands on her big tits etc, passionate makeout all of the above then all the sudden stops dead in her tracks and lays down on the bed. I compare it to watching a good bball game, scores tied, 50s left team 1 has the ball everyone is watching to see what happens then the guy with the ball just walks off the court and sits down. WTF?
So she starts spilling emotional stuff on me. I talked to grungey about this and he said hes had this happen a lot. Some girls have a strong emotional link with sex so this explains why she got this way.
Im working on being able to go to see grungey for my spring break or when my friend takes a workshop with him. Im interning for him this summer and looking really forward to the experience and feel very fortunate to have it.
My trainer put me on a serious routine for lifting thats really demanding so im going to be owned by that too but i still feel like getting in 2 bed room situations with new girls from cold approaches is doable. (basically means getting 2 basic sets with an instant date and quick phone follow up, it could probably be done without an instant date here but the instant date would make things a lot easier on the day 2)
Monday, February 26, 2007
more updating
I was thinking about why i haven{t converted with more of my numbers and the reason is since i havent been following up with them immediatley the same day and because i have so many numbers its almost overwhelming in my mind trying to figure out how im going to find the time to meet up with these different girls since i do have other time commitments like bodybuilding (which takes sooooo much time with eating meals etc)
So i did my 4 sets yesterday and closed them all, i probed for a venue change basically after chatting for a bit and getting a good vibe going ill ask them what there currently up to, one girl was on her way to church, 2 were going home and another one was in a hurry probably to go home so i didnt see the point in pushing a venue change like that but the idea that just came to my head now would be i could just get them to sit down at a nearby seat and run the cube on them or something or run some of the cube and do the rest later.
For me though it feels so much easier just focusing on a few girls a week and for some reason i think ill get better resutls that way. instead of going down a list and calling a shit load of girls all impersonally and setting up random dates that i don{t have the time for (ill still call the numbers for the practice and setup something with the girls it goes very well with)
I still have to work on my skills though, so right now i really want to get my direct opener down pat and be very comfortable with it so either tuesday or thursday im going to go to crowded ass downtown and spit that opener out atleast 50times if not more.
I still do around 3 approaches a day or as needed to add more girls to work on but i feel like can close girls by the end of the week if i approach and follow up very fast with the hang out, then on the meet up get them isolated and go for the close.
Gotta get going and print stuff out
Sunday, February 25, 2007
Still Alive
So much to type about here and theres no way ill be able to type it all now. Veracruz was a lot of fun. Ive been hooking up with the FB a lot and diving into other numbers. I did a set last week and had a good venue change and ended up having her spend the night yesterday which didn{t turn out the way i wanted ill post about that later
As for the 30 challenge it has evolved into basically a weekly this is what i have to do this week kind of thing. Right now im at the point where i can get in sets fine and attempt the venue change, i probe for the venue change now by asking them what there up to now after ive chatted them for a bit. I would love to keep typing but im in the lab and i see a cute girl leaving
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Day 8- Day10, Trip
Tuesday wasn't as good in terms of sets. the quality wasn't great and for some reason it was taking me long to get in sets, like i was hesitating. I was having a mind problem where i was worried aobut a previous girl i closed seeing me do the same to another or having my fb see me which is lame i know so i have to fight through that mess.
Today was even worse in terms of sets. I'm still 3 sets in the hole and since its V-day my FB is set on coming over (we've hooked up at least once everyday since we first hooked up wow) so i feel like shit not doing my sets so i 'm guessing i'm gonna ahve to have her come over get her out then do my sets in the freezing cold in the middle of the night....if thats not committment i don't know what is.
Tomorrow me and big group of internationals are going to a huge Carnival in Veracruz from thursday night to sunday. The carnival is the 3biggest in the world with Rio being number 1 and New Orleans being number 2. The turnout is said to be 5million people so i'm gonna turn on crazy game mode and look to do 200 sets on friday and saturday since those are our full days and 50-100 on sunday.
My game plan is going to be going for the venue change in every single set, going for it so much that i get really programmed into saying it. The venue change will be for them to come to my hotel.
Monday, February 12, 2007
Day 7
She helps me study for my spanish exam. We study, take a break and get a blow job, study some more take another break and have sex then we take a nap together, wake up an hour later eat dinner then walk her back home its about 9:00pm at this point.
