Well unfortunately things aren't the way i originally thought the would be. Its looking like i was just flat out wrong about it being easier to get results in Monterrey. I'll own up to being wrong, but at the same time I'm still trying to figure out what gave me the perception that it was easier here. I'm going to list some ideas.
-Being black/foreign does result in attention, people do look, people are curious, we are different(and increases the more south you go) , this probably lead me to believe that girls would be more in tuned to have sex.
-Before going on my exchange i was basically at one of my lowest points still, depressed with the whole ex situation, no friends, no other girls, no nothing. So coming to mexico and instantly making friends, having fun times, and getting attention from girls for the first time in months was huge for me compared to what i came from and as a result of that misinterepted how easy it really was.
-I was doing LOTS of approaches so the results i did get were probably just standard given the amount i put in, but that didn't register at the time since before that back in usa in my depression was getting 0 results, so the results i got here seemed HUGE compared to that, even though they probably weren't even that impressive.
- I have a lot happy good memories associated with mexico, so i guess i just figured it would happen again.
- Lots of other people getting laid, since there were so many internationals hearing like 6 different sex stories, from 6 different guys seems like a lot but it really could just mean they had sex with only 1 girl. So if everyone just fucked 1 girl but referenced that over 200+ international guys it would seem like a lot of fucking is going on but say in reality everyone just fucked once.
Again i'm not making excuses, i'm just trying to personally figure out what i was thinking before. I own up 100% to being wrong. I feel gulity about it, i don't like being wrong, and leading people on to believe something is going to be one way and it turns out the other. I pretty much gave up with day game for now by reframing and saying "well i was wrong, as played the time of going out to campus getting numbers, calling numbers, going on day 2's, taking L's, is better spent playing poker, making money, and going to the spot here and there"
At the sametime though, i'm feeling like flawless did in this post http://flawlesspua.blogspot.com/2008/08/getting-really-distracted-and-forming.html...... And yes i understand that getting laid is very important and everyone thought it was going to be really easy and that i was wrong etc, but after coming to that conlusion it still doesn't have to be an L. Were in a fortunate position where we can travel and have more freedom than our friends back home. And for me as much as i enjoy getting laid, i value having fun times with friends a lot more. Were all here together so we might as well make the best of it and go out thurs-sat night or something for our own fun and enjoyment. Like back during my exchange the whole point of going out at night was to go out, get drunk together, and let the fun flow from there. (obviously everyone wants to get laid, but that wasn't the reason for going out)
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Where do i start
Well its been a long time since i've last posted in this blog. I could go on forever, but i'll keep it in control. In a nutshell.....played a shitload of poker, ended up in a relationship for 4-5months with a hot aussie girl, graduated college (sort of, 1 class left).
Right now i'm in Las Vegas traveling around with carl, nir and sean. Last month we were in austin texas living literally right in the party on 6th street.(we step outside and people are ALL over the place)
This has been a very vauable experience for me. First off i'm traveling with 3 guys that i really enjoy being around, hanging out laughing having good times (even though sometimes tendicies of living so close to the same people can be annoying at times....can someone say messy!), i value this a lot. Secondly, what i've learned from poker in this time frame has been amazing, and i owe a lot to carl and nir for sweating me, playing sessions of there own, giving there opinions etc, and even sean, just being able to talk over hands and explain different things to him has helped me a lot.
The main issue now is, us all being around each other really makes staying on task hard, like right now i'm up at 6:12am in the morning. I should be following a strict schedule that has me playing a shitload, getting sweated a shitload, reading a particular amount of hands, daily. But with everyone here getting distracted is so easy. Someone wants to go out, i might of had a good day or something, alcohol is right there and before i know it i'm out partying, then eating at the palace station afterwards and going to bed at 7:00am and waking up at 4:30pm all mixed up.
This has been a problem for me and i know carl for awhile, managing our time. it seems like such an easy thing to do in theory, but the pratice just seems to always fail us. Its even worst now since were in the same house, before i feel like us talking on aim and the phone would be partly to blame with our wasting of time, but now that were in together in person wasting time is easy as fuck, and to top it off we even have a pool table here. And honestly i can't blame anyone but myself for wasting time, i just need to have better self control and will power.
Were going to mexico for the next 2 months. I'm looking forward to this a lot, since i obviously had the time of my life there. The lifestyle i was living was so fun. I remeber the first 2 months was just pure partying at night and hanging out with people having bbqs and shooting the shit during the mid to late afternoon. It was such a social diverse thing. I remeber when Jordan had the idea to throw a big cookout party at our house right at the begininng of the semester. Just so many good times.
