I dream big

Been here sitting around tryin to do homework assignments and just been half assing it not wanting to do it. Seems like there so many more things to life. I feel so lucky to have the mindset i do at this point in my life. (i credit this to myself seeking resources which have been amazing, the pick up community, tyler durdens work and transformation of himself, and of course to a friend that always seems to expand my reality in whats possible) I remeber when first coming to college being asked what you want to do with your life etc and in my mind i could feel this trapped feeling like i only had a certain amount of options i could answer with like i was within some sort of frame work. Deep down i'm thinking, hmmm what do i really want to do? I want to have fun, i want to have the most fun possible with the time i have on this planet and do what i want to do when i want to do it. I want to be free. This didn't seem possible though, so i picked a socially acceptable answer and felt incongruent saying it. So i walked around with this feeling of incongruence pretending to really be siked about something ,a life that i didn't really want to end up living.

So once poker was introduced to me, like a whole new world opened. Its like the answer, freedom and i find it really fucking fun to play (obviously shit goes bad at times but i'll accept that as my boss happily over any real boss in some 9-5 job that i'm a drone in making someone else rich while way they live there life of freedom because my success barriered ass lets them.)
Its like poker is this amazing thing.

So i've made the decision that, thats how its going to play out for me, i will play poker for a living, i'll do whatever it takes to make this happen, its either this happens or i die in the process of making it happen. I probably should be posting this in my poker blog but i'll probably just make this my universal blog from this point on.

My plan now to dedicate myself even more is this

Daily - Play a min of 8hours, review 10hands (5 of my own) on 2plus2 day (read the hand then in a note pad write down what i would do and why before reading responses, then review responses, then save hand to discuss with coach, once my opinion becomes better i'll post my response out on the forum) and make at least 2 videos a week of a session to have coach review. I'll also save hands i have any confusion about to post on twoplustwo and send to my coach. I think this is a good plan and should really improve my play. I'll field it see how it works and i'll be willing to do whatever else i need to do to reach success.

Were Products

I was talking to my friend the other day and he was telling about how in the game were basically selling a product. I've known this before but never really put too much thought into it. I just looked at it as a comparison but never really went deep into. My friend is also doing an online dating research experiment which hes testing stuff out all over the usa and the world. This is what got me thinking about the whole product thing.

You always hear people say, its just a numbers game, talk to a lot of girls you'll get some of them. Which is true, it is a numbers game. You are a product and your business is selling yourself. If we put game aside and just took say 20 random guys, there all there own product. Now make each of them do 100 approaches and each will get different results based on lots of factors. Theres tons of factors that effect your products success. (these are in no particular order)

1. The demand for your product (this is basically its own category since this effects how high the other factors need to be)



2. Your looks/style
3. Core confidence
4. Humor/wit
5. Your entitlement
6. Tolerance to social pressure
7. Persistance
8. Positivity
9. Values/Beliefs
10. body language
11. Voice
12. Eye Contact
13. Vibe
14. your identity
15. Lifestyle
16. Sex appeal


and the list can go on and on if i sat down and thought about it longer and lots of stuff could be categoriezed and clumped together then broken down even more but this is the general idea. Now if you look at everything and for each category you use a scale of 0-10. 0 being the lowest and 10 being the highest. Each of our 20 guys has a different score for each category. So say guy 1 has looks of 6, and demand of 8 and everything else is a 4, guy 2 only has a 1 demand in the location hes in with his targets and 6 looks with 4 for the rest of the categories. Guy 1 is going to be doing better so for guy 2 to sell his product hes going to have to raise each category as much as he can (making his product extremely good) this could in turn increase his demand as well.

So when were out there working on our game were improving our skills in each category. Were going out into sets being social practicing different things, this is giving our personality ranges that we can use, we develop humor, the ability to hold court, stay cool under pressure, be non needy, offer value, connect with people, vibe with people etc, going out builds these ranges up which enhances your product. With incredible game your numbers for each category will be hitting the 10 mark other than demand because thats not something you can personally control other than putting yourself in a location where your product is high demand. So with game your points are high for each factor this will allow you to still sell your product in areas where the demand is really low.

I think this is where the confusion with the whole Looks issue comes into play. So lets look at an example

Guy 1 is a hot built white guy with a looks rating of 9, the other categories are under developed at 3, he's located in Orange county CA and is targeting white girls 18-28 so his demand is high at nearly a 10.

Guy 2 is an Asian guy with looks at 6, everything else is the same as guy 1 but his demand is low at a 2.


So its obvious that these guys aren't going to get the same result. Guy 1 is going to be getting laid while guy 2 is going to be stratching his head saying its the looks.

