First Night Out

Just got back in from my first night out since making this commitment to getting this area handled once and for all.

I didn't waste anytime and went directly downtown (i usually circle around and scope the scene) and parked the car. I started my warm up routine and opened the first people i saw which were two guys and asked them how to get to a bar. I then did the same on a group of 5chicks, actually felt pretty nervous doing this. For some reason after that i stopped doing my warm ups (i was supposed to do at least 5) and went to a bar. It was pretty dead since it was early but there were some people in it, i felt strange being alone just sitting there with my phone in my hand when everyone else was there talking with someone, but after awhile sitting there i felt more comfortable in the environment. I would just observe people while pretending to talk on my phone.

I then went to another bar and did the same thing, i also got a water. I felt like it was going to be another typical night game night for me where i go out with high hopes of approaching but end up leaving early and doing no sets, i was thinking damn maybe i should just go home, but instead i said no fuck it i'm staying out, i'll just go from bar to bar and sit there at the least.

So i do that, i go to lots of bars and go back to bars i been too, as time passed i was feeling more and more comfortable. I finally starte getting opened by random people. This one guy started talking to me at one bar, when ended up talking about traveling. My state got better after talking (this guy opened me with whats up hows your night going btw) to him. I hopped bars again and went into the bar i was first at which was a lot more crowded, a girl was doing some dance showing her friend i said this girl right here can't dance at all. She gave me that shocked gasp smile thing and was like i can't believe you said that. I laughed and said it was actually kinda cute that u can't dance. I think she might of been lse or something because it seemed as though it cut her more than it was intended to. I kept having fun with it though and spun her, then chatted with her and her friend for bit then it basically died out. The next set was a 2 set that i opened with "how would you feel about your ex bf dating your best friend" they gave some response then i pointed to one girl and said she must be the bad girl...they laughed, then again it slowly died off.

I went to the down stairs part of the bar and some cool dude started talking to me. He has a crazy job where he travels to colleges and sells spring break packages. So basically he gets paid to talk to people and party which i thought was cool, he had good game too he showed me pics of some naked girls he hooked up with and i actually saw him running a good 2set later on.

I hopped bars again, did a few more sets with the same kind of deal. This bantering stuff is awesome from what i've seen and heard, but i feel as though i need some sort of teaching on it with exercises or something (basically a workshop). Its tough to come up with banter stuff to say when i'm out of state.

But overall this was a great night for me, actually the first night that i actually went out alone to bars and actually approached. Feels like what tyler described in the foundations, first you go out and learn how to hold a conversation for all of 30seconds then longer longer longer then you learn how to flirt etc. Seems like getting bantering down would speed this process up since it would make the conversations last long and it would also get that attrative interaction style down at the same time which knocks out 2 stages at (keeping conversation going,having a fun flirty interaction)

I'm most likely hitting up some day game tomorrow, my plan is to do 5 warm up sets then flirt with girls all over campus by winking, sticking my tongue at them, calling them adorable, bad, cute, etc. The whole point is to stop having boring conversations etc and go in flirty from the get go.