I've really talked mexico up big, espcially the girl situation. Being black/looking different really seems to get a response out of a big percentage of the chicks there. So carl,sean and nir all have really big expectations which they rightly should, since based on my experience everyone i knew there had great success with the chicks (non spot chicks :) ) at the sametime though its not as easy as show up with your cock out. The mexican culture is interesting in there customs. Some of them have this religious programming that puts a block on a lot nuts. So L's do exist, logistics still exist as well too, but as a whole to put it in poker terms were all A LOT more +ev in mexico than in the usa for getting laid.
I remeber getting numbers was so fucking simple that i had a huge spread sheet full of them. My down fall came at having a really clingy jealous gf that was hard to get away from to actually have a day 2, still finding myself (my identity at that point was still just being molded, i like to look as this experience as my "rebuilding" since the whole reason i went to mexico in the first place was to escape a really depressing ex gf/loss of identity/purposeless situation in the usa), not wanting to "put in the slighest amount of work" (i was still keeping my budget a bit tight so i didn't like the idea of having to go out and spend money and end up not fucking THAT night/day, since i had to really set my Day 2's up to times and situations where my gf at the time was busy or away that i needed to get the results fast since i couldn't have consistant meet ups that would eventually result in sex), trying to cut down on the nights i spent out, after the first 2 months of going out NIGHTLY and getting drunk i had to slow down. Me and jordan both started eating really healthy and limiting ourselves to 3 nights of heavy partying a week.
Despite this i still was able to get some results (easy easy easy numbers, eaaasy day 2's, makeouts, sex (3 not counting my gf or spot) i'd of never got in usa under the same circumstances.
Now for the next 2 months in mexico i haven't really figured out what my plan is going to be for the chicks. I still want to play a huge amount of poker. So managing that with chicks/social life is gonna be interesting. Numbers will build up fast, translations will be an issue with some chicks but not a devestating one, lots of day 2's, maybe even mistaken overlaps of us talking to the same girls lol. The other issue is mexican girls are very jealous, so once people start hooking up, the connections fall etc and they become very possesive. There will also be a fair amount of international students there that'll be cool to fuck/befriend, which could easily lead to more L's since they love to travel to other places in mexico and i could see someone getting invited a long a trip with them. So all and all its going to be very interesting to see how our schedules are going to play out. the schedule i want to have is playing during the day and going out at night, the problem is that though is going out at night means getting in at fucking 5am, having girls come back, going somewhere else with a chick or a group etc, so bed time turns into somme early ass hour then waking up mid afternoon and not having the time to put in poker, so i may actually have to be lame and limit going out to thurs/fri/sat (other than the first week), or maybe having some lighter nights where we have get togethers at our place or something.
Well i should probably go ahead and call this a night or morning .......
Right now i'm in Las Vegas traveling around with carl, nir and sean. Last month we were in austin texas living literally right in the party on 6th street.(we step outside and people are ALL over the place)
This has been a very vauable experience for me. First off i'm traveling with 3 guys that i really enjoy being around, hanging out laughing having good times (even though sometimes tendicies of living so close to the same people can be annoying at times....can someone say messy!), i value this a lot. Secondly, what i've learned from poker in this time frame has been amazing, and i owe a lot to carl and nir for sweating me, playing sessions of there own, giving there opinions etc, and even sean, just being able to talk over hands and explain different things to him has helped me a lot.
The main issue now is, us all being around each other really makes staying on task hard, like right now i'm up at 6:12am in the morning. I should be following a strict schedule that has me playing a shitload, getting sweated a shitload, reading a particular amount of hands, daily. But with everyone here getting distracted is so easy. Someone wants to go out, i might of had a good day or something, alcohol is right there and before i know it i'm out partying, then eating at the palace station afterwards and going to bed at 7:00am and waking up at 4:30pm all mixed up.
This has been a problem for me and i know carl for awhile, managing our time. it seems like such an easy thing to do in theory, but the pratice just seems to always fail us. Its even worst now since were in the same house, before i feel like us talking on aim and the phone would be partly to blame with our wasting of time, but now that were in together in person wasting time is easy as fuck, and to top it off we even have a pool table here. And honestly i can't blame anyone but myself for wasting time, i just need to have better self control and will power.
