Yeah so i closed the chick from yesterday that i ran out of the computer lab behind and we have plans for wed.
I was thinking about why i haven{t converted with more of my numbers and the reason is since i havent been following up with them immediatley the same day and because i have so many numbers its almost overwhelming in my mind trying to figure out how im going to find the time to meet up with these different girls since i do have other time commitments like bodybuilding (which takes sooooo much time with eating meals etc)
So i did my 4 sets yesterday and closed them all, i probed for a venue change basically after chatting for a bit and getting a good vibe going ill ask them what there currently up to, one girl was on her way to church, 2 were going home and another one was in a hurry probably to go home so i didnt see the point in pushing a venue change like that but the idea that just came to my head now would be i could just get them to sit down at a nearby seat and run the cube on them or something or run some of the cube and do the rest later.
For me though it feels so much easier just focusing on a few girls a week and for some reason i think ill get better resutls that way. instead of going down a list and calling a shit load of girls all impersonally and setting up random dates that i don{t have the time for (ill still call the numbers for the practice and setup something with the girls it goes very well with)
I still have to work on my skills though, so right now i really want to get my direct opener down pat and be very comfortable with it so either tuesday or thursday im going to go to crowded ass downtown and spit that opener out atleast 50times if not more.
I still do around 3 approaches a day or as needed to add more girls to work on but i feel like can close girls by the end of the week if i approach and follow up very fast with the hang out, then on the meet up get them isolated and go for the close.
Gotta get going and print stuff out
Monday, February 26, 2007
Sunday, February 25, 2007
Still Alive
Lost internet at my house so getting online as much as i use to is tough which is actually a good thing since i{m saving a lot more time now.
So much to type about here and theres no way ill be able to type it all now. Veracruz was a lot of fun. Ive been hooking up with the FB a lot and diving into other numbers. I did a set last week and had a good venue change and ended up having her spend the night yesterday which didn{t turn out the way i wanted ill post about that later
As for the 30 challenge it has evolved into basically a weekly this is what i have to do this week kind of thing. Right now im at the point where i can get in sets fine and attempt the venue change, i probe for the venue change now by asking them what there up to now after ive chatted them for a bit. I would love to keep typing but im in the lab and i see a cute girl leaving
So much to type about here and theres no way ill be able to type it all now. Veracruz was a lot of fun. Ive been hooking up with the FB a lot and diving into other numbers. I did a set last week and had a good venue change and ended up having her spend the night yesterday which didn{t turn out the way i wanted ill post about that later
As for the 30 challenge it has evolved into basically a weekly this is what i have to do this week kind of thing. Right now im at the point where i can get in sets fine and attempt the venue change, i probe for the venue change now by asking them what there up to now after ive chatted them for a bit. I would love to keep typing but im in the lab and i see a cute girl leaving
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
Day 8- Day10, Trip
Been really busy lately. I've been owning up to my committment. Monday i knocked out my 4sets, 1 being direct and i went for the venue change even though it didn't work, cool just getting the words out of my mouth. I closed 3 of the 4sets.
Tuesday wasn't as good in terms of sets. the quality wasn't great and for some reason it was taking me long to get in sets, like i was hesitating. I was having a mind problem where i was worried aobut a previous girl i closed seeing me do the same to another or having my fb see me which is lame i know so i have to fight through that mess.
Today was even worse in terms of sets. I'm still 3 sets in the hole and since its V-day my FB is set on coming over (we've hooked up at least once everyday since we first hooked up wow) so i feel like shit not doing my sets so i 'm guessing i'm gonna ahve to have her come over get her out then do my sets in the freezing cold in the middle of the night....if thats not committment i don't know what is.
Tomorrow me and big group of internationals are going to a huge Carnival in Veracruz from thursday night to sunday. The carnival is the 3biggest in the world with Rio being number 1 and New Orleans being number 2. The turnout is said to be 5million people so i'm gonna turn on crazy game mode and look to do 200 sets on friday and saturday since those are our full days and 50-100 on sunday.
My game plan is going to be going for the venue change in every single set, going for it so much that i get really programmed into saying it. The venue change will be for them to come to my hotel.
Tuesday wasn't as good in terms of sets. the quality wasn't great and for some reason it was taking me long to get in sets, like i was hesitating. I was having a mind problem where i was worried aobut a previous girl i closed seeing me do the same to another or having my fb see me which is lame i know so i have to fight through that mess.
Today was even worse in terms of sets. I'm still 3 sets in the hole and since its V-day my FB is set on coming over (we've hooked up at least once everyday since we first hooked up wow) so i feel like shit not doing my sets so i 'm guessing i'm gonna ahve to have her come over get her out then do my sets in the freezing cold in the middle of the night....if thats not committment i don't know what is.
Tomorrow me and big group of internationals are going to a huge Carnival in Veracruz from thursday night to sunday. The carnival is the 3biggest in the world with Rio being number 1 and New Orleans being number 2. The turnout is said to be 5million people so i'm gonna turn on crazy game mode and look to do 200 sets on friday and saturday since those are our full days and 50-100 on sunday.
My game plan is going to be going for the venue change in every single set, going for it so much that i get really programmed into saying it. The venue change will be for them to come to my hotel.
