Friday, February 9, 2007
Wednesday, February 7, 2007
Day 3
Another good day. I'm feeling more like i want to feel everyday. I did my 5 sets today 3 of them throughout the day and the last 2 i had to go out tonight and do on campus. I closed 3 of the 2. I feel the abudance. Theres no question about will i close a set or not because its something i know that will happen, i know i can do it. Now my focus is getting these day 2's going and kicking the bitch out of me thats scared of the whole day 2 process. This game is all about getting more and more comfortable and different situations.
I'll be getting my number situation worked out and calling them all tomorrow. I have a big spread sheet with all these numbers and emails what i'm going to do is color code it so i know whats going on. I love the game! And its only a small amount of time before i get some success i'll keep pushing and pushing past comfort zones.
I'll be getting my number situation worked out and calling them all tomorrow. I have a big spread sheet with all these numbers and emails what i'm going to do is color code it so i know whats going on. I love the game! And its only a small amount of time before i get some success i'll keep pushing and pushing past comfort zones.
Day 2
Its amazing the changes that can occur in a day. Today started off sort of like day 1 did. I was sitting down eating food reading game material and then i thought you know what i'm only going to read material or listen to stuff before bed from now on and spend the day in as much social interaction as possible.
I went to do my laundry and got a set in on the way. I don't really remeber what i said to opened but i ran a short set with her and closed her....still @ close.
I opened 2 more sets when i was in the process of doing/waiting for my laundry. One was this cute girl that worked at a video store i was bitching out when i passed the store then i said fuck it and i went in the set went well but the girl turned out to be 16......so i ejected. Another girl i opened and started getting in set with but i ejected because she looked like jail bait too.
So i get back to the house and start talking with my roommates, seems like this is when the switch took place. I got on the phone and just started calling girls, i really felt anxiety at first but then i literally stopped caring, i really didn't care about the outcome at all, don't know how that happened. I got in touch with one girl and went on a Day 2 with her right there on the spot.
It was fun she showed me some cool stuff in the city, her cousin was there too. I did that leading kino that my natural friend always does and it was working good. I could feel her attraction for me. She wants to take me to this club with her on friday, i'm looking to seal the deal with her soon, maybe tomorrow. Shes a really sweet girl.
I get back home and start hitting the phone hard again. Everyone is studying since test time is this week. I call numbers that i don't even remeber and say that i have no idea who this is ect it was fun and funny and the interactions all went good.
The girl from the other day also wanted to meet up but i missed her since i was out with the other girl i think i will meet up with her today.
I could of called it a day but i still had 2 more approaches left to do. So i go back out sort of late and hit campus i see this sexy girl in gym pants walking towards me and i opened with out hesitation. She seems thrown off a bit and i use a direct opener saying that she seemed like someone i had to meet. We kept talking and the vibe got really good. I hooked in good and held very strong eye contact with her, i felt very calm and good in that set. We finally exchanged numbers and msn information hugged and were on our way. I'm looking to set something up with her tonight her ass is amazing.
I get on campus and run into a girl i know from the international programs. We talk for awhile and i can notice a huge difference in the way i'm coming off. Everything is flowing naturally, i'm calm and relaxed, i don't care about an outcome and i have a serious abundance mindset going on. I set plans up with her to do something at the end of the week. I find my last set and use the default opener i've been using. Transition right into vibing. I'm so relaxed and comfortable that i think its keeping the girls there. I make strong eye contact now as well not like yesterday when i would flee my eyes, today i kept them right on the girl in a really confident way. I number close her then head back home.
I got online and talked to the girl from the previous post (girl that got raped)...shes back home now and we talked and i told her how i never felt such a fast connection with someone in my life and she said she felt the same. She misses me a lot and i miss her a lot. Were making plans to see each other soon. I love connections like this, its just like my friend will say....bitter sweet. You enjoy the connection so much its real, its life, what life should be about...having lots of wonderful deep connection relationships with people. The sad thing is though is keeping the fire lit, seems like once u put yourself out there and show feelings etc some girls will turn away...its like ideally i want a girlfriend that i can just love and have all to me but i know those same feelings that feel so good will result in the destruction of the relationship
maybe i missing something here. A lot of this seems like relationship expectations/management skills that i don't really have now so i'll do some reading on this if anyone has any ideas please share.
Today was an amazing day and i'm keeping it up, tomorrow will be another great day.
I went to do my laundry and got a set in on the way. I don't really remeber what i said to opened but i ran a short set with her and closed her....still @ close.
