So yeah i was thinking about what i said yesterday about setting approach # goals....i'm gonna go on and set a number goal for each day , i want to get in mass approaches when i'm gone and having a set number will push me harder in addition to forcing me to do more approaches than i would of done.
I remeber when i'd sarge at UNC i could bust out about 20-25 approaches in 3 hours sense it was so crowded (yet a lot of them didn't last very long, but never the less thats getting experience under my belt)
So i'm gonna go out on a limb here and set my approach goal for 10approaches a day for the month of January and most likely increase that to 15-20 a day in feb. I've been bsing a lot and this trip is a perfect chance for me to really make some serious changes in my game and in myself so i'm gonna go for it!
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
Monday, December 25, 2006
My plan for my first month in mexico
My plan for my first month in mexico is to MEET NEW PEOPLE. I'll do this my talking to everyone, and i mean everyone, everywhere, anytime. When i talk to people my goal will be to say anything to get a conversation going, keep talking and get them smiling/laughing, genuinely be interested in them and vibing/having fun, getting a fun picture with them and a number....this goes for guys/girls/men/women, anyone.
I would set number goals like i'll go out x amount of hrs and do x amount of approaches etc, and i will do that to get the ball rolling if i have to....but my plan is to be out as much as possible and being out= meeting new people. My days will be guided my class/weightlifting and poker(which will be most likely be in the morining), any clubs and groups i join.
Other than that i plan to be out meeting people all the time, when i'm eating i'll sit with random people etc, i also want to meet all the guys in the lair out there and spend time with them as well.
I'll post in this blog probably once a week to keep my progress updated. Only once a week because i feel its better for me to not be thinking about game so hard at this point (meaning i've been out for awhile...and never really consistantly in for any long period of time. So getting a lot of momentum going talking to everyone having fun and getting use to doing that will be a good starting point)
I would set number goals like i'll go out x amount of hrs and do x amount of approaches etc, and i will do that to get the ball rolling if i have to....but my plan is to be out as much as possible and being out= meeting new people. My days will be guided my class/weightlifting and poker(which will be most likely be in the morining), any clubs and groups i join.
Other than that i plan to be out meeting people all the time, when i'm eating i'll sit with random people etc, i also want to meet all the guys in the lair out there and spend time with them as well.
I'll post in this blog probably once a week to keep my progress updated. Only once a week because i feel its better for me to not be thinking about game so hard at this point (meaning i've been out for awhile...and never really consistantly in for any long period of time. So getting a lot of momentum going talking to everyone having fun and getting use to doing that will be a good starting point)
Saturday, December 23, 2006
My poor blog
So this bad boy hasn't gotten much attention lately. I'm still here. Just a family time for me with my big trip abroad coming closer and closer.
Next week my plan is to pick a day go crazy with clothes. I'm going to go to lots of stores and try on lots of different stuff (stuff i don't like, stuff i like just everything) i'm gonna try blazers, jackets, shirts anything and everything to get some experience seeing myself in different attire so i can have a better idea, instead of going out and shot gunning some outfit hoping it'll work. My goal will be to try on different shit until i can't take it anymore, i'll also take pics of my outfits in the store and get feed back so i have a better idea of what to buy.
Next week my plan is to pick a day go crazy with clothes. I'm going to go to lots of stores and try on lots of different stuff (stuff i don't like, stuff i like just everything) i'm gonna try blazers, jackets, shirts anything and everything to get some experience seeing myself in different attire so i can have a better idea, instead of going out and shot gunning some outfit hoping it'll work. My goal will be to try on different shit until i can't take it anymore, i'll also take pics of my outfits in the store and get feed back so i have a better idea of what to buy.
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
Figuring my plan out
So my plan was to go out 4days a week for 3 hours be it day or night. My trip to Mexico starts 2 weeks from today, which i didn't realize. So that means i only have 2weeks left with my family here (my uncle is coming in on friday), and to finish getting ready.
So i'm going to spend this time with my family, getting stuff together, playing poker and keeping lifting on track. As for game what i'll do is make it my mission to have 3 conversations with strangers a day. So when i'm out doing xmas shopping, running errands, working out, going on walks etc i'll get myself into interactions.
I'm still confused though on how i should be approaching my game and what i should be working on. I like the outline tyler described in the foundations basically open, hook, touch, vibe, #, venue change, extract.