Monday, February 12, 2007
Day 7
Well i failed myself today. I stayed up really late and woke up late. From there my phone was rining its ass off. I spoke with my family, i spoke with a few girls and friends so i spent 2hours or so on the phone. Made some food then HBClose calls me and ends up coming over (its about 4:30pm at this point)
She helps me study for my spanish exam. We study, take a break and get a blow job, study some more take another break and have sex then we take a nap together, wake up an hour later eat dinner then walk her back home its about 9:00pm at this point.
I get back home and talk to my German roommate for an hour. I have the idea at this point to go to campus and work on a paper so i can get my 5sets in. But the time keeps moving and the idea of walking to campus with my lap top in my bag disturbs me a bit, the last thing i want is someone stealing my laptop from me.
Then my phone rings and i talk on it for about 30min, then my roommate jordan comes in and gives me a lay report for a girl he was trying to close for a long time.
Phone rings again i talk, then decide its time to work on my paper (its 11:00 at this point)
I sit down and boom the phone rings again, its the girl that had the bad experience here i'm going to call her HBIllinois. Shes been calling me a lot since yesterday and we talk about 2times a day now. She calls we talk for a bit but she has to go eat pizza and hang out with her friend.
I get back to my paper then my ex calls me (who i guess i shouldn't be talking to, but i don't know, the connection is so deep i don't see a possible way of breaking it) so we talk for awhile. Then i start talking with jordan again, its 12:30 at this point.
So i sit to start my paper again and boom HBIllinois calls and we talk for another 20min and finally i do my paper after that.
I was in an insane outside my head state with all the talking i was doing today. I'm feeling very comfortable leading interactions now. Today i had the state where it felt like whatever i said was going to be money which it was. Everyones state would improve as a result of talking to me. I was very outside my head and every just flowed i was very on. I credit this to having a good conversation with my Grandma and Mom, hanging out with HBClose today and hooking up with her twice, beling validated by HBIllinois calling me a lot and really wanting to see me bad and missing me, being validated by my ex calling me a lot and wanting to see me, having a good vibe conversation with my german roommate and joking around with Jordan all day.
I've had states like this back home when i would do mass approaches (25+) on campus in the course of 3hours. At the end of all those interactions i got the similiar i'm on state.
Anyways the first 7days are over and its time to figure out what i'm going to do for the next 7days.
My time is being pulled at in lots of ways. From 1 week of doing 5sets a week(missed doing them on day 7 though) with one direct approach i now i have 20 or so contact information from girls, more confidence and abundance mindset and what seems to be a solid FB.
I also have a shitload of numbers and contact info of chicks to sort out, so i figure i'll be doing lots of day 2's this week. So my plan is this.
4sets a day (1 direct set, and 1 Venue change attempt)
also 1 random act of kindness each day
This seems to be realistic for my current situation. I'll manage my list out and work on managing my time better since i have people pulling for my time from all angles now.
I'm off to bed.
She helps me study for my spanish exam. We study, take a break and get a blow job, study some more take another break and have sex then we take a nap together, wake up an hour later eat dinner then walk her back home its about 9:00pm at this point.
I get back home and talk to my German roommate for an hour. I have the idea at this point to go to campus and work on a paper so i can get my 5sets in. But the time keeps moving and the idea of walking to campus with my lap top in my bag disturbs me a bit, the last thing i want is someone stealing my laptop from me.
Then my phone rings and i talk on it for about 30min, then my roommate jordan comes in and gives me a lay report for a girl he was trying to close for a long time.
Phone rings again i talk, then decide its time to work on my paper (its 11:00 at this point)
I sit down and boom the phone rings again, its the girl that had the bad experience here i'm going to call her HBIllinois. Shes been calling me a lot since yesterday and we talk about 2times a day now. She calls we talk for a bit but she has to go eat pizza and hang out with her friend.
I get back to my paper then my ex calls me (who i guess i shouldn't be talking to, but i don't know, the connection is so deep i don't see a possible way of breaking it) so we talk for awhile. Then i start talking with jordan again, its 12:30 at this point.
So i sit to start my paper again and boom HBIllinois calls and we talk for another 20min and finally i do my paper after that.
I was in an insane outside my head state with all the talking i was doing today. I'm feeling very comfortable leading interactions now. Today i had the state where it felt like whatever i said was going to be money which it was. Everyones state would improve as a result of talking to me. I was very outside my head and every just flowed i was very on. I credit this to having a good conversation with my Grandma and Mom, hanging out with HBClose today and hooking up with her twice, beling validated by HBIllinois calling me a lot and really wanting to see me bad and missing me, being validated by my ex calling me a lot and wanting to see me, having a good vibe conversation with my german roommate and joking around with Jordan all day.
I've had states like this back home when i would do mass approaches (25+) on campus in the course of 3hours. At the end of all those interactions i got the similiar i'm on state.
Anyways the first 7days are over and its time to figure out what i'm going to do for the next 7days.
My time is being pulled at in lots of ways. From 1 week of doing 5sets a week(missed doing them on day 7 though) with one direct approach i now i have 20 or so contact information from girls, more confidence and abundance mindset and what seems to be a solid FB.
I also have a shitload of numbers and contact info of chicks to sort out, so i figure i'll be doing lots of day 2's this week. So my plan is this.
4sets a day (1 direct set, and 1 Venue change attempt)
also 1 random act of kindness each day
This seems to be realistic for my current situation. I'll manage my list out and work on managing my time better since i have people pulling for my time from all angles now.