Were going to mexico for the next 2 months. I'm looking forward to this a lot, since i obviously had the time of my life there. The lifestyle i was living was so fun. I remeber the first 2 months was just pure partying at night and hanging out with people having bbqs and shooting the shit during the mid to late afternoon. It was such a social diverse thing. I remeber when Jordan had the idea to throw a big cookout party at our house right at the begininng of the semester. Just so many good times.
I've really talked mexico up big, espcially the girl situation. Being black/looking different really seems to get a response out of a big percentage of the chicks there. So carl,sean and nir all have really big expectations which they rightly should, since based on my experience everyone i knew there had great success with the chicks (non spot chicks :) ) at the sametime though its not as easy as show up with your cock out. The mexican culture is interesting in there customs. Some of them have this religious programming that puts a block on a lot nuts. So L's do exist, logistics still exist as well too, but as a whole to put it in poker terms were all A LOT more +ev in mexico than in the usa for getting laid.
I remeber getting numbers was so fucking simple that i had a huge spread sheet full of them. My down fall came at having a really clingy jealous gf that was hard to get away from to actually have a day 2, still finding myself (my identity at that point was still just being molded, i like to look as this experience as my "rebuilding" since the whole reason i went to mexico in the first place was to escape a really depressing ex gf/loss of identity/purposeless situation in the usa), not wanting to "put in the slighest amount of work" (i was still keeping my budget a bit tight so i didn't like the idea of having to go out and spend money and end up not fucking THAT night/day, since i had to really set my Day 2's up to times and situations where my gf at the time was busy or away that i needed to get the results fast since i couldn't have consistant meet ups that would eventually result in sex), trying to cut down on the nights i spent out, after the first 2 months of going out NIGHTLY and getting drunk i had to slow down. Me and jordan both started eating really healthy and limiting ourselves to 3 nights of heavy partying a week.
Despite this i still was able to get some results (easy easy easy numbers, eaaasy day 2's, makeouts, sex (3 not counting my gf or spot) i'd of never got in usa under the same circumstances.
Now for the next 2 months in mexico i haven't really figured out what my plan is going to be for the chicks. I still want to play a huge amount of poker. So managing that with chicks/social life is gonna be interesting. Numbers will build up fast, translations will be an issue with some chicks but not a devestating one, lots of day 2's, maybe even mistaken overlaps of us talking to the same girls lol. The other issue is mexican girls are very jealous, so once people start hooking up, the connections fall etc and they become very possesive. There will also be a fair amount of international students there that'll be cool to fuck/befriend, which could easily lead to more L's since they love to travel to other places in mexico and i could see someone getting invited a long a trip with them. So all and all its going to be very interesting to see how our schedules are going to play out. the schedule i want to have is playing during the day and going out at night, the problem is that though is going out at night means getting in at fucking 5am, having girls come back, going somewhere else with a chick or a group etc, so bed time turns into somme early ass hour then waking up mid afternoon and not having the time to put in poker, so i may actually have to be lame and limit going out to thurs/fri/sat (other than the first week), or maybe having some lighter nights where we have get togethers at our place or something.
Well i should probably go ahead and call this a night or morning .......
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
I dream big
Been here sitting around tryin to do homework assignments and just been half assing it not wanting to do it. Seems like there so many more things to life. I feel so lucky to have the mindset i do at this point in my life. (i credit this to myself seeking resources which have been amazing, the pick up community, tyler durdens work and transformation of himself, and of course to a friend that always seems to expand my reality in whats possible) I remeber when first coming to college being asked what you want to do with your life etc and in my mind i could feel this trapped feeling like i only had a certain amount of options i could answer with like i was within some sort of frame work. Deep down i'm thinking, hmmm what do i really want to do? I want to have fun, i want to have the most fun possible with the time i have on this planet and do what i want to do when i want to do it. I want to be free. This didn't seem possible though, so i picked a socially acceptable answer and felt incongruent saying it. So i walked around with this feeling of incongruence pretending to really be siked about something ,a life that i didn't really want to end up living.
So once poker was introduced to me, like a whole new world opened. Its like the answer, freedom and i find it really fucking fun to play (obviously shit goes bad at times but i'll accept that as my boss happily over any real boss in some 9-5 job that i'm a drone in making someone else rich while way they live there life of freedom because my success barriered ass lets them.)
Its like poker is this amazing thing.