The confusion for me is there so many different ways of doing each step. For example you can hook with stories, cocky funny/flirty banter, cold reads,different routines, negs, interavtive value demonstrations, qualfying to name a few.
I'm assuming the answer would be to play around with lots of different ways and keep pushing forward.
So based on that, heres my plan for mexico. I'm going to keep that general outline in my head and use that as navigation and play around with different tools. I will force myself to go for a picture and number in every interaction i have which will be fun a lot of fun (i'll also do this in the US)
So the on going game plan will be to play around with different stuff yet use that general structure as a guide and pushing it to each wav point.
So i'm going to spend this time with my family, getting stuff together, playing poker and keeping lifting on track. As for game what i'll do is make it my mission to have 3 conversations with strangers a day. So when i'm out doing xmas shopping, running errands, working out, going on walks etc i'll get myself into interactions.
I'm still confused though on how i should be approaching my game and what i should be working on. I like the outline tyler described in the foundations basically open, hook, touch, vibe, #, venue change, extract.
The confusion for me is there so many different ways of doing each step. For example you can hook with stories, cocky funny/flirty banter, cold reads,different routines, negs, interavtive value demonstrations, qualfying to name a few.
I'm assuming the answer would be to play around with lots of different ways and keep pushing forward.
So based on that, heres my plan for mexico. I'm going to keep that general outline in my head and use that as navigation and play around with different tools. I will force myself to go for a picture and number in every interaction i have which will be fun a lot of fun (i'll also do this in the US)
So the on going game plan will be to play around with different stuff yet use that general structure as a guide and pushing it to each wav point.
Last Fridays Outing report
I've been gone since saturday visting a friend, got back in on tuesday so not much to say for game. I will update on the day game and night game from friday though.
On friday i went out and did some day game sets, i called carl and asked him to give me a random word to open with and the word was mocking bird, so i go up to a chick and come up with a story about how a mocking bird attacked me. Didn't last though, i told it to her and that was that. It felt cool though doing it like that since it pushed me to be more creative.
I also opened a two set and asked them for directions and ended up getting into a conversation with them. I felt pretty high value in the set they were pretty average looking but this one girl had some HUGE tits. I did a couple more sets, i'd ask how to get some where then make jokes about how i don't want to walk that far and they should escort me there etc. There were a few more sets but i can't really remeber oh yeah there was one set with this really hot girl she was on the phone forever though after she got off i asked her if she was stalking me etc and she played into it, it was fun, but i wasn't paying attention and we ended up walking different directions so it ended right there.
I also went out at night. I warmed up asking people for directions etc then talking more after. I kept asking sets probably opened about 6 sets then i ran into a friend from highschool. He was happy to see me and told me to go to the bar down the street to meet up with another highschool friend. I kinda cringed at this but i said what the hell and went there. My friend freaks out. His game is actually really good, he basically goes out and gets drunk but still has game, i think it came from being out so much, his uncle owns a foreign nightclub which he worked at every night for a year being a bouncer, tending bar and just hanging out, he also travels to europe a lot and parties hard through that scene, it would be intersting to see how he does when hes not drunk but he gets attraction etc when drunk.
So he freaks out and get the attention of the whole bar by screaming and saying that the coolest guy ever has just walked into the bar, it was pretty funny. He was with another guy i knew from highschool and some girl that was with the other guy. I became a fan of his game that night and observed him.
When we were out he would open anyone and amog guys like hell. He went up to a guy and a girl that were hugging and joined into the hug with them and the smiled at them, then the guy said thanks man and my friend replied with no the hug was for her and pointed at the girl that guy was with and smiled. The guy just stood there confused as the girl laughed.
We kept walking and basically he kept throwing remarks around to people, chatting people etc. He ran out of cigs and kept asking for them and patting people on the back. He would always seem to out amog guys by being loud and hitting them on the back and when a guy would hit him back on the back he would hit them again on the back, he always one upped them. Being with him actually pumped my state.
We went to the place his uncle owns and hung out there for awhile i bailed though since it was getting late.
Its very interesting to watch him work, hes unreactive, tolerates social pressure, does a lot of touching (to guys and girls), and generally has a i don't give a fuck attitude. This is all when hes drunk though and i haven't seen him game not drunk and i don't think he'd be able to approach cold without being drunk but who knows. Anyways friday was intersting and pretty fun just felt like a party pooper since i wasn't drinking and he was in this amazing state and i think he wanted me to be feeling just as amazing as him.