I'm off to bed.
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Day 4- Day6 (LR)
Wow so a lot has been going on these past days. Day 4 i hit all my sets like i made the commitment too. At this point i can't remeber them but they generally all go about the same give or take and leave each day with at 3 numbers/emails.
At the end of Day 4 i go on a Day 2 with a girl (the one i closed the previous day right infront of a whole crew of asfault laying men that were all staring her down hard) that lives very close to me and i mean close (i could probably throw a rock at her house from my house and hit it assuming i had a running start)
So we meet outside then go for a walk. I love the idea of her living close but it also worries me a bit too. We go to a park close to my house and sit on swings. We talk a lot, practice spanish etc. I push her on the swing for awhile too and look to get as much touch in as i can. So after about 2hours or so i walk her back home see a bit of her house and we call it a night.
Day 5 ensues, i knock out 4sets on campus throughout the day and closed i think 3 or all 4 of them. I still had 1 more set left that i planned to go back out to get. I come back to my house and planned to handle my whole list of girls. I have so many numbers and contacts of girls that i really need to get it together. I'm going to call each and everyone and go for meetups and from there i'll color code the girls based on how they seem. Flakey will get a particular color, willing to meet up another etc and the girls i've spent time with already will get another color. This will make shit easier to manage. I love the abundance mindset i'm getting now. So i get ready to start then the HBClose from yesterday sends me a message online. I go with her while she walks her dog. We walk for awhile with her dog then we sit on a bench and talk while i sort of entertain her wild dog.
They say it roughly takes 7-10hrs to lay a girl and this one felt ready so after another 2 hours of talking with her i made plans to see her at my house in 2 hours. So i get back home and get myself together.
I send her a message and go meet her at her house and make the 20second journey to my house with her. I set it up so we have to be in my room. I give her a tour of the house then come to my room last. In my room i had all my spanish hw laid out on my bed cause my ploy was to have her "help me with spanish"......we look it over for a bit, she brings her hw and she has me read it to her so i lay down and read it. She lays down beside me i feel the anxiety coming on because i know i have to make a move. I can tell its time. I evenutally stop reading the paper and we talk, its def time so i say i want to kiss you and she says ok and we kiss, makeout, sex no LMR what so ever. Really good lay shes really into it and gets off faster than me!
We chill afterwards and play around with the music on my computer. After an hour she says she has to go because she has an exam the next day and needs to get up early to study. I'm thinking thats good cause i want to hang out with my friends. I tell her that we'll go back in 5min and to lay on me. She lays on me and another makeout sessions takes place. Shes grabbing on my dick and ends up giving me a really good blowjob. Awesome shit.
I take her back home then head out to my friends party. This was the biggest party i've ever seen must of been 200+ people there in one tiny house. I actually feel a bit out of state there not sure why. I sort of did an approach but it turned out to be on a girl i sarged already and had contact info for and she seemed a bit mad that i didn't remeber her but i played it off by saying it was her hair since it looked different. Also the girl from a few post down was there and i didn't really talk much to her but she seemed happy to see me. There were so many people there that i knew but it was so fucking crowded and hot as shit. I sweating my ass off i think that ruined my state a lot.
I end up leaving a bit later the cops came and wanted everyone inside but it was just to crowded....the party was so good it was bad because of the crowdedness. I actually felt guilty on my way back home because i didn't feel i got all my 5 sets for the day but figured it was fair since i spent a lot of time in a day3 and getting laid. (but still felt bad for not hitting a solid 4th set which is good i guess since it shows i'm very committed to the process)
On day 6 my friend has a BBQ. I'm there the majority of the day and do some sorry ass sets to count as my 5. I do 3sets with some girls at the party i was drunk after awhile but still did a direct one and 2 more but they were very sorry excuses for sets. I felt it was good just being out hanging out with people though but i must still own up to my commitment.
I came back home and HBClose hits me up. Shes going to a friends bday party wants to know if i want to come i say i would but i'm sort of a drunk mess now and don't want to embarass you. She decides to come here. She comes here and says she can only stay 10min wow. Go straight to the room, i tell her about my day and says she can smell the alcohol i tell her i'd kiss you but the alocohol is nasty and i don't want you to deal with that she says its ok. Makeout and sex. Amazing. Then right after were done her phone rings and her friends are ready to hit the party up with her. She rolls out.
I was damn drunk after the party but still had 2 sets left. I was a mess and couldn't make it far but i went to the gas station and decided to do a short set with the guy working there and another guy in the store which was interesting. I felt lame about it but at least i did something.
I post maybe in alittle or tomorrow again about my plan
At the end of Day 4 i go on a Day 2 with a girl (the one i closed the previous day right infront of a whole crew of asfault laying men that were all staring her down hard) that lives very close to me and i mean close (i could probably throw a rock at her house from my house and hit it assuming i had a running start)
So we meet outside then go for a walk. I love the idea of her living close but it also worries me a bit too. We go to a park close to my house and sit on swings. We talk a lot, practice spanish etc. I push her on the swing for awhile too and look to get as much touch in as i can. So after about 2hours or so i walk her back home see a bit of her house and we call it a night.
