Been here sitting around tryin to do homework assignments and just been half assing it not wanting to do it. Seems like there so many more things to life. I feel so lucky to have the mindset i do at this point in my life. (i credit this to myself seeking resources which have been amazing, the pick up community, tyler durdens work and transformation of himself, and of course to a friend that always seems to expand my reality in whats possible) I remeber when first coming to college being asked what you want to do with your life etc and in my mind i could feel this trapped feeling like i only had a certain amount of options i could answer with like i was within some sort of frame work. Deep down i'm thinking, hmmm what do i really want to do? I want to have fun, i want to have the most fun possible with the time i have on this planet and do what i want to do when i want to do it. I want to be free. This didn't seem possible though, so i picked a socially acceptable answer and felt incongruent saying it. So i walked around with this feeling of incongruence pretending to really be siked about something ,a life that i didn't really want to end up living.
So once poker was introduced to me, like a whole new world opened. Its like the answer, freedom and i find it really fucking fun to play (obviously shit goes bad at times but i'll accept that as my boss happily over any real boss in some 9-5 job that i'm a drone in making someone else rich while way they live there life of freedom because my success barriered ass lets them.)
Its like poker is this amazing thing.
So i've made the decision that, thats how its going to play out for me, i will play poker for a living, i'll do whatever it takes to make this happen, its either this happens or i die in the process of making it happen. I probably should be posting this in my poker blog but i'll probably just make this my universal blog from this point on.
My plan now to dedicate myself even more is this
Daily - Play a min of 8hours, review 10hands (5 of my own) on 2plus2 day (read the hand then in a note pad write down what i would do and why before reading responses, then review responses, then save hand to discuss with coach, once my opinion becomes better i'll post my response out on the forum) and make at least 2 videos a week of a session to have coach review. I'll also save hands i have any confusion about to post on twoplustwo and send to my coach. I think this is a good plan and should really improve my play. I'll field it see how it works and i'll be willing to do whatever else i need to do to reach success.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Were Products
I was talking to my friend the other day and he was telling about how in the game were basically selling a product. I've known this before but never really put too much thought into it. I just looked at it as a comparison but never really went deep into. My friend is also doing an online dating research experiment which hes testing stuff out all over the usa and the world. This is what got me thinking about the whole product thing.
You always hear people say, its just a numbers game, talk to a lot of girls you'll get some of them. Which is true, it is a numbers game. You are a product and your business is selling yourself. If we put game aside and just took say 20 random guys, there all there own product. Now make each of them do 100 approaches and each will get different results based on lots of factors. Theres tons of factors that effect your products success. (these are in no particular order)
1. The demand for your product (this is basically its own category since this effects how high the other factors need to be)
2. Your looks/style
3. Core confidence
4. Humor/wit
5. Your entitlement
6. Tolerance to social pressure
7. Persistance
8. Positivity
9. Values/Beliefs
10. body language
11. Voice
12. Eye Contact
13. Vibe
14. your identity
15. Lifestyle
16. Sex appeal
and the list can go on and on if i sat down and thought about it longer and lots of stuff could be categoriezed and clumped together then broken down even more but this is the general idea. Now if you look at everything and for each category you use a scale of 0-10. 0 being the lowest and 10 being the highest. Each of our 20 guys has a different score for each category. So say guy 1 has looks of 6, and demand of 8 and everything else is a 4, guy 2 only has a 1 demand in the location hes in with his targets and 6 looks with 4 for the rest of the categories. Guy 1 is going to be doing better so for guy 2 to sell his product hes going to have to raise each category as much as he can (making his product extremely good) this could in turn increase his demand as well.
So when were out there working on our game were improving our skills in each category. Were going out into sets being social practicing different things, this is giving our personality ranges that we can use, we develop humor, the ability to hold court, stay cool under pressure, be non needy, offer value, connect with people, vibe with people etc, going out builds these ranges up which enhances your product. With incredible game your numbers for each category will be hitting the 10 mark other than demand because thats not something you can personally control other than putting yourself in a location where your product is high demand. So with game your points are high for each factor this will allow you to still sell your product in areas where the demand is really low.
I think this is where the confusion with the whole Looks issue comes into play. So lets look at an example
Guy 1 is a hot built white guy with a looks rating of 9, the other categories are under developed at 3, he's located in Orange county CA and is targeting white girls 18-28 so his demand is high at nearly a 10.