The difference here is the demand in the target market. Because guy 2 has a small demand, hes jsut not going to be able to sell his product the same way guy 1 can with a high demand. So what does guy 2 do, he still wants those targets even though his demand is low so how can he change this? Well the answer is obvious, he puts in lots of work to raise each of the factors i listed before (working on game). So lets say he puts in 5hard years in the field and gym. Hes built nice now so his looks are now an 8, hes also got all the other factors to a 10 now, hes living the life he wants, hes funny, has communication down pat, etc. Because of all this he now goes back to the same target group to sell his product. Now his apperance has gone up, so since that is a way of offering value in your product that might or might not have an effect on the demand points. So lets say since asian guys have particular stereotypes associated with them in the usa even with his improved looks his demand has only risen from a 1 to a 4. But the glory here is once guy 2 speaks to the girl, since all his factors are at level 10, hes offering value on a whole new level. Since guy 2 has made himself into a REALLY good product the girls can't turn him down.

They saw the product but still didn't feel demand for it, but once testing the product out they realize how good it is and now the demand has actually risen as a result of him talking to her, his demand for the girl hes talking to could easily be peaking out at a 10 now.


So guy 1 is still fucking chicks left and right not putting much effort into it, where guy 2 had to put in 5 hard years worth of time. so guy 1 because of his looks (looks going beyond hotness points also his race, style) get him that automatic high demand. Where as guy 2 since hes asian doesn't have the same demand as guy 1 in this location with this target group because of different stereotypes and factors having to do with his target group (how they were raised, friends, family, social factors). So by saying looks its also saying apperance, race, style, culture. Guy 2 wasn't ugly when he first started he was a 6 which is above average, if a white guy with the same starting stats as guy 2 was put into the equation his demand would still be higher than guy 2's.

So thats what game comes down to, making your product the best you can to increase your demand to your target consumers.

One more thing that has to be noted is this. Another important factor is how hard you sell your product. If a guy with 6looks, 4demand for his target group, and 3's for every other category, put 0 work into selling his product, he probably won't sell anything. But if he put forth even 1 effort into selling in time he would eventually sell something, increase it to 6 and hes able to sell a product a month, increase it to 10 (10 meaning his out there approaching girls left and right and pushing it all the way to the end until they tell him to fuck off) and hes selling 3-5 a month maybe even more, if he improved his other factors he'd be a monster.

So thats why guys call it a numbers game or getting lucky. A lot of my friends are like this me included at this point, our products are actually above average, but there not so good that someone would just approach us to buy them. We put 0-1 effort into selling our product though and end up making no sales or the ocassional "lucky" sale that comes from our .5 averaged effort over a period of 6months.

Update Time

So i haven't been keeping up to date with this blog. I stopped posting awhile ago but at times i'll come back and read over things i posted and see such a drastic change in myself/beliefs/values overall perspective in just a few months. Like its hard for me to even relate to the last post i made in here and i think a lot of this has to do with me coming more and more into alignment.

So right now i'm not working on game. Not doing cold approaches, not doing any of that. I'm focusing my time on playing poker and getting good and making money. My friend Carl's descriptive info in his myspace page sums me up and how i want my life to be. I made the decision to put everything i have into poker. Failure isn't an option for me, its just not possible i will do whatever it takes, i will be making 10k+ a month from poker.

It all lines up, playing poker for a living allows me to have the lifestyle i want to have, which is travel, great relationships, freedom. The funny thing is not being "in the game" has seemed to improve my game and overall social skills. Now i'm not sure if this is a blind spot thing where i'm saying well i'm not in the game now so i don't have to approach since i'm not working on that right now so i can feel "superior" and not bad about any interaction i may have that goes wrong because i'm not working on that. Doesn't feel that way to me though. I credit the change to becoming more in alignment with myself, slowly falling into the identity i want for myself and taking the action to do so. Making the decision that i will play poker for a living (at least for the initial part of my wealth plan before i get involved with assets) really lined stuff up for me. Its like i have purpose now and know what i should be doing at all time. I know why i'm doing what i'm doing, it makes sense to me i'm not playing some guessing game about my life and lying to myself about what it is i really want about life. Its like the path is clear to me. I see hot girls, i want to fuck them, but i don't feel any urgency, need because i know what i'm doing will result in the freedom to aquire that in the near future, so therefore i'm at ease. I don't care as much now about whatever people think, i still feel social pressure in situations, but generally i feel a lot more relaxed. Just the feeling of being on your purpose, taking action to make your dreams reality feels amazing and has brought a sort of calm more charismatic me out. I find it really interesting, that one switch that one line up thing in my mind did all of this. So much of tyler's stuff is becoming clear to me. I remeber a guy asking about his trouble hooking sets and how and tyler told him its about WHO you are. 6months ago i really couldn't get that it made sense on some level but i was thinking hmmmm can't there just be a line to hook? But now it makes so much sense. The whole idea of being in alignment, figuring out what you want from life, how you want to live it then going for it despite what anyone says and giving it everything, making failure not an option, you either get it or you die trying to get it, is just so powerful. Coming from that place the whole frame of an interaction is changed, your offering value, your happy with your life, you have abundance you not in need your cup is over flowing. Just amazing how i feel now and how coming more into alignment has created this. I'm not saying i'm done or made it i still have a hell of a long way to go, but from where i started being where i'am now at my age knowing 100% the life i want and knowing that for certain i will get it or die trying to get it has so much value to me.