So i've made the decision that, thats how its going to play out for me, i will play poker for a living, i'll do whatever it takes to make this happen, its either this happens or i die in the process of making it happen. I probably should be posting this in my poker blog but i'll probably just make this my universal blog from this point on.
My plan now to dedicate myself even more is this
Daily - Play a min of 8hours, review 10hands (5 of my own) on 2plus2 day (read the hand then in a note pad write down what i would do and why before reading responses, then review responses, then save hand to discuss with coach, once my opinion becomes better i'll post my response out on the forum) and make at least 2 videos a week of a session to have coach review. I'll also save hands i have any confusion about to post on twoplustwo and send to my coach. I think this is a good plan and should really improve my play. I'll field it see how it works and i'll be willing to do whatever else i need to do to reach success.
So once poker was introduced to me, like a whole new world opened. Its like the answer, freedom and i find it really fucking fun to play (obviously shit goes bad at times but i'll accept that as my boss happily over any real boss in some 9-5 job that i'm a drone in making someone else rich while way they live there life of freedom because my success barriered ass lets them.)
Its like poker is this amazing thing.
So i've made the decision that, thats how its going to play out for me, i will play poker for a living, i'll do whatever it takes to make this happen, its either this happens or i die in the process of making it happen. I probably should be posting this in my poker blog but i'll probably just make this my universal blog from this point on.
My plan now to dedicate myself even more is this
Daily - Play a min of 8hours, review 10hands (5 of my own) on 2plus2 day (read the hand then in a note pad write down what i would do and why before reading responses, then review responses, then save hand to discuss with coach, once my opinion becomes better i'll post my response out on the forum) and make at least 2 videos a week of a session to have coach review. I'll also save hands i have any confusion about to post on twoplustwo and send to my coach. I think this is a good plan and should really improve my play. I'll field it see how it works and i'll be willing to do whatever else i need to do to reach success.
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Were Products
I was talking to my friend the other day and he was telling about how in the game were basically selling a product. I've known this before but never really put too much thought into it. I just looked at it as a comparison but never really went deep into. My friend is also doing an online dating research experiment which hes testing stuff out all over the usa and the world. This is what got me thinking about the whole product thing.
You always hear people say, its just a numbers game, talk to a lot of girls you'll get some of them. Which is true, it is a numbers game. You are a product and your business is selling yourself. If we put game aside and just took say 20 random guys, there all there own product. Now make each of them do 100 approaches and each will get different results based on lots of factors. Theres tons of factors that effect your products success. (these are in no particular order)
1. The demand for your product (this is basically its own category since this effects how high the other factors need to be)
2. Your looks/style
3. Core confidence
4. Humor/wit
5. Your entitlement
6. Tolerance to social pressure
7. Persistance
8. Positivity
9. Values/Beliefs
10. body language
11. Voice
12. Eye Contact
13. Vibe
14. your identity
15. Lifestyle
16. Sex appeal
and the list can go on and on if i sat down and thought about it longer and lots of stuff could be categoriezed and clumped together then broken down even more but this is the general idea. Now if you look at everything and for each category you use a scale of 0-10. 0 being the lowest and 10 being the highest. Each of our 20 guys has a different score for each category. So say guy 1 has looks of 6, and demand of 8 and everything else is a 4, guy 2 only has a 1 demand in the location hes in with his targets and 6 looks with 4 for the rest of the categories. Guy 1 is going to be doing better so for guy 2 to sell his product hes going to have to raise each category as much as he can (making his product extremely good) this could in turn increase his demand as well.
So when were out there working on our game were improving our skills in each category. Were going out into sets being social practicing different things, this is giving our personality ranges that we can use, we develop humor, the ability to hold court, stay cool under pressure, be non needy, offer value, connect with people, vibe with people etc, going out builds these ranges up which enhances your product. With incredible game your numbers for each category will be hitting the 10 mark other than demand because thats not something you can personally control other than putting yourself in a location where your product is high demand. So with game your points are high for each factor this will allow you to still sell your product in areas where the demand is really low.
I think this is where the confusion with the whole Looks issue comes into play. So lets look at an example
Guy 1 is a hot built white guy with a looks rating of 9, the other categories are under developed at 3, he's located in Orange county CA and is targeting white girls 18-28 so his demand is high at nearly a 10.
Guy 2 is an Asian guy with looks at 6, everything else is the same as guy 1 but his demand is low at a 2.
So its obvious that these guys aren't going to get the same result. Guy 1 is going to be getting laid while guy 2 is going to be stratching his head saying its the looks.