On friday i went out and did some day game sets, i called carl and asked him to give me a random word to open with and the word was mocking bird, so i go up to a chick and come up with a story about how a mocking bird attacked me. Didn't last though, i told it to her and that was that. It felt cool though doing it like that since it pushed me to be more creative.
I also opened a two set and asked them for directions and ended up getting into a conversation with them. I felt pretty high value in the set they were pretty average looking but this one girl had some HUGE tits. I did a couple more sets, i'd ask how to get some where then make jokes about how i don't want to walk that far and they should escort me there etc. There were a few more sets but i can't really remeber oh yeah there was one set with this really hot girl she was on the phone forever though after she got off i asked her if she was stalking me etc and she played into it, it was fun, but i wasn't paying attention and we ended up walking different directions so it ended right there.
I also went out at night. I warmed up asking people for directions etc then talking more after. I kept asking sets probably opened about 6 sets then i ran into a friend from highschool. He was happy to see me and told me to go to the bar down the street to meet up with another highschool friend. I kinda cringed at this but i said what the hell and went there. My friend freaks out. His game is actually really good, he basically goes out and gets drunk but still has game, i think it came from being out so much, his uncle owns a foreign nightclub which he worked at every night for a year being a bouncer, tending bar and just hanging out, he also travels to europe a lot and parties hard through that scene, it would be intersting to see how he does when hes not drunk but he gets attraction etc when drunk.
So he freaks out and get the attention of the whole bar by screaming and saying that the coolest guy ever has just walked into the bar, it was pretty funny. He was with another guy i knew from highschool and some girl that was with the other guy. I became a fan of his game that night and observed him.
When we were out he would open anyone and amog guys like hell. He went up to a guy and a girl that were hugging and joined into the hug with them and the smiled at them, then the guy said thanks man and my friend replied with no the hug was for her and pointed at the girl that guy was with and smiled. The guy just stood there confused as the girl laughed.
We kept walking and basically he kept throwing remarks around to people, chatting people etc. He ran out of cigs and kept asking for them and patting people on the back. He would always seem to out amog guys by being loud and hitting them on the back and when a guy would hit him back on the back he would hit them again on the back, he always one upped them. Being with him actually pumped my state.
We went to the place his uncle owns and hung out there for awhile i bailed though since it was getting late.
Its very interesting to watch him work, hes unreactive, tolerates social pressure, does a lot of touching (to guys and girls), and generally has a i don't give a fuck attitude. This is all when hes drunk though and i haven't seen him game not drunk and i don't think he'd be able to approach cold without being drunk but who knows. Anyways friday was intersting and pretty fun just felt like a party pooper since i wasn't drinking and he was in this amazing state and i think he wanted me to be feeling just as amazing as him.
Saturday, December 16, 2006
Fashion list
I roll up to the mall yesterday to hot topic and the usual clothes confusion thing happens. I'm in there looking at stuff with no idea of what it is i'm trying to do but now i have a list!
Chill Shoes
Night Out Shoes
Boots
Nice Jeans
Cool T- Shirts (with designs and symbols, or cool art)
Funny T-shirts (funny things written on them)
Dress shirts
Sweaters (for particular low key events)
Blazers (diff colors)
Badass leather jacket (low cut and long)
Rings
Necklaces
Wrist Cuffs
Watch
Hats/headwear
Props (Rose, camera, Candy necklace (guy in my lair wore a candy necklace this out one night and girls wanted a piecie and he said they could have one but they can only use there mouth to get it off so he was getting girls sucking on his neck all night made for good pics) and obviously there alot more things i could use that i can't think of right now)
Other basic stuff (condoms, gum/mints, pen, paper, wrist charms to give to girls you number close so they can remeber you (grungey did this))
This list looks so simple now and it would be hard to believe that figuring with out was tough as fuck, i've been confused on what it was i was trying to do forever it seems. Grungey helped a lot in the summer, but we just focused on the shoes/jeans/T-shirt and accesory part and i only ended up getting the jeans/t-shirt and some accesories.
I have to thank Carl for clearing this up for me, now i actually know what i need to be buying and what parts i'm already missing, so the next purchases for me will be chill shoes, a blazer and a camera. From here i can keep adding on and buy more stuff soon considering poker goes well which it is.