Guy 2 is an Asian guy with looks at 6, everything else is the same as guy 1 but his demand is low at a 2.
So its obvious that these guys aren't going to get the same result. Guy 1 is going to be getting laid while guy 2 is going to be stratching his head saying its the looks.
The difference here is the demand in the target market. Because guy 2 has a small demand, hes jsut not going to be able to sell his product the same way guy 1 can with a high demand. So what does guy 2 do, he still wants those targets even though his demand is low so how can he change this? Well the answer is obvious, he puts in lots of work to raise each of the factors i listed before (working on game). So lets say he puts in 5hard years in the field and gym. Hes built nice now so his looks are now an 8, hes also got all the other factors to a 10 now, hes living the life he wants, hes funny, has communication down pat, etc. Because of all this he now goes back to the same target group to sell his product. Now his apperance has gone up, so since that is a way of offering value in your product that might or might not have an effect on the demand points. So lets say since asian guys have particular stereotypes associated with them in the usa even with his improved looks his demand has only risen from a 1 to a 4. But the glory here is once guy 2 speaks to the girl, since all his factors are at level 10, hes offering value on a whole new level. Since guy 2 has made himself into a REALLY good product the girls can't turn him down.
They saw the product but still didn't feel demand for it, but once testing the product out they realize how good it is and now the demand has actually risen as a result of him talking to her, his demand for the girl hes talking to could easily be peaking out at a 10 now.
So guy 1 is still fucking chicks left and right not putting much effort into it, where guy 2 had to put in 5 hard years worth of time. so guy 1 because of his looks (looks going beyond hotness points also his race, style) get him that automatic high demand. Where as guy 2 since hes asian doesn't have the same demand as guy 1 in this location with this target group because of different stereotypes and factors having to do with his target group (how they were raised, friends, family, social factors). So by saying looks its also saying apperance, race, style, culture. Guy 2 wasn't ugly when he first started he was a 6 which is above average, if a white guy with the same starting stats as guy 2 was put into the equation his demand would still be higher than guy 2's.
So thats what game comes down to, making your product the best you can to increase your demand to your target consumers.
One more thing that has to be noted is this. Another important factor is how hard you sell your product. If a guy with 6looks, 4demand for his target group, and 3's for every other category, put 0 work into selling his product, he probably won't sell anything. But if he put forth even 1 effort into selling in time he would eventually sell something, increase it to 6 and hes able to sell a product a month, increase it to 10 (10 meaning his out there approaching girls left and right and pushing it all the way to the end until they tell him to fuck off) and hes selling 3-5 a month maybe even more, if he improved his other factors he'd be a monster.
So thats why guys call it a numbers game or getting lucky. A lot of my friends are like this me included at this point, our products are actually above average, but there not so good that someone would just approach us to buy them. We put 0-1 effort into selling our product though and end up making no sales or the ocassional "lucky" sale that comes from our .5 averaged effort over a period of 6months.
You always hear people say, its just a numbers game, talk to a lot of girls you'll get some of them. Which is true, it is a numbers game. You are a product and your business is selling yourself. If we put game aside and just took say 20 random guys, there all there own product. Now make each of them do 100 approaches and each will get different results based on lots of factors. Theres tons of factors that effect your products success. (these are in no particular order)
1. The demand for your product (this is basically its own category since this effects how high the other factors need to be)
2. Your looks/style
3. Core confidence
4. Humor/wit
5. Your entitlement
6. Tolerance to social pressure
7. Persistance
8. Positivity
9. Values/Beliefs
10. body language
11. Voice
12. Eye Contact
13. Vibe
14. your identity
15. Lifestyle
16. Sex appeal
and the list can go on and on if i sat down and thought about it longer and lots of stuff could be categoriezed and clumped together then broken down even more but this is the general idea. Now if you look at everything and for each category you use a scale of 0-10. 0 being the lowest and 10 being the highest. Each of our 20 guys has a different score for each category. So say guy 1 has looks of 6, and demand of 8 and everything else is a 4, guy 2 only has a 1 demand in the location hes in with his targets and 6 looks with 4 for the rest of the categories. Guy 1 is going to be doing better so for guy 2 to sell his product hes going to have to raise each category as much as he can (making his product extremely good) this could in turn increase his demand as well.