The difference here is the demand in the target market. Because guy 2 has a small demand, hes jsut not going to be able to sell his product the same way guy 1 can with a high demand. So what does guy 2 do, he still wants those targets even though his demand is low so how can he change this? Well the answer is obvious, he puts in lots of work to raise each of the factors i listed before (working on game). So lets say he puts in 5hard years in the field and gym. Hes built nice now so his looks are now an 8, hes also got all the other factors to a 10 now, hes living the life he wants, hes funny, has communication down pat, etc. Because of all this he now goes back to the same target group to sell his product. Now his apperance has gone up, so since that is a way of offering value in your product that might or might not have an effect on the demand points. So lets say since asian guys have particular stereotypes associated with them in the usa even with his improved looks his demand has only risen from a 1 to a 4. But the glory here is once guy 2 speaks to the girl, since all his factors are at level 10, hes offering value on a whole new level. Since guy 2 has made himself into a REALLY good product the girls can't turn him down.
They saw the product but still didn't feel demand for it, but once testing the product out they realize how good it is and now the demand has actually risen as a result of him talking to her, his demand for the girl hes talking to could easily be peaking out at a 10 now.
So guy 1 is still fucking chicks left and right not putting much effort into it, where guy 2 had to put in 5 hard years worth of time. so guy 1 because of his looks (looks going beyond hotness points also his race, style) get him that automatic high demand. Where as guy 2 since hes asian doesn't have the same demand as guy 1 in this location with this target group because of different stereotypes and factors having to do with his target group (how they were raised, friends, family, social factors). So by saying looks its also saying apperance, race, style, culture. Guy 2 wasn't ugly when he first started he was a 6 which is above average, if a white guy with the same starting stats as guy 2 was put into the equation his demand would still be higher than guy 2's.
So thats what game comes down to, making your product the best you can to increase your demand to your target consumers.
One more thing that has to be noted is this. Another important factor is how hard you sell your product. If a guy with 6looks, 4demand for his target group, and 3's for every other category, put 0 work into selling his product, he probably won't sell anything. But if he put forth even 1 effort into selling in time he would eventually sell something, increase it to 6 and hes able to sell a product a month, increase it to 10 (10 meaning his out there approaching girls left and right and pushing it all the way to the end until they tell him to fuck off) and hes selling 3-5 a month maybe even more, if he improved his other factors he'd be a monster.
So thats why guys call it a numbers game or getting lucky. A lot of my friends are like this me included at this point, our products are actually above average, but there not so good that someone would just approach us to buy them. We put 0-1 effort into selling our product though and end up making no sales or the ocassional "lucky" sale that comes from our .5 averaged effort over a period of 6months.
You always hear people say, its just a numbers game, talk to a lot of girls you'll get some of them. Which is true, it is a numbers game. You are a product and your business is selling yourself. If we put game aside and just took say 20 random guys, there all there own product. Now make each of them do 100 approaches and each will get different results based on lots of factors. Theres tons of factors that effect your products success. (these are in no particular order)
1. The demand for your product (this is basically its own category since this effects how high the other factors need to be)
2. Your looks/style
3. Core confidence
4. Humor/wit
5. Your entitlement
6. Tolerance to social pressure
7. Persistance
8. Positivity
9. Values/Beliefs
10. body language
11. Voice
12. Eye Contact
13. Vibe
14. your identity
15. Lifestyle
16. Sex appeal
and the list can go on and on if i sat down and thought about it longer and lots of stuff could be categoriezed and clumped together then broken down even more but this is the general idea. Now if you look at everything and for each category you use a scale of 0-10. 0 being the lowest and 10 being the highest. Each of our 20 guys has a different score for each category. So say guy 1 has looks of 6, and demand of 8 and everything else is a 4, guy 2 only has a 1 demand in the location hes in with his targets and 6 looks with 4 for the rest of the categories. Guy 1 is going to be doing better so for guy 2 to sell his product hes going to have to raise each category as much as he can (making his product extremely good) this could in turn increase his demand as well.
So when were out there working on our game were improving our skills in each category. Were going out into sets being social practicing different things, this is giving our personality ranges that we can use, we develop humor, the ability to hold court, stay cool under pressure, be non needy, offer value, connect with people, vibe with people etc, going out builds these ranges up which enhances your product. With incredible game your numbers for each category will be hitting the 10 mark other than demand because thats not something you can personally control other than putting yourself in a location where your product is high demand. So with game your points are high for each factor this will allow you to still sell your product in areas where the demand is really low.