Day 5 ensues, i knock out 4sets on campus throughout the day and closed i think 3 or all 4 of them. I still had 1 more set left that i planned to go back out to get. I come back to my house and planned to handle my whole list of girls. I have so many numbers and contacts of girls that i really need to get it together. I'm going to call each and everyone and go for meetups and from there i'll color code the girls based on how they seem. Flakey will get a particular color, willing to meet up another etc and the girls i've spent time with already will get another color. This will make shit easier to manage. I love the abundance mindset i'm getting now. So i get ready to start then the HBClose from yesterday sends me a message online. I go with her while she walks her dog. We walk for awhile with her dog then we sit on a bench and talk while i sort of entertain her wild dog.
They say it roughly takes 7-10hrs to lay a girl and this one felt ready so after another 2 hours of talking with her i made plans to see her at my house in 2 hours. So i get back home and get myself together.
I send her a message and go meet her at her house and make the 20second journey to my house with her. I set it up so we have to be in my room. I give her a tour of the house then come to my room last. In my room i had all my spanish hw laid out on my bed cause my ploy was to have her "help me with spanish"......we look it over for a bit, she brings her hw and she has me read it to her so i lay down and read it. She lays down beside me i feel the anxiety coming on because i know i have to make a move. I can tell its time. I evenutally stop reading the paper and we talk, its def time so i say i want to kiss you and she says ok and we kiss, makeout, sex no LMR what so ever. Really good lay shes really into it and gets off faster than me!
We chill afterwards and play around with the music on my computer. After an hour she says she has to go because she has an exam the next day and needs to get up early to study. I'm thinking thats good cause i want to hang out with my friends. I tell her that we'll go back in 5min and to lay on me. She lays on me and another makeout sessions takes place. Shes grabbing on my dick and ends up giving me a really good blowjob. Awesome shit.
I take her back home then head out to my friends party. This was the biggest party i've ever seen must of been 200+ people there in one tiny house. I actually feel a bit out of state there not sure why. I sort of did an approach but it turned out to be on a girl i sarged already and had contact info for and she seemed a bit mad that i didn't remeber her but i played it off by saying it was her hair since it looked different. Also the girl from a few post down was there and i didn't really talk much to her but she seemed happy to see me. There were so many people there that i knew but it was so fucking crowded and hot as shit. I sweating my ass off i think that ruined my state a lot.
I end up leaving a bit later the cops came and wanted everyone inside but it was just to crowded....the party was so good it was bad because of the crowdedness. I actually felt guilty on my way back home because i didn't feel i got all my 5 sets for the day but figured it was fair since i spent a lot of time in a day3 and getting laid. (but still felt bad for not hitting a solid 4th set which is good i guess since it shows i'm very committed to the process)
On day 6 my friend has a BBQ. I'm there the majority of the day and do some sorry ass sets to count as my 5. I do 3sets with some girls at the party i was drunk after awhile but still did a direct one and 2 more but they were very sorry excuses for sets. I felt it was good just being out hanging out with people though but i must still own up to my commitment.
I came back home and HBClose hits me up. Shes going to a friends bday party wants to know if i want to come i say i would but i'm sort of a drunk mess now and don't want to embarass you. She decides to come here. She comes here and says she can only stay 10min wow. Go straight to the room, i tell her about my day and says she can smell the alcohol i tell her i'd kiss you but the alocohol is nasty and i don't want you to deal with that she says its ok. Makeout and sex. Amazing. Then right after were done her phone rings and her friends are ready to hit the party up with her. She rolls out.
I was damn drunk after the party but still had 2 sets left. I was a mess and couldn't make it far but i went to the gas station and decided to do a short set with the guy working there and another guy in the store which was interesting. I felt lame about it but at least i did something.
I post maybe in alittle or tomorrow again about my plan
Friday, February 9, 2007
Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Day 3
Another good day. I'm feeling more like i want to feel everyday. I did my 5 sets today 3 of them throughout the day and the last 2 i had to go out tonight and do on campus. I closed 3 of the 2. I feel the abudance. Theres no question about will i close a set or not because its something i know that will happen, i know i can do it. Now my focus is getting these day 2's going and kicking the bitch out of me thats scared of the whole day 2 process. This game is all about getting more and more comfortable and different situations.
I'll be getting my number situation worked out and calling them all tomorrow. I have a big spread sheet with all these numbers and emails what i'm going to do is color code it so i know whats going on. I love the game! And its only a small amount of time before i get some success i'll keep pushing and pushing past comfort zones.
I'll be getting my number situation worked out and calling them all tomorrow. I have a big spread sheet with all these numbers and emails what i'm going to do is color code it so i know whats going on. I love the game! And its only a small amount of time before i get some success i'll keep pushing and pushing past comfort zones.
Day 2
Its amazing the changes that can occur in a day. Today started off sort of like day 1 did. I was sitting down eating food reading game material and then i thought you know what i'm only going to read material or listen to stuff before bed from now on and spend the day in as much social interaction as possible.
I went to do my laundry and got a set in on the way. I don't really remeber what i said to opened but i ran a short set with her and closed her....still @ close.
I opened 2 more sets when i was in the process of doing/waiting for my laundry. One was this cute girl that worked at a video store i was bitching out when i passed the store then i said fuck it and i went in the set went well but the girl turned out to be 16......so i ejected. Another girl i opened and started getting in set with but i ejected because she looked like jail bait too.
