HBBigButt
I sarged this girl a week ago when i was on a sargeathon one dawn/night. She was walking towards the campus and i opened her on campus with asking how to get to x location, which she told me and from there i just kept the conversation going with basic stuff. Its a quick set because she was in a hurry to class but very efficient.
Day 2 HBBigButt
So day 2's are tricky for me because of my fb who thinks she my gf living a block down from me. But i still get show up for the day2's. I meet her then walk with her to this restraunt sort of hangout place. I sure as hell didn't feel in state upon seeing her which is frustrating since i've been on a number of day 2's. We sit down at the restraunt thing and both have a beer. I'm sitting there feeling like the scrambling team tyler talks about in the foundations. It felt like the conversation was a big layer of fake and someone needed to say ok lets cut this bull shit. (it probably wasn't really that bad, we had a conversation going etc it just felt like it wasn't really real, like i wasn't coming from a place of realness, like if i said you know what, i'm going to be honest with you, i don't know what it is, but theres something about you that i like and i'm not going to sit here and hide it behind some bullshit space filling questions. If i said that it seems like i would then be coming from a place of realness, my state would follow and thus our interaction would have been better)
So any how i get through conversation with her then i suggest we go to a near by park. We go there, and sit on the swings and talk. Things get really good at this point, i'm telling her stories and shes laughing really hard. It feels real and in the moment, it was a lot of fun for us both. We went all around some wide and deep rapport before it was time for her to go. Walked her back to her place, it felt weird again at the end when i was at her door but that was that.
Day 3 HBBigButt
So tonight i get her to come over to my house. She comes over late with no problem. I do my usual house tour then take her to my room. I sat on the bed and she sat on a chair. That was fine, just meant she needed more comfort but it was cool that she was comfortable enough to come to my house alone late at night and be in my room alone with me. So i break out my camera and tell her to sit beside me i'm gonna show her pictures. She obeys and i show the pics and tell stories it was a lot of fun, the intercation felt a mile away from the first one. After that we talked about a variety of topics, at some points there were some almost token silence filling topics that came up to just kill the silence yet neither of us really cared about the topic. Then some how we got on male female dynamics and passed relaitonships etc. We talked on this for a long time and it really felt good and natural etc. I would tease her and joke with her on everything too it wasn't just us sitting having some serious conversation. I played hand games with her like thumb war and slaps, held her arm made her flex and pretended to make her bicep look bigger etc. So we talked the vibe was really good. I also decided i need to start qualifying girls so i told her, you know what, your not like most girls. Theres something different about you. She of course was interested and asked me what what why etc and i said i don't even know thats what i'm trying to figure out, but i don't know you stand out from the rest of the girls here and i like that. So more talking etc then a big ass roach pops out then runs when i get the spray which pissed me off i hate fucking roachs. She stands up when i go get the spray and after the ordeal she says she has to leave since she was only supposed to stay for alittle while but ended up staying 2hours. Shes up already i'm thinking damnit sit down i have to go for this kiss. So we go down stairs then almost out side and i say i have to tell you something. I say i'm not trying to be like the mexican guys here (link to something she said in our male/female convo) but i really want to kiss you. She smiled and laughed and blushed and said not yet. I remained pretty cool i guess and said ok thats fine i just wanted to let you know, i'm not trying to weird you out or anything i'm just direct and straight forward with how i feel. She said it was good etc. then that was that and she suggested we hang out thursday.
HBStarbucks
I meet this girl on campus. Shes walking and i opened with my basic campus how do you get to xyz opener then vibing with wide rapport afterwards. Went well, we were talking for maybe 3-4min and i suggested we go somewhere to talk which she was down for. We go to starbucks. A lot of my buds are there so i'm getting stopped and chatted by a lot of people which was cool. She gets something i chill with her. We leave starbucks then go sit outside by the building she has class in. Had a pretty solid close she seemed very interested.