I think this is where the confusion with the whole Looks issue comes into play. So lets look at an example
Guy 1 is a hot built white guy with a looks rating of 9, the other categories are under developed at 3, he's located in Orange county CA and is targeting white girls 18-28 so his demand is high at nearly a 10.
Guy 2 is an Asian guy with looks at 6, everything else is the same as guy 1 but his demand is low at a 2.
So its obvious that these guys aren't going to get the same result. Guy 1 is going to be getting laid while guy 2 is going to be stratching his head saying its the looks.
The difference here is the demand in the target market. Because guy 2 has a small demand, hes jsut not going to be able to sell his product the same way guy 1 can with a high demand. So what does guy 2 do, he still wants those targets even though his demand is low so how can he change this? Well the answer is obvious, he puts in lots of work to raise each of the factors i listed before (working on game). So lets say he puts in 5hard years in the field and gym. Hes built nice now so his looks are now an 8, hes also got all the other factors to a 10 now, hes living the life he wants, hes funny, has communication down pat, etc. Because of all this he now goes back to the same target group to sell his product. Now his apperance has gone up, so since that is a way of offering value in your product that might or might not have an effect on the demand points. So lets say since asian guys have particular stereotypes associated with them in the usa even with his improved looks his demand has only risen from a 1 to a 4. But the glory here is once guy 2 speaks to the girl, since all his factors are at level 10, hes offering value on a whole new level. Since guy 2 has made himself into a REALLY good product the girls can't turn him down.
They saw the product but still didn't feel demand for it, but once testing the product out they realize how good it is and now the demand has actually risen as a result of him talking to her, his demand for the girl hes talking to could easily be peaking out at a 10 now.
So guy 1 is still fucking chicks left and right not putting much effort into it, where guy 2 had to put in 5 hard years worth of time. so guy 1 because of his looks (looks going beyond hotness points also his race, style) get him that automatic high demand. Where as guy 2 since hes asian doesn't have the same demand as guy 1 in this location with this target group because of different stereotypes and factors having to do with his target group (how they were raised, friends, family, social factors). So by saying looks its also saying apperance, race, style, culture. Guy 2 wasn't ugly when he first started he was a 6 which is above average, if a white guy with the same starting stats as guy 2 was put into the equation his demand would still be higher than guy 2's.
So thats what game comes down to, making your product the best you can to increase your demand to your target consumers.
One more thing that has to be noted is this. Another important factor is how hard you sell your product. If a guy with 6looks, 4demand for his target group, and 3's for every other category, put 0 work into selling his product, he probably won't sell anything. But if he put forth even 1 effort into selling in time he would eventually sell something, increase it to 6 and hes able to sell a product a month, increase it to 10 (10 meaning his out there approaching girls left and right and pushing it all the way to the end until they tell him to fuck off) and hes selling 3-5 a month maybe even more, if he improved his other factors he'd be a monster.
So thats why guys call it a numbers game or getting lucky. A lot of my friends are like this me included at this point, our products are actually above average, but there not so good that someone would just approach us to buy them. We put 0-1 effort into selling our product though and end up making no sales or the ocassional "lucky" sale that comes from our .5 averaged effort over a period of 6months.
Thursday, November 1, 2007
Update Time
So i haven't been keeping up to date with this blog. I stopped posting awhile ago but at times i'll come back and read over things i posted and see such a drastic change in myself/beliefs/values overall perspective in just a few months. Like its hard for me to even relate to the last post i made in here and i think a lot of this has to do with me coming more and more into alignment.
So right now i'm not working on game. Not doing cold approaches, not doing any of that. I'm focusing my time on playing poker and getting good and making money. My friend Carl's descriptive info in his myspace page sums me up and how i want my life to be. I made the decision to put everything i have into poker. Failure isn't an option for me, its just not possible i will do whatever it takes, i will be making 10k+ a month from poker.