Ok so this post is getting to long and i also have Day game and Night game to post about later but right now i gotta do cardio and other errands.
Chill Shoes
Night Out Shoes
Boots
Nice Jeans
Cool T- Shirts (with designs and symbols, or cool art)
Funny T-shirts (funny things written on them)
Dress shirts
Sweaters (for particular low key events)
Blazers (diff colors)
Badass leather jacket (low cut and long)
Rings
Necklaces
Wrist Cuffs
Watch
Hats/headwear
Props (Rose, camera, Candy necklace (guy in my lair wore a candy necklace this out one night and girls wanted a piecie and he said they could have one but they can only use there mouth to get it off so he was getting girls sucking on his neck all night made for good pics) and obviously there alot more things i could use that i can't think of right now)
Other basic stuff (condoms, gum/mints, pen, paper, wrist charms to give to girls you number close so they can remeber you (grungey did this))
This list looks so simple now and it would be hard to believe that figuring with out was tough as fuck, i've been confused on what it was i was trying to do forever it seems. Grungey helped a lot in the summer, but we just focused on the shoes/jeans/T-shirt and accesory part and i only ended up getting the jeans/t-shirt and some accesories.
I have to thank Carl for clearing this up for me, now i actually know what i need to be buying and what parts i'm already missing, so the next purchases for me will be chill shoes, a blazer and a camera. From here i can keep adding on and buy more stuff soon considering poker goes well which it is.
Ok so this post is getting to long and i also have Day game and Night game to post about later but right now i gotta do cardio and other errands.
Thursday, December 14, 2006
Second Night Out
So tonight started out with me pretty excited to get in sets. I get out and see lots of girls heading to a particular venue which had a cover so i figured i hit that last after i was warm. I walked up the street more and headed to my first stop thinking i'd do my warm ups there. But i didn't. So hop to the next bar...damn another cover so i head back up the street to another bar and still don't a single set. At this point i say fuck it i'll go pay for the first place and sarge it open. There were lots chicks in line etc, yet i didn't open i was so out of state and in my head. I get inside and its crowded as fuck, to the point where everyone is trying to get arround everyone else in addition to loud music. Now i'm not trying to make excuses but that shit was tough to work but i know it can be done so i'm going to learn. (Crazy clothes, high fiving everyone are some ideas that come to my head to try out)
So still approach less i roll to another bar which has the same situation as the other. Its so frustrating seeing all those sets but not approaching, it was a bad cycle. Carl kept me going though and tried to help yet still didn't approach.
I finally left and was pretty pissed, pissed to the point where i didn't care any more (which was actually good) so i opened a 3 set 1guy 2girls on the street which went better than i thought it would and this got me more in state. I opened with asking them how to get to a particular bar then kept chatting them afterwards. I got into more sets after that and they are actually tough to remeber since they all start blending together since the night life shit is wild and feels like a big blob of lights music people and noise.
I ran into some old friends from high school and it was hype seeing them but sort of weird, i felt myself going back into a highschool frame in which they had higher value to me which was frustrating, i want to have so much life experience to the point that its impossible for me to revert back to some lame high school frame.
Anyways i roll into the bar some girl is at the top of the stairs asking for gum i practice on her, spin her, ask her the opener (gf kissing another girl= cheating?) yet she was incoherent and didn't make any since so i fucked around with her until it died and i rolled in the bar
A girl bumps into me dancing at the bar so i tell her to put her hand up and i spin her and she starts dancing on me all sexy and asks me my name and i tell her to guess and if gets it right as a prize she gets to kiss me. She started guessing then her friend passed by and she ran and freaked out on her.
I left that bar and down the stairs i opened a chick which took the opener really fucking serious. She kept talking about it i tried to bust on her and get her off it but she just kept talking. We ended up talking about other stuff, she seemed a lot more conservative and wasn't drunk i don't think she even drank that night. We went outside and kept talking it actually felt like a day game set, she asked my name etc and we kept talking must of been for about 6-10min. She said something about it being random but fun and i said meeting new people is pretty fun or something on those lines
I want to do more sets so i walk around and open some more sets that i don't really remeber. I do remeber 3set that was walking and i said it and one girl answered as if she was mad that i even asked them, but i can understand why these girls come off so hard to approach like that. I saw guys all night doing stupid shit, almost like there so frustrated that they see a smoking hot chick and can't have her (or probably don't know how to meet them) that they scream all sorts of anger coated sexual comments (like i saw one guy pass a short guy and say, I LIKE SHORT GIRLS HAHAHAHA and laugh with his friend, lots of whistles, turning back at girls and say DAMN GIRL DAMN, all sorts of people approaching them with shit like that its a wonder they come off mean)
Some drunk dude talks to me for awhile about his night and situation so i talked figured it was getting some sort of experience under my belt.