So i get back to the house and start talking with my roommates, seems like this is when the switch took place. I got on the phone and just started calling girls, i really felt anxiety at first but then i literally stopped caring, i really didn't care about the outcome at all, don't know how that happened. I got in touch with one girl and went on a Day 2 with her right there on the spot.
It was fun she showed me some cool stuff in the city, her cousin was there too. I did that leading kino that my natural friend always does and it was working good. I could feel her attraction for me. She wants to take me to this club with her on friday, i'm looking to seal the deal with her soon, maybe tomorrow. Shes a really sweet girl.
I get back home and start hitting the phone hard again. Everyone is studying since test time is this week. I call numbers that i don't even remeber and say that i have no idea who this is ect it was fun and funny and the interactions all went good.
The girl from the other day also wanted to meet up but i missed her since i was out with the other girl i think i will meet up with her today.
I could of called it a day but i still had 2 more approaches left to do. So i go back out sort of late and hit campus i see this sexy girl in gym pants walking towards me and i opened with out hesitation. She seems thrown off a bit and i use a direct opener saying that she seemed like someone i had to meet. We kept talking and the vibe got really good. I hooked in good and held very strong eye contact with her, i felt very calm and good in that set. We finally exchanged numbers and msn information hugged and were on our way. I'm looking to set something up with her tonight her ass is amazing.
I get on campus and run into a girl i know from the international programs. We talk for awhile and i can notice a huge difference in the way i'm coming off. Everything is flowing naturally, i'm calm and relaxed, i don't care about an outcome and i have a serious abundance mindset going on. I set plans up with her to do something at the end of the week. I find my last set and use the default opener i've been using. Transition right into vibing. I'm so relaxed and comfortable that i think its keeping the girls there. I make strong eye contact now as well not like yesterday when i would flee my eyes, today i kept them right on the girl in a really confident way. I number close her then head back home.
I got online and talked to the girl from the previous post (girl that got raped)...shes back home now and we talked and i told her how i never felt such a fast connection with someone in my life and she said she felt the same. She misses me a lot and i miss her a lot. Were making plans to see each other soon. I love connections like this, its just like my friend will say....bitter sweet. You enjoy the connection so much its real, its life, what life should be about...having lots of wonderful deep connection relationships with people. The sad thing is though is keeping the fire lit, seems like once u put yourself out there and show feelings etc some girls will turn away...its like ideally i want a girlfriend that i can just love and have all to me but i know those same feelings that feel so good will result in the destruction of the relationship
maybe i missing something here. A lot of this seems like relationship expectations/management skills that i don't really have now so i'll do some reading on this if anyone has any ideas please share.
Today was an amazing day and i'm keeping it up, tomorrow will be another great day.
I went to do my laundry and got a set in on the way. I don't really remeber what i said to opened but i ran a short set with her and closed her....still @ close.
I opened 2 more sets when i was in the process of doing/waiting for my laundry. One was this cute girl that worked at a video store i was bitching out when i passed the store then i said fuck it and i went in the set went well but the girl turned out to be 16......so i ejected. Another girl i opened and started getting in set with but i ejected because she looked like jail bait too.
So i get back to the house and start talking with my roommates, seems like this is when the switch took place. I got on the phone and just started calling girls, i really felt anxiety at first but then i literally stopped caring, i really didn't care about the outcome at all, don't know how that happened. I got in touch with one girl and went on a Day 2 with her right there on the spot.
It was fun she showed me some cool stuff in the city, her cousin was there too. I did that leading kino that my natural friend always does and it was working good. I could feel her attraction for me. She wants to take me to this club with her on friday, i'm looking to seal the deal with her soon, maybe tomorrow. Shes a really sweet girl.
I get back home and start hitting the phone hard again. Everyone is studying since test time is this week. I call numbers that i don't even remeber and say that i have no idea who this is ect it was fun and funny and the interactions all went good.
The girl from the other day also wanted to meet up but i missed her since i was out with the other girl i think i will meet up with her today.
I could of called it a day but i still had 2 more approaches left to do. So i go back out sort of late and hit campus i see this sexy girl in gym pants walking towards me and i opened with out hesitation. She seems thrown off a bit and i use a direct opener saying that she seemed like someone i had to meet. We kept talking and the vibe got really good. I hooked in good and held very strong eye contact with her, i felt very calm and good in that set. We finally exchanged numbers and msn information hugged and were on our way. I'm looking to set something up with her tonight her ass is amazing.
I get on campus and run into a girl i know from the international programs. We talk for awhile and i can notice a huge difference in the way i'm coming off. Everything is flowing naturally, i'm calm and relaxed, i don't care about an outcome and i have a serious abundance mindset going on. I set plans up with her to do something at the end of the week. I find my last set and use the default opener i've been using. Transition right into vibing. I'm so relaxed and comfortable that i think its keeping the girls there. I make strong eye contact now as well not like yesterday when i would flee my eyes, today i kept them right on the girl in a really confident way. I number close her then head back home.