It all lines up, playing poker for a living allows me to have the lifestyle i want to have, which is travel, great relationships, freedom. The funny thing is not being "in the game" has seemed to improve my game and overall social skills. Now i'm not sure if this is a blind spot thing where i'm saying well i'm not in the game now so i don't have to approach since i'm not working on that right now so i can feel "superior" and not bad about any interaction i may have that goes wrong because i'm not working on that. Doesn't feel that way to me though. I credit the change to becoming more in alignment with myself, slowly falling into the identity i want for myself and taking the action to do so. Making the decision that i will play poker for a living (at least for the initial part of my wealth plan before i get involved with assets) really lined stuff up for me. Its like i have purpose now and know what i should be doing at all time. I know why i'm doing what i'm doing, it makes sense to me i'm not playing some guessing game about my life and lying to myself about what it is i really want about life. Its like the path is clear to me. I see hot girls, i want to fuck them, but i don't feel any urgency, need because i know what i'm doing will result in the freedom to aquire that in the near future, so therefore i'm at ease. I don't care as much now about whatever people think, i still feel social pressure in situations, but generally i feel a lot more relaxed. Just the feeling of being on your purpose, taking action to make your dreams reality feels amazing and has brought a sort of calm more charismatic me out. I find it really interesting, that one switch that one line up thing in my mind did all of this. So much of tyler's stuff is becoming clear to me. I remeber a guy asking about his trouble hooking sets and how and tyler told him its about WHO you are. 6months ago i really couldn't get that it made sense on some level but i was thinking hmmmm can't there just be a line to hook? But now it makes so much sense. The whole idea of being in alignment, figuring out what you want from life, how you want to live it then going for it despite what anyone says and giving it everything, making failure not an option, you either get it or you die trying to get it, is just so powerful. Coming from that place the whole frame of an interaction is changed, your offering value, your happy with your life, you have abundance you not in need your cup is over flowing. Just amazing how i feel now and how coming more into alignment has created this. I'm not saying i'm done or made it i still have a hell of a long way to go, but from where i started being where i'am now at my age knowing 100% the life i want and knowing that for certain i will get it or die trying to get it has so much value to me.
So right now i'm not working on game. Not doing cold approaches, not doing any of that. I'm focusing my time on playing poker and getting good and making money. My friend Carl's descriptive info in his myspace page sums me up and how i want my life to be. I made the decision to put everything i have into poker. Failure isn't an option for me, its just not possible i will do whatever it takes, i will be making 10k+ a month from poker.
It all lines up, playing poker for a living allows me to have the lifestyle i want to have, which is travel, great relationships, freedom. The funny thing is not being "in the game" has seemed to improve my game and overall social skills. Now i'm not sure if this is a blind spot thing where i'm saying well i'm not in the game now so i don't have to approach since i'm not working on that right now so i can feel "superior" and not bad about any interaction i may have that goes wrong because i'm not working on that. Doesn't feel that way to me though. I credit the change to becoming more in alignment with myself, slowly falling into the identity i want for myself and taking the action to do so. Making the decision that i will play poker for a living (at least for the initial part of my wealth plan before i get involved with assets) really lined stuff up for me. Its like i have purpose now and know what i should be doing at all time. I know why i'm doing what i'm doing, it makes sense to me i'm not playing some guessing game about my life and lying to myself about what it is i really want about life. Its like the path is clear to me. I see hot girls, i want to fuck them, but i don't feel any urgency, need because i know what i'm doing will result in the freedom to aquire that in the near future, so therefore i'm at ease. I don't care as much now about whatever people think, i still feel social pressure in situations, but generally i feel a lot more relaxed. Just the feeling of being on your purpose, taking action to make your dreams reality feels amazing and has brought a sort of calm more charismatic me out. I find it really interesting, that one switch that one line up thing in my mind did all of this. So much of tyler's stuff is becoming clear to me. I remeber a guy asking about his trouble hooking sets and how and tyler told him its about WHO you are. 6months ago i really couldn't get that it made sense on some level but i was thinking hmmmm can't there just be a line to hook? But now it makes so much sense. The whole idea of being in alignment, figuring out what you want from life, how you want to live it then going for it despite what anyone says and giving it everything, making failure not an option, you either get it or you die trying to get it, is just so powerful. Coming from that place the whole frame of an interaction is changed, your offering value, your happy with your life, you have abundance you not in need your cup is over flowing. Just amazing how i feel now and how coming more into alignment has created this. I'm not saying i'm done or made it i still have a hell of a long way to go, but from where i started being where i'am now at my age knowing 100% the life i want and knowing that for certain i will get it or die trying to get it has so much value to me.