So when were out there working on our game were improving our skills in each category. Were going out into sets being social practicing different things, this is giving our personality ranges that we can use, we develop humor, the ability to hold court, stay cool under pressure, be non needy, offer value, connect with people, vibe with people etc, going out builds these ranges up which enhances your product. With incredible game your numbers for each category will be hitting the 10 mark other than demand because thats not something you can personally control other than putting yourself in a location where your product is high demand. So with game your points are high for each factor this will allow you to still sell your product in areas where the demand is really low.
I think this is where the confusion with the whole Looks issue comes into play. So lets look at an example
Guy 1 is a hot built white guy with a looks rating of 9, the other categories are under developed at 3, he's located in Orange county CA and is targeting white girls 18-28 so his demand is high at nearly a 10.
Guy 2 is an Asian guy with looks at 6, everything else is the same as guy 1 but his demand is low at a 2.
So its obvious that these guys aren't going to get the same result. Guy 1 is going to be getting laid while guy 2 is going to be stratching his head saying its the looks.
The difference here is the demand in the target market. Because guy 2 has a small demand, hes jsut not going to be able to sell his product the same way guy 1 can with a high demand. So what does guy 2 do, he still wants those targets even though his demand is low so how can he change this? Well the answer is obvious, he puts in lots of work to raise each of the factors i listed before (working on game). So lets say he puts in 5hard years in the field and gym. Hes built nice now so his looks are now an 8, hes also got all the other factors to a 10 now, hes living the life he wants, hes funny, has communication down pat, etc. Because of all this he now goes back to the same target group to sell his product. Now his apperance has gone up, so since that is a way of offering value in your product that might or might not have an effect on the demand points. So lets say since asian guys have particular stereotypes associated with them in the usa even with his improved looks his demand has only risen from a 1 to a 4. But the glory here is once guy 2 speaks to the girl, since all his factors are at level 10, hes offering value on a whole new level. Since guy 2 has made himself into a REALLY good product the girls can't turn him down.
They saw the product but still didn't feel demand for it, but once testing the product out they realize how good it is and now the demand has actually risen as a result of him talking to her, his demand for the girl hes talking to could easily be peaking out at a 10 now.
So guy 1 is still fucking chicks left and right not putting much effort into it, where guy 2 had to put in 5 hard years worth of time. so guy 1 because of his looks (looks going beyond hotness points also his race, style) get him that automatic high demand. Where as guy 2 since hes asian doesn't have the same demand as guy 1 in this location with this target group because of different stereotypes and factors having to do with his target group (how they were raised, friends, family, social factors). So by saying looks its also saying apperance, race, style, culture. Guy 2 wasn't ugly when he first started he was a 6 which is above average, if a white guy with the same starting stats as guy 2 was put into the equation his demand would still be higher than guy 2's.
So thats what game comes down to, making your product the best you can to increase your demand to your target consumers.
One more thing that has to be noted is this. Another important factor is how hard you sell your product. If a guy with 6looks, 4demand for his target group, and 3's for every other category, put 0 work into selling his product, he probably won't sell anything. But if he put forth even 1 effort into selling in time he would eventually sell something, increase it to 6 and hes able to sell a product a month, increase it to 10 (10 meaning his out there approaching girls left and right and pushing it all the way to the end until they tell him to fuck off) and hes selling 3-5 a month maybe even more, if he improved his other factors he'd be a monster.
So thats why guys call it a numbers game or getting lucky. A lot of my friends are like this me included at this point, our products are actually above average, but there not so good that someone would just approach us to buy them. We put 0-1 effort into selling our product though and end up making no sales or the ocassional "lucky" sale that comes from our .5 averaged effort over a period of 6months.
Thursday, November 1, 2007
Update Time
So i haven't been keeping up to date with this blog. I stopped posting awhile ago but at times i'll come back and read over things i posted and see such a drastic change in myself/beliefs/values overall perspective in just a few months. Like its hard for me to even relate to the last post i made in here and i think a lot of this has to do with me coming more and more into alignment.
So right now i'm not working on game. Not doing cold approaches, not doing any of that. I'm focusing my time on playing poker and getting good and making money. My friend Carl's descriptive info in his myspace page sums me up and how i want my life to be. I made the decision to put everything i have into poker. Failure isn't an option for me, its just not possible i will do whatever it takes, i will be making 10k+ a month from poker.