Good Night

Really proud of myself tonight. Rolled out with the same frame i had during the festival. My goal was to go out and just spend an hour getting in a talkative state first at the 3 bars near me then roll to the others. So i roll into the first bar and just start talking to the first person i see, which was this chick didn't go so well i just saw her and asked her name chatted for a sec. Then count down in my head, i just kept jumping in sets. I rolled to the next bar did the same thing. Talking to everyone. My interactions were lasting longer at this point. I talked to some guy and tried to get him to come into a set with me since the set was big like 5-6 chicks, he started coming up with these excuses talking about how his brother does that etc i was like ok. So i just rolled into the set, the lead girl was a tad bitchy, i announced this must be the leader right here which was funny cause she was. I chatted a bit with every chick in the group. When things dulled out i rolled around and some girl was looking at my shirt in a crazy way and her friends were laughing, i was like wtf is this, and she was like i thought your shirt said cut. I was like ohhhh well guys let me ask you something, my friends been chatting with this chick for awhile but i think hes in the friend zone is there anyway out of that shit? They all gave there answeres and shit i was busting them on everything i was on like hell in this set. They were all just focused on me like 4 chicks just surrounding me listening to everything i said, busting up laughing on all my punchlines. Was thinking damn is this for real? I'm not even drunk? wow. An asian girl near me bumped into my ass so i was like did u grab my ass and her firend was like let me find out, the girl was like no no and busted her on it and she was like but i will grab it now which was funny. So she kinda knew the other girls so got that shit merged she was also with a girl so it became a 6set of chicks with them all on me, couldn't hold them all though people broke off, i end up beside this one girl and got in pretty good rapport with her, classic life shit what do you do family all that stuff but she wasn't the best looking the world so i moved to antoher chick and to the asian girl but they were leaving and group was all over the place, some of them had bf's etc. I eventually roll to the next bar. SOme guys are in there doing a crazy dance so i ask about it and get involved, then i open a 3set with 2 chicks and a guy. Set went well the girls were drunk but i was in that bitch for 30min talking to them all and had each girl 1on1 sort of but the drunkness was annoying and they were sort of out there. I roll to the enxt bar and this guy ends up teling me all this depressing stuff i wasn't trying to hear he was cool though just got on the wrong topic. The bar was dying so i rolled up town a bit. The bar i wanted to go to had a huge line, some chicks came up said damn this was a bust and i was like hell yeah it was, and walked back and chatted with them for a bit. There was a freestyle battle taking place on the street between this black guy and white guy i saw when i first was walking to the bar coming back the shit was getting hype like a fight was gonna break out so i stood back and observed. Apparently the white dude said some racial and the black dude wasn't going to have that. They were talking shit to each other. The white dude went to dap him and the black dude lunged and picked him up and slammed him. then put him in this head lock people were trying to break it up but it really wasn't much of a fight just a guy in a head lock, black dude finally let him go, some chick called the police that was that. I chatted to the black dudeds boy for a bit , the black dudes is some big beat boxer or something opened for naughty by nature. The black dude came back and was chill, talked with him a bit he told me what happend and how he couldnt' let someone walk over him etc. then the white dude came back to try to call a truce and the black dude was like nah fuck that we can fight and put down his monster enegery drink that he ran across the street and bought after the first scuffle and assumed a fighting stance. More talking and the white dude rolled out. Talked more with the guys and the itailian guy was inviting me to this club with them and he had this strong frame where it was like damn its hard to say no but i was thinking in my head no way in hell i'm rolling with that hostle black dude so i was like yeah that would be cool oh shit 1 sec (pretended to get a phone call,i'm good at faking phone calls so i pretend it was a good friend i chatted told him about the black slamming the dude infront of him i could see the smile of validation on the black guys face as i told my fake friend on the phone how he slammed this guy, then pretended the guy was back near i was and had his girl and her friend) so told them i had some potenial pussy they said yeah hop on that so i rolled out. Started raining hardcore so i just rolled back home.