I got online and talked to the girl from the previous post (girl that got raped)...shes back home now and we talked and i told her how i never felt such a fast connection with someone in my life and she said she felt the same. She misses me a lot and i miss her a lot. Were making plans to see each other soon. I love connections like this, its just like my friend will say....bitter sweet. You enjoy the connection so much its real, its life, what life should be about...having lots of wonderful deep connection relationships with people. The sad thing is though is keeping the fire lit, seems like once u put yourself out there and show feelings etc some girls will turn away...its like ideally i want a girlfriend that i can just love and have all to me but i know those same feelings that feel so good will result in the destruction of the relationship
maybe i missing something here. A lot of this seems like relationship expectations/management skills that i don't really have now so i'll do some reading on this if anyone has any ideas please share.
Today was an amazing day and i'm keeping it up, tomorrow will be another great day.
Tuesday, February 6, 2007
Day 1
Today was the kick off. I was planning to go out during the day, but my friend brought his date over and she brought 2 of here cute sisters. So it was 3 guys and 3 gals. They came over to the house and we had a BBQ. The language barrier issue was a bit tough, finding stuff to say etc but what i did was teach english to her and had her teach me spanish. It was a good time, it was also cool watching one of my friends gaming his girl since he seems to have a lot of natural game. I copied a lot of what he was doing which was lots of kino, strong eye contact and leading.
I did my best to not be outcome dependent, but still that line is in my head, that inner chode/wussy that needs his ass kicked out of my life. Also kept the abudance persepective in my mind which was still a bit hard to really feel , like i'll tell myself over and over these positive mindsets i want to take on and it responds with yeaaaaah right. I though up some cool ways to get over this though
So after they leave i go out to do my 5approaches for the day. I made it MUST to do a min of 5 approaches a day, i'll most likey being hitting 10+ sets a day but as a bare min i must do 5 approaches, there is no way out of it (the only way out of it is if there is a life or death/injury/terrible illness situation taking place)
I hit my campus here late, finding sets was a bit tough. The first set i did was a walking set, i lined up so i would be walking to same way she was walking. I started talking with her the same usual thing, opened, then went into basic where are you from in mexico shit in which we vibed a bit about and me being from the united states, she was a bit standoffish though and she ended up having to cross the street to go another direction. Lame set
The next set i approached on campus was asking a chick how to get somewhere, i don't know what it is about this approach but it always gets a good reaction and leading into something else is very easy and natural feeling. Its like how do you get to x ok cool high five whats your name then go on from there. This girl was sort of on the move though, i should of used some default routines i have to hold her there longer or at least went for a close.
The next set was this sexy girl sitting down on a bench. I approach with the same thing, she speaks very very little enlgish but my spanish is getting better and where able to talk to a point. The set goes good and we do our best to understand each other using our hands, writing stuff down pointing to pictures etc it was fun. I @ close her which i don't like doing, my logic there was well if i get her number talking to her will be tough, but i should of still got the number and do some text game with her which i could use a translator for to send flirty messages. Oh well.
The next set the girl was in a hurry it seemed, i did the opener, then went into meeting her then she was in the motion of leaving like ok i told you what you asked now i'm getting out of here, i'm going to start running a hook routine in situations like that to see what happens. I figure its better than just letting the set end right there.
The last set was hard to find, i ended up opening a guy and a girl with the same shit. This set hooked very well they were really interested in me and kept on talking, i actually had to eject myself because i didn't feel like talking with them forever.
All in all i felt good for going out and doing it even though the sets were a bet lame and rushed. I could of easily said ahhh well i had a day 2 so i'll just go to bed now and sarge tomorrow but hell no a min of 5sets every single day.
To push myself a bit more i'm going to make it a MUST that i must do at least 1 direct approach a day as one of my five starting from day 2 (tomorrow) and on the weekends i'm going to do some suicide missions.....basically where i go somewhere and say/do crazy stuff to push my comfort zone A LOT.
I did my best to not be outcome dependent, but still that line is in my head, that inner chode/wussy that needs his ass kicked out of my life. Also kept the abudance persepective in my mind which was still a bit hard to really feel , like i'll tell myself over and over these positive mindsets i want to take on and it responds with yeaaaaah right. I though up some cool ways to get over this though
So after they leave i go out to do my 5approaches for the day. I made it MUST to do a min of 5 approaches a day, i'll most likey being hitting 10+ sets a day but as a bare min i must do 5 approaches, there is no way out of it (the only way out of it is if there is a life or death/injury/terrible illness situation taking place)
I hit my campus here late, finding sets was a bit tough. The first set i did was a walking set, i lined up so i would be walking to same way she was walking. I started talking with her the same usual thing, opened, then went into basic where are you from in mexico shit in which we vibed a bit about and me being from the united states, she was a bit standoffish though and she ended up having to cross the street to go another direction. Lame set
The next set i approached on campus was asking a chick how to get somewhere, i don't know what it is about this approach but it always gets a good reaction and leading into something else is very easy and natural feeling. Its like how do you get to x ok cool high five whats your name then go on from there. This girl was sort of on the move though, i should of used some default routines i have to hold her there longer or at least went for a close.
The next set was this sexy girl sitting down on a bench. I approach with the same thing, she speaks very very little enlgish but my spanish is getting better and where able to talk to a point. The set goes good and we do our best to understand each other using our hands, writing stuff down pointing to pictures etc it was fun. I @ close her which i don't like doing, my logic there was well if i get her number talking to her will be tough, but i should of still got the number and do some text game with her which i could use a translator for to send flirty messages. Oh well.