I opened 2 more sets when i was in the process of doing/waiting for my laundry. One was this cute girl that worked at a video store i was bitching out when i passed the store then i said fuck it and i went in the set went well but the girl turned out to be 16......so i ejected. Another girl i opened and started getting in set with but i ejected because she looked like jail bait too.
So i get back to the house and start talking with my roommates, seems like this is when the switch took place. I got on the phone and just started calling girls, i really felt anxiety at first but then i literally stopped caring, i really didn't care about the outcome at all, don't know how that happened. I got in touch with one girl and went on a Day 2 with her right there on the spot.
It was fun she showed me some cool stuff in the city, her cousin was there too. I did that leading kino that my natural friend always does and it was working good. I could feel her attraction for me. She wants to take me to this club with her on friday, i'm looking to seal the deal with her soon, maybe tomorrow. Shes a really sweet girl.
I get back home and start hitting the phone hard again. Everyone is studying since test time is this week. I call numbers that i don't even remeber and say that i have no idea who this is ect it was fun and funny and the interactions all went good.
The girl from the other day also wanted to meet up but i missed her since i was out with the other girl i think i will meet up with her today.
I could of called it a day but i still had 2 more approaches left to do. So i go back out sort of late and hit campus i see this sexy girl in gym pants walking towards me and i opened with out hesitation. She seems thrown off a bit and i use a direct opener saying that she seemed like someone i had to meet. We kept talking and the vibe got really good. I hooked in good and held very strong eye contact with her, i felt very calm and good in that set. We finally exchanged numbers and msn information hugged and were on our way. I'm looking to set something up with her tonight her ass is amazing.
I get on campus and run into a girl i know from the international programs. We talk for awhile and i can notice a huge difference in the way i'm coming off. Everything is flowing naturally, i'm calm and relaxed, i don't care about an outcome and i have a serious abundance mindset going on. I set plans up with her to do something at the end of the week. I find my last set and use the default opener i've been using. Transition right into vibing. I'm so relaxed and comfortable that i think its keeping the girls there. I make strong eye contact now as well not like yesterday when i would flee my eyes, today i kept them right on the girl in a really confident way. I number close her then head back home.
I got online and talked to the girl from the previous post (girl that got raped)...shes back home now and we talked and i told her how i never felt such a fast connection with someone in my life and she said she felt the same. She misses me a lot and i miss her a lot. Were making plans to see each other soon. I love connections like this, its just like my friend will say....bitter sweet. You enjoy the connection so much its real, its life, what life should be about...having lots of wonderful deep connection relationships with people. The sad thing is though is keeping the fire lit, seems like once u put yourself out there and show feelings etc some girls will turn away...its like ideally i want a girlfriend that i can just love and have all to me but i know those same feelings that feel so good will result in the destruction of the relationship
maybe i missing something here. A lot of this seems like relationship expectations/management skills that i don't really have now so i'll do some reading on this if anyone has any ideas please share.
Today was an amazing day and i'm keeping it up, tomorrow will be another great day.
Tuesday, February 6, 2007
Day 1
Today was the kick off. I was planning to go out during the day, but my friend brought his date over and she brought 2 of here cute sisters. So it was 3 guys and 3 gals. They came over to the house and we had a BBQ. The language barrier issue was a bit tough, finding stuff to say etc but what i did was teach english to her and had her teach me spanish. It was a good time, it was also cool watching one of my friends gaming his girl since he seems to have a lot of natural game. I copied a lot of what he was doing which was lots of kino, strong eye contact and leading.
I did my best to not be outcome dependent, but still that line is in my head, that inner chode/wussy that needs his ass kicked out of my life. Also kept the abudance persepective in my mind which was still a bit hard to really feel , like i'll tell myself over and over these positive mindsets i want to take on and it responds with yeaaaaah right. I though up some cool ways to get over this though
So after they leave i go out to do my 5approaches for the day. I made it MUST to do a min of 5 approaches a day, i'll most likey being hitting 10+ sets a day but as a bare min i must do 5 approaches, there is no way out of it (the only way out of it is if there is a life or death/injury/terrible illness situation taking place)
I hit my campus here late, finding sets was a bit tough. The first set i did was a walking set, i lined up so i would be walking to same way she was walking. I started talking with her the same usual thing, opened, then went into basic where are you from in mexico shit in which we vibed a bit about and me being from the united states, she was a bit standoffish though and she ended up having to cross the street to go another direction. Lame set
The next set i approached on campus was asking a chick how to get somewhere, i don't know what it is about this approach but it always gets a good reaction and leading into something else is very easy and natural feeling. Its like how do you get to x ok cool high five whats your name then go on from there. This girl was sort of on the move though, i should of used some default routines i have to hold her there longer or at least went for a close.