It all lines up, playing poker for a living allows me to have the lifestyle i want to have, which is travel, great relationships, freedom. The funny thing is not being "in the game" has seemed to improve my game and overall social skills. Now i'm not sure if this is a blind spot thing where i'm saying well i'm not in the game now so i don't have to approach since i'm not working on that right now so i can feel "superior" and not bad about any interaction i may have that goes wrong because i'm not working on that. Doesn't feel that way to me though. I credit the change to becoming more in alignment with myself, slowly falling into the identity i want for myself and taking the action to do so. Making the decision that i will play poker for a living (at least for the initial part of my wealth plan before i get involved with assets) really lined stuff up for me. Its like i have purpose now and know what i should be doing at all time. I know why i'm doing what i'm doing, it makes sense to me i'm not playing some guessing game about my life and lying to myself about what it is i really want about life. Its like the path is clear to me. I see hot girls, i want to fuck them, but i don't feel any urgency, need because i know what i'm doing will result in the freedom to aquire that in the near future, so therefore i'm at ease. I don't care as much now about whatever people think, i still feel social pressure in situations, but generally i feel a lot more relaxed. Just the feeling of being on your purpose, taking action to make your dreams reality feels amazing and has brought a sort of calm more charismatic me out. I find it really interesting, that one switch that one line up thing in my mind did all of this. So much of tyler's stuff is becoming clear to me. I remeber a guy asking about his trouble hooking sets and how and tyler told him its about WHO you are. 6months ago i really couldn't get that it made sense on some level but i was thinking hmmmm can't there just be a line to hook? But now it makes so much sense. The whole idea of being in alignment, figuring out what you want from life, how you want to live it then going for it despite what anyone says and giving it everything, making failure not an option, you either get it or you die trying to get it, is just so powerful. Coming from that place the whole frame of an interaction is changed, your offering value, your happy with your life, you have abundance you not in need your cup is over flowing. Just amazing how i feel now and how coming more into alignment has created this. I'm not saying i'm done or made it i still have a hell of a long way to go, but from where i started being where i'am now at my age knowing 100% the life i want and knowing that for certain i will get it or die trying to get it has so much value to me.
So right now i'm not working on game. Not doing cold approaches, not doing any of that. I'm focusing my time on playing poker and getting good and making money. My friend Carl's descriptive info in his myspace page sums me up and how i want my life to be. I made the decision to put everything i have into poker. Failure isn't an option for me, its just not possible i will do whatever it takes, i will be making 10k+ a month from poker.
It all lines up, playing poker for a living allows me to have the lifestyle i want to have, which is travel, great relationships, freedom. The funny thing is not being "in the game" has seemed to improve my game and overall social skills. Now i'm not sure if this is a blind spot thing where i'm saying well i'm not in the game now so i don't have to approach since i'm not working on that right now so i can feel "superior" and not bad about any interaction i may have that goes wrong because i'm not working on that. Doesn't feel that way to me though. I credit the change to becoming more in alignment with myself, slowly falling into the identity i want for myself and taking the action to do so. Making the decision that i will play poker for a living (at least for the initial part of my wealth plan before i get involved with assets) really lined stuff up for me. Its like i have purpose now and know what i should be doing at all time. I know why i'm doing what i'm doing, it makes sense to me i'm not playing some guessing game about my life and lying to myself about what it is i really want about life. Its like the path is clear to me. I see hot girls, i want to fuck them, but i don't feel any urgency, need because i know what i'm doing will result in the freedom to aquire that in the near future, so therefore i'm at ease. I don't care as much now about whatever people think, i still feel social pressure in situations, but generally i feel a lot more relaxed. Just the feeling of being on your purpose, taking action to make your dreams reality feels amazing and has brought a sort of calm more charismatic me out. I find it really interesting, that one switch that one line up thing in my mind did all of this. So much of tyler's stuff is becoming clear to me. I remeber a guy asking about his trouble hooking sets and how and tyler told him its about WHO you are. 6months ago i really couldn't get that it made sense on some level but i was thinking hmmmm can't there just be a line to hook? But now it makes so much sense. The whole idea of being in alignment, figuring out what you want from life, how you want to live it then going for it despite what anyone says and giving it everything, making failure not an option, you either get it or you die trying to get it, is just so powerful. Coming from that place the whole frame of an interaction is changed, your offering value, your happy with your life, you have abundance you not in need your cup is over flowing. Just amazing how i feel now and how coming more into alignment has created this. I'm not saying i'm done or made it i still have a hell of a long way to go, but from where i started being where i'am now at my age knowing 100% the life i want and knowing that for certain i will get it or die trying to get it has so much value to me.
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