The next set the girl was in a hurry it seemed, i did the opener, then went into meeting her then she was in the motion of leaving like ok i told you what you asked now i'm getting out of here, i'm going to start running a hook routine in situations like that to see what happens. I figure its better than just letting the set end right there.
The last set was hard to find, i ended up opening a guy and a girl with the same shit. This set hooked very well they were really interested in me and kept on talking, i actually had to eject myself because i didn't feel like talking with them forever.
All in all i felt good for going out and doing it even though the sets were a bet lame and rushed. I could of easily said ahhh well i had a day 2 so i'll just go to bed now and sarge tomorrow but hell no a min of 5sets every single day.
To push myself a bit more i'm going to make it a MUST that i must do at least 1 direct approach a day as one of my five starting from day 2 (tomorrow) and on the weekends i'm going to do some suicide missions.....basically where i go somewhere and say/do crazy stuff to push my comfort zone A LOT.
Saturday, February 3, 2007
I'm Taking Over
So i was reading on the RSD forum and read about Speedy's 30 day challenge. It really set a fire off in my head and now i'm doing one.
I will approach chicks for 30 days straight be it night time, day time or both. I will post at the end of each day about what happens.
My goal for this 30 day challenge is to take on an abundance mindset, become indifferent to the outcomes of situations, to become a person that offers value and to destroy the "i don't know what to say" filter in my mind.
I will reach these goals by approaching sets every single day, i will open sets using whatever pops into my head but as a default i'll use Hey, my name is Robert. After opening i'll vibe with the girl about whatever i feel like talking about since whatever i have to say is money. I'll get touch going on early by shaking her hand/doing handshakes and continue to touch for the rest of the time i know her. If i have the time i'll instant date/venue change the chick by saying "Hey i know a really cool place close to here, your coming with me",if i don't have time i'll number close. I'll qualify the chick by using my TRUE qualifcations for a chick at this point in my life..... Looks good to me, loves sex (both forms, performing and receving) and has a high sex drive, has a passion in life and someone i really enjoy being around. So those qualifcations will always be in my mind and it'll come off to the chick via probing questions and unconsciously. I'll connect by asking her if she could do ANYTHING and failure wasn't an option and money wasn't an issue what would she do? I'll vibe through what she says naturally and be geuinly interested in her passion. I'll then let her ask the same question back on me and go into my grounding routine (which i'm changing now, i'm just going to talk about my childhood up until where i'am now 100% natural and uncanned so it'll be a bit different everytime) and intertwind them together. I'll get her back to my house and in my room as a default by saying i have to show you some cool pictures (unless the situation reads different). From there i'll escalate into kissing by tickling her, then going straight for the kiss. If LMR occurs i'll wash rinse repeat.
So there goes i've covered my shit. This whole processes is focused on vibing and living in the moment.
And to help destroy the "I don't know what to say" filter at the end of each day i'll go on this site http://www.zokutou.co.uk/randomword/ and pick a word for the day and post it here. That'll be the word i default too the following day when that filter wants to tell me i don't have anything to say. I'll find something to say off that word and worst case scenario i'll just say that word as random as it'll be.
Todays word is Winded
Ok all is set and i'm pumped to get started will post day 1's report tomorrow!
I will approach chicks for 30 days straight be it night time, day time or both. I will post at the end of each day about what happens.
My goal for this 30 day challenge is to take on an abundance mindset, become indifferent to the outcomes of situations, to become a person that offers value and to destroy the "i don't know what to say" filter in my mind.
I will reach these goals by approaching sets every single day, i will open sets using whatever pops into my head but as a default i'll use Hey, my name is Robert. After opening i'll vibe with the girl about whatever i feel like talking about since whatever i have to say is money. I'll get touch going on early by shaking her hand/doing handshakes and continue to touch for the rest of the time i know her. If i have the time i'll instant date/venue change the chick by saying "Hey i know a really cool place close to here, your coming with me",if i don't have time i'll number close. I'll qualify the chick by using my TRUE qualifcations for a chick at this point in my life..... Looks good to me, loves sex (both forms, performing and receving) and has a high sex drive, has a passion in life and someone i really enjoy being around. So those qualifcations will always be in my mind and it'll come off to the chick via probing questions and unconsciously. I'll connect by asking her if she could do ANYTHING and failure wasn't an option and money wasn't an issue what would she do? I'll vibe through what she says naturally and be geuinly interested in her passion. I'll then let her ask the same question back on me and go into my grounding routine (which i'm changing now, i'm just going to talk about my childhood up until where i'am now 100% natural and uncanned so it'll be a bit different everytime) and intertwind them together. I'll get her back to my house and in my room as a default by saying i have to show you some cool pictures (unless the situation reads different). From there i'll escalate into kissing by tickling her, then going straight for the kiss. If LMR occurs i'll wash rinse repeat.
So there goes i've covered my shit. This whole processes is focused on vibing and living in the moment.
And to help destroy the "I don't know what to say" filter at the end of each day i'll go on this site http://www.zokutou.co.uk/randomword/ and pick a word for the day and post it here. That'll be the word i default too the following day when that filter wants to tell me i don't have anything to say. I'll find something to say off that word and worst case scenario i'll just say that word as random as it'll be.
Todays word is Winded
Ok all is set and i'm pumped to get started will post day 1's report tomorrow!