The next set was this sexy girl sitting down on a bench. I approach with the same thing, she speaks very very little enlgish but my spanish is getting better and where able to talk to a point. The set goes good and we do our best to understand each other using our hands, writing stuff down pointing to pictures etc it was fun. I @ close her which i don't like doing, my logic there was well if i get her number talking to her will be tough, but i should of still got the number and do some text game with her which i could use a translator for to send flirty messages. Oh well.
The next set the girl was in a hurry it seemed, i did the opener, then went into meeting her then she was in the motion of leaving like ok i told you what you asked now i'm getting out of here, i'm going to start running a hook routine in situations like that to see what happens. I figure its better than just letting the set end right there.
The last set was hard to find, i ended up opening a guy and a girl with the same shit. This set hooked very well they were really interested in me and kept on talking, i actually had to eject myself because i didn't feel like talking with them forever.
All in all i felt good for going out and doing it even though the sets were a bet lame and rushed. I could of easily said ahhh well i had a day 2 so i'll just go to bed now and sarge tomorrow but hell no a min of 5sets every single day.
To push myself a bit more i'm going to make it a MUST that i must do at least 1 direct approach a day as one of my five starting from day 2 (tomorrow) and on the weekends i'm going to do some suicide missions.....basically where i go somewhere and say/do crazy stuff to push my comfort zone A LOT.
I did my best to not be outcome dependent, but still that line is in my head, that inner chode/wussy that needs his ass kicked out of my life. Also kept the abudance persepective in my mind which was still a bit hard to really feel , like i'll tell myself over and over these positive mindsets i want to take on and it responds with yeaaaaah right. I though up some cool ways to get over this though
So after they leave i go out to do my 5approaches for the day. I made it MUST to do a min of 5 approaches a day, i'll most likey being hitting 10+ sets a day but as a bare min i must do 5 approaches, there is no way out of it (the only way out of it is if there is a life or death/injury/terrible illness situation taking place)
I hit my campus here late, finding sets was a bit tough. The first set i did was a walking set, i lined up so i would be walking to same way she was walking. I started talking with her the same usual thing, opened, then went into basic where are you from in mexico shit in which we vibed a bit about and me being from the united states, she was a bit standoffish though and she ended up having to cross the street to go another direction. Lame set
The next set i approached on campus was asking a chick how to get somewhere, i don't know what it is about this approach but it always gets a good reaction and leading into something else is very easy and natural feeling. Its like how do you get to x ok cool high five whats your name then go on from there. This girl was sort of on the move though, i should of used some default routines i have to hold her there longer or at least went for a close.
The next set was this sexy girl sitting down on a bench. I approach with the same thing, she speaks very very little enlgish but my spanish is getting better and where able to talk to a point. The set goes good and we do our best to understand each other using our hands, writing stuff down pointing to pictures etc it was fun. I @ close her which i don't like doing, my logic there was well if i get her number talking to her will be tough, but i should of still got the number and do some text game with her which i could use a translator for to send flirty messages. Oh well.
The next set the girl was in a hurry it seemed, i did the opener, then went into meeting her then she was in the motion of leaving like ok i told you what you asked now i'm getting out of here, i'm going to start running a hook routine in situations like that to see what happens. I figure its better than just letting the set end right there.
The last set was hard to find, i ended up opening a guy and a girl with the same shit. This set hooked very well they were really interested in me and kept on talking, i actually had to eject myself because i didn't feel like talking with them forever.
All in all i felt good for going out and doing it even though the sets were a bet lame and rushed. I could of easily said ahhh well i had a day 2 so i'll just go to bed now and sarge tomorrow but hell no a min of 5sets every single day.
To push myself a bit more i'm going to make it a MUST that i must do at least 1 direct approach a day as one of my five starting from day 2 (tomorrow) and on the weekends i'm going to do some suicide missions.....basically where i go somewhere and say/do crazy stuff to push my comfort zone A LOT.
Saturday, February 3, 2007
I'm Taking Over
So i was reading on the RSD forum and read about Speedy's 30 day challenge. It really set a fire off in my head and now i'm doing one.
I will approach chicks for 30 days straight be it night time, day time or both. I will post at the end of each day about what happens.
My goal for this 30 day challenge is to take on an abundance mindset, become indifferent to the outcomes of situations, to become a person that offers value and to destroy the "i don't know what to say" filter in my mind.