Festival

Went to this festival here. Bands, drinking all sorts of shit going on. I go out but this time my mission is to get myself talkative. So what i do is do a count down 10,9,8 etc to 1 and i have to be speaking to someone before it hits 0, a guy, chick, man wooman whoever just speaking. I did this for awhile just coming up with anything asking questions, making comments anything i could. This got me in a good state and from there i got in a so so set with this chick. We talked for awhile i went for the venue change to sit down but she was like i have to fill this drink up and walked to do that, i was like ? It was going so well. Anyways i'm gonna try that 10sec count down thing out tonight.

Bad Night

So i went out tonight, got out later than i wanted to. My wing was off doing whatever so i rolled out solo. Got to the bar, got a beer, chatted some guys for alittle while then after that pretty much got inside my head. It wasn't even AA, i was just in a lame inside my head state. Sucks eh? Then i'd see all these sets that i felt i could own with my wing there like it was nothing. Well it is what it is and last night was a bad night.

Getting caught up with the day'2 FR's

HBBigButt

I sarged this girl a week ago when i was on a sargeathon one dawn/night. She was walking towards the campus and i opened her on campus with asking how to get to x location, which she told me and from there i just kept the conversation going with basic stuff. Its a quick set because she was in a hurry to class but very efficient.

Day 2 HBBigButt

So day 2's are tricky for me because of my fb who thinks she my gf living a block down from me. But i still get show up for the day2's. I meet her then walk with her to this restraunt sort of hangout place. I sure as hell didn't feel in state upon seeing her which is frustrating since i've been on a number of day 2's. We sit down at the restraunt thing and both have a beer. I'm sitting there feeling like the scrambling team tyler talks about in the foundations. It felt like the conversation was a big layer of fake and someone needed to say ok lets cut this bull shit. (it probably wasn't really that bad, we had a conversation going etc it just felt like it wasn't really real, like i wasn't coming from a place of realness, like if i said you know what, i'm going to be honest with you, i don't know what it is, but theres something about you that i like and i'm not going to sit here and hide it behind some bullshit space filling questions. If i said that it seems like i would then be coming from a place of realness, my state would follow and thus our interaction would have been better)

So any how i get through conversation with her then i suggest we go to a near by park. We go there, and sit on the swings and talk. Things get really good at this point, i'm telling her stories and shes laughing really hard. It feels real and in the moment, it was a lot of fun for us both. We went all around some wide and deep rapport before it was time for her to go. Walked her back to her place, it felt weird again at the end when i was at her door but that was that.

Day 3 HBBigButt

So tonight i get her to come over to my house. She comes over late with no problem. I do my usual house tour then take her to my room. I sat on the bed and she sat on a chair. That was fine, just meant she needed more comfort but it was cool that she was comfortable enough to come to my house alone late at night and be in my room alone with me. So i break out my camera and tell her to sit beside me i'm gonna show her pictures. She obeys and i show the pics and tell stories it was a lot of fun, the intercation felt a mile away from the first one. After that we talked about a variety of topics, at some points there were some almost token silence filling topics that came up to just kill the silence yet neither of us really cared about the topic. Then some how we got on male female dynamics and passed relaitonships etc. We talked on this for a long time and it really felt good and natural etc. I would tease her and joke with her on everything too it wasn't just us sitting having some serious conversation. I played hand games with her like thumb war and slaps, held her arm made her flex and pretended to make her bicep look bigger etc. So we talked the vibe was really good. I also decided i need to start qualifying girls so i told her, you know what, your not like most girls. Theres something different about you. She of course was interested and asked me what what why etc and i said i don't even know thats what i'm trying to figure out, but i don't know you stand out from the rest of the girls here and i like that. So more talking etc then a big ass roach pops out then runs when i get the spray which pissed me off i hate fucking roachs. She stands up when i go get the spray and after the ordeal she says she has to leave since she was only supposed to stay for alittle while but ended up staying 2hours. Shes up already i'm thinking damnit sit down i have to go for this kiss. So we go down stairs then almost out side and i say i have to tell you something. I say i'm not trying to be like the mexican guys here (link to something she said in our male/female convo) but i really want to kiss you. She smiled and laughed and blushed and said not yet. I remained pretty cool i guess and said ok thats fine i just wanted to let you know, i'm not trying to weird you out or anything i'm just direct and straight forward with how i feel. She said it was good etc. then that was that and she suggested we hang out thursday.