I get back home and talk to my German roommate for an hour. I have the idea at this point to go to campus and work on a paper so i can get my 5sets in. But the time keeps moving and the idea of walking to campus with my lap top in my bag disturbs me a bit, the last thing i want is someone stealing my laptop from me.
Then my phone rings and i talk on it for about 30min, then my roommate jordan comes in and gives me a lay report for a girl he was trying to close for a long time.
Phone rings again i talk, then decide its time to work on my paper (its 11:00 at this point)
I sit down and boom the phone rings again, its the girl that had the bad experience here i'm going to call her HBIllinois. Shes been calling me a lot since yesterday and we talk about 2times a day now. She calls we talk for a bit but she has to go eat pizza and hang out with her friend.
I get back to my paper then my ex calls me (who i guess i shouldn't be talking to, but i don't know, the connection is so deep i don't see a possible way of breaking it) so we talk for awhile. Then i start talking with jordan again, its 12:30 at this point.
So i sit to start my paper again and boom HBIllinois calls and we talk for another 20min and finally i do my paper after that.
I was in an insane outside my head state with all the talking i was doing today. I'm feeling very comfortable leading interactions now. Today i had the state where it felt like whatever i said was going to be money which it was. Everyones state would improve as a result of talking to me. I was very outside my head and every just flowed i was very on. I credit this to having a good conversation with my Grandma and Mom, hanging out with HBClose today and hooking up with her twice, beling validated by HBIllinois calling me a lot and really wanting to see me bad and missing me, being validated by my ex calling me a lot and wanting to see me, having a good vibe conversation with my german roommate and joking around with Jordan all day.
I've had states like this back home when i would do mass approaches (25+) on campus in the course of 3hours. At the end of all those interactions i got the similiar i'm on state.
Anyways the first 7days are over and its time to figure out what i'm going to do for the next 7days.
My time is being pulled at in lots of ways. From 1 week of doing 5sets a week(missed doing them on day 7 though) with one direct approach i now i have 20 or so contact information from girls, more confidence and abundance mindset and what seems to be a solid FB.
I also have a shitload of numbers and contact info of chicks to sort out, so i figure i'll be doing lots of day 2's this week. So my plan is this.
4sets a day (1 direct set, and 1 Venue change attempt)
also 1 random act of kindness each day
This seems to be realistic for my current situation. I'll manage my list out and work on managing my time better since i have people pulling for my time from all angles now.
I'm off to bed.
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Day 4- Day6 (LR)
At the end of Day 4 i go on a Day 2 with a girl (the one i closed the previous day right infront of a whole crew of asfault laying men that were all staring her down hard) that lives very close to me and i mean close (i could probably throw a rock at her house from my house and hit it assuming i had a running start)
So we meet outside then go for a walk. I love the idea of her living close but it also worries me a bit too. We go to a park close to my house and sit on swings. We talk a lot, practice spanish etc. I push her on the swing for awhile too and look to get as much touch in as i can. So after about 2hours or so i walk her back home see a bit of her house and we call it a night.
Day 5 ensues, i knock out 4sets on campus throughout the day and closed i think 3 or all 4 of them. I still had 1 more set left that i planned to go back out to get. I come back to my house and planned to handle my whole list of girls. I have so many numbers and contacts of girls that i really need to get it together. I'm going to call each and everyone and go for meetups and from there i'll color code the girls based on how they seem. Flakey will get a particular color, willing to meet up another etc and the girls i've spent time with already will get another color. This will make shit easier to manage. I love the abundance mindset i'm getting now. So i get ready to start then the HBClose from yesterday sends me a message online. I go with her while she walks her dog. We walk for awhile with her dog then we sit on a bench and talk while i sort of entertain her wild dog.
They say it roughly takes 7-10hrs to lay a girl and this one felt ready so after another 2 hours of talking with her i made plans to see her at my house in 2 hours. So i get back home and get myself together.
I send her a message and go meet her at her house and make the 20second journey to my house with her. I set it up so we have to be in my room. I give her a tour of the house then come to my room last. In my room i had all my spanish hw laid out on my bed cause my ploy was to have her "help me with spanish"......we look it over for a bit, she brings her hw and she has me read it to her so i lay down and read it. She lays down beside me i feel the anxiety coming on because i know i have to make a move. I can tell its time. I evenutally stop reading the paper and we talk, its def time so i say i want to kiss you and she says ok and we kiss, makeout, sex no LMR what so ever. Really good lay shes really into it and gets off faster than me!