After bars let out seems like people are really crazy and a lot of guys like to run deep with there boys and scream shit at random people. Some guy in a group was like YO MAN BE THIS GUYS FRIEND BE HIS FRIEND and lifted the guys hand up towards me like he wanted me to shake it or something, i just kept walking.
Any how that was the night, ended on 7sets and comments here and there to random people. It sucked really bad to start out and thats because i didn't warm up! Warming up is mandatory just like it is with weight lifting. But i'am proud that i stuck with it. I'm also proud of myself for showing up like Carl mentioned, i don't know anyone outside of the community that would even consider going out alone. I'm out, until tomorrow.
So still approach less i roll to another bar which has the same situation as the other. Its so frustrating seeing all those sets but not approaching, it was a bad cycle. Carl kept me going though and tried to help yet still didn't approach.
I finally left and was pretty pissed, pissed to the point where i didn't care any more (which was actually good) so i opened a 3 set 1guy 2girls on the street which went better than i thought it would and this got me more in state. I opened with asking them how to get to a particular bar then kept chatting them afterwards. I got into more sets after that and they are actually tough to remeber since they all start blending together since the night life shit is wild and feels like a big blob of lights music people and noise.
I ran into some old friends from high school and it was hype seeing them but sort of weird, i felt myself going back into a highschool frame in which they had higher value to me which was frustrating, i want to have so much life experience to the point that its impossible for me to revert back to some lame high school frame.
Anyways i roll into the bar some girl is at the top of the stairs asking for gum i practice on her, spin her, ask her the opener (gf kissing another girl= cheating?) yet she was incoherent and didn't make any since so i fucked around with her until it died and i rolled in the bar
A girl bumps into me dancing at the bar so i tell her to put her hand up and i spin her and she starts dancing on me all sexy and asks me my name and i tell her to guess and if gets it right as a prize she gets to kiss me. She started guessing then her friend passed by and she ran and freaked out on her.
I left that bar and down the stairs i opened a chick which took the opener really fucking serious. She kept talking about it i tried to bust on her and get her off it but she just kept talking. We ended up talking about other stuff, she seemed a lot more conservative and wasn't drunk i don't think she even drank that night. We went outside and kept talking it actually felt like a day game set, she asked my name etc and we kept talking must of been for about 6-10min. She said something about it being random but fun and i said meeting new people is pretty fun or something on those lines
I want to do more sets so i walk around and open some more sets that i don't really remeber. I do remeber 3set that was walking and i said it and one girl answered as if she was mad that i even asked them, but i can understand why these girls come off so hard to approach like that. I saw guys all night doing stupid shit, almost like there so frustrated that they see a smoking hot chick and can't have her (or probably don't know how to meet them) that they scream all sorts of anger coated sexual comments (like i saw one guy pass a short guy and say, I LIKE SHORT GIRLS HAHAHAHA and laugh with his friend, lots of whistles, turning back at girls and say DAMN GIRL DAMN, all sorts of people approaching them with shit like that its a wonder they come off mean)
Some drunk dude talks to me for awhile about his night and situation so i talked figured it was getting some sort of experience under my belt.
After bars let out seems like people are really crazy and a lot of guys like to run deep with there boys and scream shit at random people. Some guy in a group was like YO MAN BE THIS GUYS FRIEND BE HIS FRIEND and lifted the guys hand up towards me like he wanted me to shake it or something, i just kept walking.
Any how that was the night, ended on 7sets and comments here and there to random people. It sucked really bad to start out and thats because i didn't warm up! Warming up is mandatory just like it is with weight lifting. But i'am proud that i stuck with it. I'm also proud of myself for showing up like Carl mentioned, i don't know anyone outside of the community that would even consider going out alone. I'm out, until tomorrow.
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