HBStarbucks

I meet this girl on campus. Shes walking and i opened with my basic campus how do you get to xyz opener then vibing with wide rapport afterwards. Went well, we were talking for maybe 3-4min and i suggested we go somewhere to talk which she was down for. We go to starbucks. A lot of my buds are there so i'm getting stopped and chatted by a lot of people which was cool. She gets something i chill with her. We leave starbucks then go sit outside by the building she has class in. Had a pretty solid close she seemed very interested.

HBStarbucks Day 2

Meet her at the bar she just started working at. She was supposed to get off at 1:30 so thats when i came, instead there were assholes there still drinking so i had to go and wait for her. She would basically go work stop and come sit with me, we'd talk some then she'd work more. The conversation was ok. When i say ok i mean it doesn't feel real to me, it feels like just saying stuff that i don't care about to fill silence. Don't know if it felt that way for her or not. For me it felt as though i needed to say something like you know what, i'm going to be honest with you, i like something about you, i don't what it is but theres something about you that i like. Then from that point there would actually be shift change feeling inside of me and then interaction was well because now i'm coming from a more real place which makes me think i should just be using a direct opener off gate so its already framed correctly. After writing this i think the reason i feel this way is because i'm not coming from an honest place i'm sitting there attracted to them but not stating it which seems important because after doing so my state changes a lot and then the interaction does, becomes a real interaction where stuff flows naturally. So anyways i struggle through the bar watching drunk people that won't leave until 4:30. I honestly felt like throwing a grenade at the table of drunks that wouldn't leave. She finally gets off. Its been made clear that were going to my place. She says i'm hope were sleeping when we get there. We cab off to my house straight to my bed room. She takes her shoes off and bra off and hops straight into my bed. I hop in there too and hit the lights. Once in bed i figure well its def time so i tell her i want to kiss her and to this she freaks and says no no i can't no thats weird no no i just meet you no no all this crazy shit. I'm thinking hmmmmm. So i relax and lay back. We cuddle really tight, hold each other etc we all over each other. I go for the kiss again and get the same reaction. I pass out. Wake up and were all cuddled up on each other and i have a huge boner. I go for the kiss again, not having it. She lets me massage her whole back but when i go for her ass she freaks any part of her that could be sexual being touched freaked her. I finally ask her whats going on etc, she tells me that its so fast and that this was the first time she ever slepted in the bed of a guy she just met and she doesn't kiss etc. She had recently broke with a bf and felt weird etc. So i listen say thats cool. We head down stairs i get her a cab and thats that. I don't call her back or anything which may or may not have been wrong. Way i saw it was theres so many more girls to game, why waste time on a girl thats going to make a huge deal out of a kiss, then when i finally get her to kiss how long til sex. We'd be damn married by the time we were having sex and that last thing i need is another gf on top of the one i already have.

Day 3 HBStarbucks

So didn't talked to her awhile figured it was over. Then i get online one day she messages me said shes been emailing me, i check my mail and low and behold there was her email saying how she was sorry about that night and how it must of meant something because i was the first guy shes been associated with since breaking up with her bf. I chat with her on aim about it all tell her i like her and when i like someone i'm honest and straight forward. I asked if she liked me as well and she said yes etc. So we make plans to hang out. We meet up at a park near her house. Have a pretty good time, conversation was pretty good since i was coming from a pretty real place but at the sametime it was never said outloud on the day 3 how we felt like we never discussed what we talked about online, in person. So i still got that feeling of something needs to be said to make this feel more real. Basically we hang out and talk awhile , she shows me art work etc (i used that as a way to get back to her room but the joke was on me since i wasn't aloud in her dorm so i had to sit outside and have her show me her art work. We go back to the park. Were on a bench and were cuddling really nice. I'm rubbing her head etc. Its time for me to get out of there and she had stuff to do as well so we end it and i go for the kiss under a tree in the park in an isolated spot. Of course she doesn't go for it again, which was frustrating for me. So the next time i see her online and she talks to me i'm going to tell her thats its probably best we don't talk since i like her a lot and feel all these urges towards her, but shes very slow with that kind of stuff so it would just be a conflict between us. I'd always be sitting there the whole time wanting to act on my emotions while shes sitting there feeling distorted at the idea of a kiss. So i'm going to tell her that it would probably be a waste of each others time (which it has been for me other than the day2 and day 3 experience) this way shes either gonna go for it or let it go. Either way i win. If she says its best we don't talk then i don't have to wasate anymore time with her and her elementary school kiss phobia or if she says she'll meet my standard then were having sex very soon which is also cool.