HBStarbucks Day 2
Meet her at the bar she just started working at. She was supposed to get off at 1:30 so thats when i came, instead there were assholes there still drinking so i had to go and wait for her. She would basically go work stop and come sit with me, we'd talk some then she'd work more. The conversation was ok. When i say ok i mean it doesn't feel real to me, it feels like just saying stuff that i don't care about to fill silence. Don't know if it felt that way for her or not. For me it felt as though i needed to say something like you know what, i'm going to be honest with you, i like something about you, i don't what it is but theres something about you that i like. Then from that point there would actually be shift change feeling inside of me and then interaction was well because now i'm coming from a more real place which makes me think i should just be using a direct opener off gate so its already framed correctly. After writing this i think the reason i feel this way is because i'm not coming from an honest place i'm sitting there attracted to them but not stating it which seems important because after doing so my state changes a lot and then the interaction does, becomes a real interaction where stuff flows naturally. So anyways i struggle through the bar watching drunk people that won't leave until 4:30. I honestly felt like throwing a grenade at the table of drunks that wouldn't leave. She finally gets off. Its been made clear that were going to my place. She says i'm hope were sleeping when we get there. We cab off to my house straight to my bed room. She takes her shoes off and bra off and hops straight into my bed. I hop in there too and hit the lights. Once in bed i figure well its def time so i tell her i want to kiss her and to this she freaks and says no no i can't no thats weird no no i just meet you no no all this crazy shit. I'm thinking hmmmmm. So i relax and lay back. We cuddle really tight, hold each other etc we all over each other. I go for the kiss again and get the same reaction. I pass out. Wake up and were all cuddled up on each other and i have a huge boner. I go for the kiss again, not having it. She lets me massage her whole back but when i go for her ass she freaks any part of her that could be sexual being touched freaked her. I finally ask her whats going on etc, she tells me that its so fast and that this was the first time she ever slepted in the bed of a guy she just met and she doesn't kiss etc. She had recently broke with a bf and felt weird etc. So i listen say thats cool. We head down stairs i get her a cab and thats that. I don't call her back or anything which may or may not have been wrong. Way i saw it was theres so many more girls to game, why waste time on a girl thats going to make a huge deal out of a kiss, then when i finally get her to kiss how long til sex. We'd be damn married by the time we were having sex and that last thing i need is another gf on top of the one i already have.
Day 3 HBStarbucks
So didn't talked to her awhile figured it was over. Then i get online one day she messages me said shes been emailing me, i check my mail and low and behold there was her email saying how she was sorry about that night and how it must of meant something because i was the first guy shes been associated with since breaking up with her bf. I chat with her on aim about it all tell her i like her and when i like someone i'm honest and straight forward. I asked if she liked me as well and she said yes etc. So we make plans to hang out. We meet up at a park near her house. Have a pretty good time, conversation was pretty good since i was coming from a pretty real place but at the sametime it was never said outloud on the day 3 how we felt like we never discussed what we talked about online, in person. So i still got that feeling of something needs to be said to make this feel more real. Basically we hang out and talk awhile , she shows me art work etc (i used that as a way to get back to her room but the joke was on me since i wasn't aloud in her dorm so i had to sit outside and have her show me her art work. We go back to the park. Were on a bench and were cuddling really nice. I'm rubbing her head etc. Its time for me to get out of there and she had stuff to do as well so we end it and i go for the kiss under a tree in the park in an isolated spot. Of course she doesn't go for it again, which was frustrating for me. So the next time i see her online and she talks to me i'm going to tell her thats its probably best we don't talk since i like her a lot and feel all these urges towards her, but shes very slow with that kind of stuff so it would just be a conflict between us. I'd always be sitting there the whole time wanting to act on my emotions while shes sitting there feeling distorted at the idea of a kiss. So i'm going to tell her that it would probably be a waste of each others time (which it has been for me other than the day2 and day 3 experience) this way shes either gonna go for it or let it go. Either way i win. If she says its best we don't talk then i don't have to wasate anymore time with her and her elementary school kiss phobia or if she says she'll meet my standard then were having sex very soon which is also cool.