We chill afterwards and play around with the music on my computer. After an hour she says she has to go because she has an exam the next day and needs to get up early to study. I'm thinking thats good cause i want to hang out with my friends. I tell her that we'll go back in 5min and to lay on me. She lays on me and another makeout sessions takes place. Shes grabbing on my dick and ends up giving me a really good blowjob. Awesome shit.
I take her back home then head out to my friends party. This was the biggest party i've ever seen must of been 200+ people there in one tiny house. I actually feel a bit out of state there not sure why. I sort of did an approach but it turned out to be on a girl i sarged already and had contact info for and she seemed a bit mad that i didn't remeber her but i played it off by saying it was her hair since it looked different. Also the girl from a few post down was there and i didn't really talk much to her but she seemed happy to see me. There were so many people there that i knew but it was so fucking crowded and hot as shit. I sweating my ass off i think that ruined my state a lot.
I end up leaving a bit later the cops came and wanted everyone inside but it was just to crowded....the party was so good it was bad because of the crowdedness. I actually felt guilty on my way back home because i didn't feel i got all my 5 sets for the day but figured it was fair since i spent a lot of time in a day3 and getting laid. (but still felt bad for not hitting a solid 4th set which is good i guess since it shows i'm very committed to the process)
On day 6 my friend has a BBQ. I'm there the majority of the day and do some sorry ass sets to count as my 5. I do 3sets with some girls at the party i was drunk after awhile but still did a direct one and 2 more but they were very sorry excuses for sets. I felt it was good just being out hanging out with people though but i must still own up to my commitment.
I came back home and HBClose hits me up. Shes going to a friends bday party wants to know if i want to come i say i would but i'm sort of a drunk mess now and don't want to embarass you. She decides to come here. She comes here and says she can only stay 10min wow. Go straight to the room, i tell her about my day and says she can smell the alcohol i tell her i'd kiss you but the alocohol is nasty and i don't want you to deal with that she says its ok. Makeout and sex. Amazing. Then right after were done her phone rings and her friends are ready to hit the party up with her. She rolls out.
I was damn drunk after the party but still had 2 sets left. I was a mess and couldn't make it far but i went to the gas station and decided to do a short set with the guy working there and another guy in the store which was interesting. I felt lame about it but at least i did something.
I post maybe in alittle or tomorrow again about my plan
Friday, February 9, 2007
Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Day 3
I'll be getting my number situation worked out and calling them all tomorrow. I have a big spread sheet with all these numbers and emails what i'm going to do is color code it so i know whats going on. I love the game! And its only a small amount of time before i get some success i'll keep pushing and pushing past comfort zones.
Day 2
I went to do my laundry and got a set in on the way. I don't really remeber what i said to opened but i ran a short set with her and closed her....still @ close.
I opened 2 more sets when i was in the process of doing/waiting for my laundry. One was this cute girl that worked at a video store i was bitching out when i passed the store then i said fuck it and i went in the set went well but the girl turned out to be 16......so i ejected. Another girl i opened and started getting in set with but i ejected because she looked like jail bait too.
So i get back to the house and start talking with my roommates, seems like this is when the switch took place. I got on the phone and just started calling girls, i really felt anxiety at first but then i literally stopped caring, i really didn't care about the outcome at all, don't know how that happened. I got in touch with one girl and went on a Day 2 with her right there on the spot.
It was fun she showed me some cool stuff in the city, her cousin was there too. I did that leading kino that my natural friend always does and it was working good. I could feel her attraction for me. She wants to take me to this club with her on friday, i'm looking to seal the deal with her soon, maybe tomorrow. Shes a really sweet girl.
I get back home and start hitting the phone hard again. Everyone is studying since test time is this week. I call numbers that i don't even remeber and say that i have no idea who this is ect it was fun and funny and the interactions all went good.
The girl from the other day also wanted to meet up but i missed her since i was out with the other girl i think i will meet up with her today.