Friday, February 2, 2007
Sarging the other day and talk with grungey
Had a long sarge session the other day. I did a fair amoun t of sets and most of them went pretty good. I ended up number closing 8chicks. I had trouble getting out this really direct opener that grungey wanted me to use. When i was sarging i ran into one of my french friends here and he started sarging with me and uses a REALLY direct opener so it pushed me to use it too. We sarged for a long time which was a lot of fun.
Yesterday i did a short 1hour sarging session and used the original opener i used when getting here. Which was basically asking for directions and then breaking into conversation from there. Every set i did blew right open with no problems at all. This also happened maybe because i was approaching them head on with a direct purpose while before i was approaching them by basically talking with them in the direction that they were walking. Either way yesterday was like a chicken shoot.
I talked to Grungey last night and basically told him what was going on. And he said that its time to stop getting numbers. He said my goal now is to instant date in every single set, no instant date, then no numbers. I also told him about the opener and said not to worry about it and practice it alittle everyday until i'm comfortable using it as my primary but use the opener i'm comfortable using to not waste time
Its going to be tough not going for the number of some cute chick. What i'll probably do is go for the instant date in every set then get the number if she can't but not make a big deal of the numbers. I've been using numbers as a source of validation and i'm no longer going to do that.
So from now on i'm going to do my long sets and pick them out well (stationary girls) for the venue changes, and if i do find myself in a short set which i do a lot i'll still go for the venue change even if i know for a fact shes going to class or if i have class or something to do, then go for the number close after the objection. And not make a big deal of the number and call it immediatly.
Yesterday i did a short 1hour sarging session and used the original opener i used when getting here. Which was basically asking for directions and then breaking into conversation from there. Every set i did blew right open with no problems at all. This also happened maybe because i was approaching them head on with a direct purpose while before i was approaching them by basically talking with them in the direction that they were walking. Either way yesterday was like a chicken shoot.
I talked to Grungey last night and basically told him what was going on. And he said that its time to stop getting numbers. He said my goal now is to instant date in every single set, no instant date, then no numbers. I also told him about the opener and said not to worry about it and practice it alittle everyday until i'm comfortable using it as my primary but use the opener i'm comfortable using to not waste time
Its going to be tough not going for the number of some cute chick. What i'll probably do is go for the instant date in every set then get the number if she can't but not make a big deal of the numbers. I've been using numbers as a source of validation and i'm no longer going to do that.
So from now on i'm going to do my long sets and pick them out well (stationary girls) for the venue changes, and if i do find myself in a short set which i do a lot i'll still go for the venue change even if i know for a fact shes going to class or if i have class or something to do, then go for the number close after the objection. And not make a big deal of the number and call it immediatly.
Thursday, February 1, 2007
Here it is
(posting this since its on my mind, still have a lot of other stuff to post)
Heres the list of things i have to get really good at. Being an instructor sounds so far away! Sounds sort of funny too since i'm not even a PUA yet and here i'am wanting to be an instructor, but in all honesty this is what i want to be!
I have a lot of work to put in here while in Monterrey. I will work my ass off here and make some serious progress, not expecting to be at the instructor level by the time i leave but at a point that'll allow grungey to get me to an instructor level pretty fast. When i'm back home i'm planning on staying with grungey for 2weeks for so and with his intensity each day worth of going out feels like a week of going out. Then after that i'll sit in on 3-4 workshops with him and after that i should be ready to start helping at the workshops and eventually start teaching.
*Skills*
Eye Contact
Open all set types (directly and indirectly)
Hold Sets (Hook) directly and indirectly
Instant Date/Venue Changing
Time bridge
Conversation Skills/ Vibing (talk with anyone)
Get Attraction
Comfort/Connection
24hours worth of material just for the hell of it!
Phone Game
Day 2
LMR/ASD
Sealing the Deal
Managing Relationships
Amogs/Rude People
Public Speaking
Leading
Bigger Concepts
Identity
Self-Esteem
Core Confidence
Living life in action
Figuring out what i want and going towards that
Projecting Beliefs
My Reality
Lifestyle
Heres the list of things i have to get really good at. Being an instructor sounds so far away! Sounds sort of funny too since i'm not even a PUA yet and here i'am wanting to be an instructor, but in all honesty this is what i want to be!
I have a lot of work to put in here while in Monterrey. I will work my ass off here and make some serious progress, not expecting to be at the instructor level by the time i leave but at a point that'll allow grungey to get me to an instructor level pretty fast. When i'm back home i'm planning on staying with grungey for 2weeks for so and with his intensity each day worth of going out feels like a week of going out. Then after that i'll sit in on 3-4 workshops with him and after that i should be ready to start helping at the workshops and eventually start teaching.
*Skills*
Eye Contact
Open all set types (directly and indirectly)
Hold Sets (Hook) directly and indirectly
Instant Date/Venue Changing
Time bridge
Conversation Skills/ Vibing (talk with anyone)
Get Attraction
Comfort/Connection
24hours worth of material just for the hell of it!
Phone Game
Day 2
LMR/ASD
Sealing the Deal
Managing Relationships
Amogs/Rude People
Public Speaking
Leading
Bigger Concepts
Identity
Self-Esteem
Core Confidence
Living life in action
Figuring out what i want and going towards that
Projecting Beliefs
My Reality
Lifestyle
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