I will reach these goals by approaching sets every single day, i will open sets using whatever pops into my head but as a default i'll use Hey, my name is Robert. After opening i'll vibe with the girl about whatever i feel like talking about since whatever i have to say is money. I'll get touch going on early by shaking her hand/doing handshakes and continue to touch for the rest of the time i know her. If i have the time i'll instant date/venue change the chick by saying "Hey i know a really cool place close to here, your coming with me",if i don't have time i'll number close. I'll qualify the chick by using my TRUE qualifcations for a chick at this point in my life..... Looks good to me, loves sex (both forms, performing and receving) and has a high sex drive, has a passion in life and someone i really enjoy being around. So those qualifcations will always be in my mind and it'll come off to the chick via probing questions and unconsciously. I'll connect by asking her if she could do ANYTHING and failure wasn't an option and money wasn't an issue what would she do? I'll vibe through what she says naturally and be geuinly interested in her passion. I'll then let her ask the same question back on me and go into my grounding routine (which i'm changing now, i'm just going to talk about my childhood up until where i'am now 100% natural and uncanned so it'll be a bit different everytime) and intertwind them together. I'll get her back to my house and in my room as a default by saying i have to show you some cool pictures (unless the situation reads different). From there i'll escalate into kissing by tickling her, then going straight for the kiss. If LMR occurs i'll wash rinse repeat.
So there goes i've covered my shit. This whole processes is focused on vibing and living in the moment.
And to help destroy the "I don't know what to say" filter at the end of each day i'll go on this site http://www.zokutou.co.uk/randomword/ and pick a word for the day and post it here. That'll be the word i default too the following day when that filter wants to tell me i don't have anything to say. I'll find something to say off that word and worst case scenario i'll just say that word as random as it'll be.
Todays word is Winded
Ok all is set and i'm pumped to get started will post day 1's report tomorrow!
I will approach chicks for 30 days straight be it night time, day time or both. I will post at the end of each day about what happens.
My goal for this 30 day challenge is to take on an abundance mindset, become indifferent to the outcomes of situations, to become a person that offers value and to destroy the "i don't know what to say" filter in my mind.
I will reach these goals by approaching sets every single day, i will open sets using whatever pops into my head but as a default i'll use Hey, my name is Robert. After opening i'll vibe with the girl about whatever i feel like talking about since whatever i have to say is money. I'll get touch going on early by shaking her hand/doing handshakes and continue to touch for the rest of the time i know her. If i have the time i'll instant date/venue change the chick by saying "Hey i know a really cool place close to here, your coming with me",if i don't have time i'll number close. I'll qualify the chick by using my TRUE qualifcations for a chick at this point in my life..... Looks good to me, loves sex (both forms, performing and receving) and has a high sex drive, has a passion in life and someone i really enjoy being around. So those qualifcations will always be in my mind and it'll come off to the chick via probing questions and unconsciously. I'll connect by asking her if she could do ANYTHING and failure wasn't an option and money wasn't an issue what would she do? I'll vibe through what she says naturally and be geuinly interested in her passion. I'll then let her ask the same question back on me and go into my grounding routine (which i'm changing now, i'm just going to talk about my childhood up until where i'am now 100% natural and uncanned so it'll be a bit different everytime) and intertwind them together. I'll get her back to my house and in my room as a default by saying i have to show you some cool pictures (unless the situation reads different). From there i'll escalate into kissing by tickling her, then going straight for the kiss. If LMR occurs i'll wash rinse repeat.
So there goes i've covered my shit. This whole processes is focused on vibing and living in the moment.
And to help destroy the "I don't know what to say" filter at the end of each day i'll go on this site http://www.zokutou.co.uk/randomword/ and pick a word for the day and post it here. That'll be the word i default too the following day when that filter wants to tell me i don't have anything to say. I'll find something to say off that word and worst case scenario i'll just say that word as random as it'll be.
Todays word is Winded
Ok all is set and i'm pumped to get started will post day 1's report tomorrow!
Friday, February 2, 2007
Sarging the other day and talk with grungey
Had a long sarge session the other day. I did a fair amoun t of sets and most of them went pretty good. I ended up number closing 8chicks. I had trouble getting out this really direct opener that grungey wanted me to use. When i was sarging i ran into one of my french friends here and he started sarging with me and uses a REALLY direct opener so it pushed me to use it too. We sarged for a long time which was a lot of fun.
Yesterday i did a short 1hour sarging session and used the original opener i used when getting here. Which was basically asking for directions and then breaking into conversation from there. Every set i did blew right open with no problems at all. This also happened maybe because i was approaching them head on with a direct purpose while before i was approaching them by basically talking with them in the direction that they were walking. Either way yesterday was like a chicken shoot.