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Good Night
Really proud of myself tonight. Rolled out with the same frame i had during the festival. My goal was to go out and just spend an hour getting in a talkative state first at the 3 bars near me then roll to the others. So i roll into the first bar and just start talking to the first person i see, which was this chick didn't go so well i just saw her and asked her name chatted for a sec. Then count down in my head, i just kept jumping in sets. I rolled to the next bar did the same thing. Talking to everyone. My interactions were lasting longer at this point. I talked to some guy and tried to get him to come into a set with me since the set was big like 5-6 chicks, he started coming up with these excuses talking about how his brother does that etc i was like ok. So i just rolled into the set, the lead girl was a tad bitchy, i announced this must be the leader right here which was funny cause she was. I chatted a bit with every chick in the group. When things dulled out i rolled around and some girl was looking at my shirt in a crazy way and her friends were laughing, i was like wtf is this, and she was like i thought your shirt said cut. I was like ohhhh well guys let me ask you something, my friends been chatting with this chick for awhile but i think hes in the friend zone is there anyway out of that shit? They all gave there answeres and shit i was busting them on everything i was on like hell in this set. They were all just focused on me like 4 chicks just surrounding me listening to everything i said, busting up laughing on all my punchlines. Was thinking damn is this for real? I'm not even drunk? wow. An asian girl near me bumped into my ass so i was like did u grab my ass and her firend was like let me find out, the girl was like no no and busted her on it and she was like but i will grab it now which was funny. So she kinda knew the other girls so got that shit merged she was also with a girl so it became a 6set of chicks with them all on me, couldn't hold them all though people broke off, i end up beside this one girl and got in pretty good rapport with her, classic life shit what do you do family all that stuff but she wasn't the best looking the world so i moved to antoher chick and to the asian girl but they were leaving and group was all over the place, some of them had bf's etc. I eventually roll to the next bar. SOme guys are in there doing a crazy dance so i ask about it and get involved, then i open a 3set with 2 chicks and a guy. Set went well the girls were drunk but i was in that bitch for 30min talking to them all and had each girl 1on1 sort of but the drunkness was annoying and they were sort of out there. I roll to the enxt bar and this guy ends up teling me all this depressing stuff i wasn't trying to hear he was cool though just got on the wrong topic. The bar was dying so i rolled up town a bit. The bar i wanted to go to had a huge line, some chicks came up said damn this was a bust and i was like hell yeah it was, and walked back and chatted with them for a bit. There was a freestyle battle taking place on the street between this black guy and white guy i saw when i first was walking to the bar coming back the shit was getting hype like a fight was gonna break out so i stood back and observed. Apparently the white dude said some racial and the black dude wasn't going to have that. They were talking shit to each other. The white dude went to dap him and the black dude lunged and picked him up and slammed him. then put him in this head lock people were trying to break it up but it really wasn't much of a fight just a guy in a head lock, black dude finally let him go, some chick called the police that was that. I chatted to the black dudeds boy for a bit , the black dudes is some big beat boxer or something opened for naughty by nature. The black dude came back and was chill, talked with him a bit he told me what happend and how he couldnt' let someone walk over him etc. then the white dude came back to try to call a truce and the black dude was like nah fuck that we can fight and put down his monster enegery drink that he ran across the street and bought after the first scuffle and assumed a fighting stance. More talking and the white dude rolled out. Talked more with the guys and the itailian guy was inviting me to this club with them and he had this strong frame where it was like damn its hard to say no but i was thinking in my head no way in hell i'm rolling with that hostle black dude so i was like yeah that would be cool oh shit 1 sec (pretended to get a phone call,i'm good at faking phone calls so i pretend it was a good friend i chatted told him about the black slamming the dude infront of him i could see the smile of validation on the black guys face as i told my fake friend on the phone how he slammed this guy, then pretended the guy was back near i was and had his girl and her friend) so told them i had some potenial pussy they said yeah hop on that so i rolled out. Started raining hardcore so i just rolled back home.
Saturday, August 11, 2007
Festival
Went to this festival here. Bands, drinking all sorts of shit going on. I go out but this time my mission is to get myself talkative. So what i do is do a count down 10,9,8 etc to 1 and i have to be speaking to someone before it hits 0, a guy, chick, man wooman whoever just speaking. I did this for awhile just coming up with anything asking questions, making comments anything i could. This got me in a good state and from there i got in a so so set with this chick. We talked for awhile i went for the venue change to sit down but she was like i have to fill this drink up and walked to do that, i was like ? It was going so well. Anyways i'm gonna try that 10sec count down thing out tonight.
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