I could of called it a day but i still had 2 more approaches left to do. So i go back out sort of late and hit campus i see this sexy girl in gym pants walking towards me and i opened with out hesitation. She seems thrown off a bit and i use a direct opener saying that she seemed like someone i had to meet. We kept talking and the vibe got really good. I hooked in good and held very strong eye contact with her, i felt very calm and good in that set. We finally exchanged numbers and msn information hugged and were on our way. I'm looking to set something up with her tonight her ass is amazing.
I get on campus and run into a girl i know from the international programs. We talk for awhile and i can notice a huge difference in the way i'm coming off. Everything is flowing naturally, i'm calm and relaxed, i don't care about an outcome and i have a serious abundance mindset going on. I set plans up with her to do something at the end of the week. I find my last set and use the default opener i've been using. Transition right into vibing. I'm so relaxed and comfortable that i think its keeping the girls there. I make strong eye contact now as well not like yesterday when i would flee my eyes, today i kept them right on the girl in a really confident way. I number close her then head back home.
I got online and talked to the girl from the previous post (girl that got raped)...shes back home now and we talked and i told her how i never felt such a fast connection with someone in my life and she said she felt the same. She misses me a lot and i miss her a lot. Were making plans to see each other soon. I love connections like this, its just like my friend will say....bitter sweet. You enjoy the connection so much its real, its life, what life should be about...having lots of wonderful deep connection relationships with people. The sad thing is though is keeping the fire lit, seems like once u put yourself out there and show feelings etc some girls will turn away...its like ideally i want a girlfriend that i can just love and have all to me but i know those same feelings that feel so good will result in the destruction of the relationship
maybe i missing something here. A lot of this seems like relationship expectations/management skills that i don't really have now so i'll do some reading on this if anyone has any ideas please share.
Today was an amazing day and i'm keeping it up, tomorrow will be another great day.
Tuesday, February 6, 2007
Day 1
I did my best to not be outcome dependent, but still that line is in my head, that inner chode/wussy that needs his ass kicked out of my life. Also kept the abudance persepective in my mind which was still a bit hard to really feel , like i'll tell myself over and over these positive mindsets i want to take on and it responds with yeaaaaah right. I though up some cool ways to get over this though
So after they leave i go out to do my 5approaches for the day. I made it MUST to do a min of 5 approaches a day, i'll most likey being hitting 10+ sets a day but as a bare min i must do 5 approaches, there is no way out of it (the only way out of it is if there is a life or death/injury/terrible illness situation taking place)
I hit my campus here late, finding sets was a bit tough. The first set i did was a walking set, i lined up so i would be walking to same way she was walking. I started talking with her the same usual thing, opened, then went into basic where are you from in mexico shit in which we vibed a bit about and me being from the united states, she was a bit standoffish though and she ended up having to cross the street to go another direction. Lame set
The next set i approached on campus was asking a chick how to get somewhere, i don't know what it is about this approach but it always gets a good reaction and leading into something else is very easy and natural feeling. Its like how do you get to x ok cool high five whats your name then go on from there. This girl was sort of on the move though, i should of used some default routines i have to hold her there longer or at least went for a close.
The next set was this sexy girl sitting down on a bench. I approach with the same thing, she speaks very very little enlgish but my spanish is getting better and where able to talk to a point. The set goes good and we do our best to understand each other using our hands, writing stuff down pointing to pictures etc it was fun. I @ close her which i don't like doing, my logic there was well if i get her number talking to her will be tough, but i should of still got the number and do some text game with her which i could use a translator for to send flirty messages. Oh well.
The next set the girl was in a hurry it seemed, i did the opener, then went into meeting her then she was in the motion of leaving like ok i told you what you asked now i'm getting out of here, i'm going to start running a hook routine in situations like that to see what happens. I figure its better than just letting the set end right there.
The last set was hard to find, i ended up opening a guy and a girl with the same shit. This set hooked very well they were really interested in me and kept on talking, i actually had to eject myself because i didn't feel like talking with them forever.
All in all i felt good for going out and doing it even though the sets were a bet lame and rushed. I could of easily said ahhh well i had a day 2 so i'll just go to bed now and sarge tomorrow but hell no a min of 5sets every single day.
To push myself a bit more i'm going to make it a MUST that i must do at least 1 direct approach a day as one of my five starting from day 2 (tomorrow) and on the weekends i'm going to do some suicide missions.....basically where i go somewhere and say/do crazy stuff to push my comfort zone A LOT.