I talked to Grungey last night and basically told him what was going on. And he said that its time to stop getting numbers. He said my goal now is to instant date in every single set, no instant date, then no numbers. I also told him about the opener and said not to worry about it and practice it alittle everyday until i'm comfortable using it as my primary but use the opener i'm comfortable using to not waste time
Its going to be tough not going for the number of some cute chick. What i'll probably do is go for the instant date in every set then get the number if she can't but not make a big deal of the numbers. I've been using numbers as a source of validation and i'm no longer going to do that.
So from now on i'm going to do my long sets and pick them out well (stationary girls) for the venue changes, and if i do find myself in a short set which i do a lot i'll still go for the venue change even if i know for a fact shes going to class or if i have class or something to do, then go for the number close after the objection. And not make a big deal of the number and call it immediatly.
Yesterday i did a short 1hour sarging session and used the original opener i used when getting here. Which was basically asking for directions and then breaking into conversation from there. Every set i did blew right open with no problems at all. This also happened maybe because i was approaching them head on with a direct purpose while before i was approaching them by basically talking with them in the direction that they were walking. Either way yesterday was like a chicken shoot.
I talked to Grungey last night and basically told him what was going on. And he said that its time to stop getting numbers. He said my goal now is to instant date in every single set, no instant date, then no numbers. I also told him about the opener and said not to worry about it and practice it alittle everyday until i'm comfortable using it as my primary but use the opener i'm comfortable using to not waste time
Its going to be tough not going for the number of some cute chick. What i'll probably do is go for the instant date in every set then get the number if she can't but not make a big deal of the numbers. I've been using numbers as a source of validation and i'm no longer going to do that.
So from now on i'm going to do my long sets and pick them out well (stationary girls) for the venue changes, and if i do find myself in a short set which i do a lot i'll still go for the venue change even if i know for a fact shes going to class or if i have class or something to do, then go for the number close after the objection. And not make a big deal of the number and call it immediatly.
Thursday, February 1, 2007
Here it is
(posting this since its on my mind, still have a lot of other stuff to post)
Heres the list of things i have to get really good at. Being an instructor sounds so far away! Sounds sort of funny too since i'm not even a PUA yet and here i'am wanting to be an instructor, but in all honesty this is what i want to be!
I have a lot of work to put in here while in Monterrey. I will work my ass off here and make some serious progress, not expecting to be at the instructor level by the time i leave but at a point that'll allow grungey to get me to an instructor level pretty fast. When i'm back home i'm planning on staying with grungey for 2weeks for so and with his intensity each day worth of going out feels like a week of going out. Then after that i'll sit in on 3-4 workshops with him and after that i should be ready to start helping at the workshops and eventually start teaching.
*Skills*
Eye Contact
Open all set types (directly and indirectly)
Hold Sets (Hook) directly and indirectly
Instant Date/Venue Changing
Time bridge
Conversation Skills/ Vibing (talk with anyone)
Get Attraction
Comfort/Connection
24hours worth of material just for the hell of it!
Phone Game
Day 2
LMR/ASD
Sealing the Deal
Managing Relationships
Amogs/Rude People
Public Speaking
Leading
Bigger Concepts
Identity
Self-Esteem
Core Confidence
Living life in action
Figuring out what i want and going towards that
Projecting Beliefs
My Reality
Lifestyle
Heres the list of things i have to get really good at. Being an instructor sounds so far away! Sounds sort of funny too since i'm not even a PUA yet and here i'am wanting to be an instructor, but in all honesty this is what i want to be!
I have a lot of work to put in here while in Monterrey. I will work my ass off here and make some serious progress, not expecting to be at the instructor level by the time i leave but at a point that'll allow grungey to get me to an instructor level pretty fast. When i'm back home i'm planning on staying with grungey for 2weeks for so and with his intensity each day worth of going out feels like a week of going out. Then after that i'll sit in on 3-4 workshops with him and after that i should be ready to start helping at the workshops and eventually start teaching.
*Skills*
Eye Contact
Open all set types (directly and indirectly)
Hold Sets (Hook) directly and indirectly
Instant Date/Venue Changing
Time bridge
Conversation Skills/ Vibing (talk with anyone)
Get Attraction
Comfort/Connection
24hours worth of material just for the hell of it!
Phone Game
Day 2
LMR/ASD
Sealing the Deal
Managing Relationships
Amogs/Rude People
Public Speaking
Leading
Bigger Concepts
Identity
Self-Esteem
Core Confidence
Living life in action
Figuring out what i want and going towards that
Projecting Beliefs
My Reality
Lifestyle
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